My friend was sexually harassed last night. Need urgent help!

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        February 21, 2025 at 10:54 am
        My friend (29f) went on a date with a guy she met on bumble in Bangalore. She planned on meeting in a restaurant but she was kind of sick so he insisted that they grab dinner at his place. He was sweet a first, and they had dinner, then he started asking weird questions like her health and medical issues, if she could get married by month end without informing family, when she wanted to conceive, can she immediately try to conceive after marriage and she dodged all of these questions. She started looking on his phone and thinking of ways to excuse herself. Then he pinned her on the bed, stripped her and said that โ€˜youโ€™re my wife nowโ€™. He forced himself on her and she tried to resist as much as she could. She cupped her private parts with her palms and soon he came on her belly. Then he asked her to go wash herself and she immediately rushed out in a shock.

        Sheโ€™s gonna lodge a complaint soon but what can she expect during the entire process. Weโ€™re clueless.

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          February 21, 2025 at 10:58 am
          Who goes to a stranger’s house so easily, your friend should learn to be more careful.

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              February 21, 2025 at 11:00 am
              Oh here comes the victim blaming. Have you no shame?

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                  February 21, 2025 at 11:02 am
                  Do you have any common sense? This is facts, can you say what is wrong in my words?

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                    February 21, 2025 at 11:03 am
                    That predator should be jailed no doubt but saying that going to a random man’s house is victim blaming is PEAK MENTAL GYMNASTICS. This particular scenario could have been avoided.

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                      February 21, 2025 at 11:03 am
                      What else was she thinking would happen if she visited a strangers place??

                      You need to be mentally prepared as this will definitely come up during police probe

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                        February 21, 2025 at 11:14 am
                        If police asks, would you say the same to them?

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                          February 21, 2025 at 11:14 am
                          Come on, use some brain cells before typing something.

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                          February 21, 2025 at 11:02 am
                          How is this a relevant comment when the post was seeking information about the legal process?

                          Reading what happened and then deciding it’s time for you to pass commentary about the assaulted person’s action is a poor choice. Do you think the victim doesn’t know that it was a mistake to trust this person and be in that position after what he did to her?

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                              February 21, 2025 at 11:04 am
                              So give a good ‘legal advice’

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                                February 21, 2025 at 11:10 am
                                It is part of the advice, she could have easily prevent this from happening next time if she is more careful.

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                                    February 21, 2025 at 11:15 am
                                    This is NOT LEGAL ADVICE. This is your personal opinion on what this woman should have done, as if that is going to change what happened or provide anything of substance or relevance to the victim.

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                                  February 21, 2025 at 11:19 am
                                  Stop with the victim blaming ffs.

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                                  February 21, 2025 at 10:58 am
                                  File a complaint..just go to the police asap… he’s an predator he gonna do this again

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                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:01 am
                                      Yes, sheโ€™s going to lodge a complaint soon but we want to know what to expect from the entire process, what evidences to have, what police can ask for.

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                                          February 21, 2025 at 11:04 am
                                          You got cctv evidence??? Get a copy for you…it’s all happened in the restaurant right

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                                              February 21, 2025 at 11:04 am
                                              Happened at his home, but neighbours must have cctv.

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                                                  February 21, 2025 at 11:06 am
                                                  It’s kinda messed up tho…it’s his home ..plus no eye witness…it’s gonna be Hard … what’s girl age tho? If she’s a minor it’s gonna cover in posco act

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                                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:07 am
                                                      Still hope for best

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                                                  February 21, 2025 at 11:05 am
                                                  Nothing needed for now. Statement is enough to file FIR

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                                                    February 21, 2025 at 11:10 am
                                                    happen to one of my friend she went on date with guy , who said he is great cook to her wonder it was just whole home with no furniture she sat and talked with that guy in panic and he sexually assaulted her and she say she was dumb and not careful and she said she cheated his bf did this thing and i said nothing bcs what else i can say.

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                                                  February 21, 2025 at 11:01 am
                                                  Immediate complaint , maybe public humiliation

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                                                    February 21, 2025 at 11:02 am
                                                    Just go to women police station already

                                                    Keep all the chats, take screenshot and all. Call recording. Her location history. Pics taken with him, at his place etc.

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                                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:06 am
                                                      This was sexual assault, not harassment.

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                                                        February 21, 2025 at 11:07 am
                                                        Gosh, I’m so sorry to hear all this. Ignore all victim shaming messages… your friend needs support rn. Itโ€™s good that she has you by her side. What happened is horrific, n she deserves justice. She should immediately get a medical examination and consult a good advocate to file a strong, detailed complaint. The perpetrator must be held accountable. Make sure she has emotional support through this process

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                                                            February 21, 2025 at 11:09 am
                                                            There was no penetration so would they be able to procure anything substantial from the medical exam?

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                                                                February 21, 2025 at 11:11 am
                                                                Just go to a lawyer already. We don’t know what exactly happened it’s better to visit a lawyer nearby and get consulted.

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                                                                  February 21, 2025 at 11:13 am
                                                                  victim does not need proof. Burden lies on guy

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                                                                    February 21, 2025 at 11:15 am
                                                                    You have mentioned that the guy ejaculated so they may find some samples on clothes.

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                                                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:24 am
                                                                      Please understand that your not a lawyer, so you may not fully grasp what legally constitutes rape or sexual assault and all the nuances involved. The best course of action is to consult a good advocate immediately, as time is crucial in such cases. A legal expert will guide you on the necessary steps and evidence required especially regarding the medical which requires immediate action.

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                                                                          February 21, 2025 at 11:26 am
                                                                          She has called a lawyer friend and theyโ€™re going to lodge a complaint. Iโ€™m just the first person she told this to and trying to help in whatever way I can.

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                                                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:09 am
                                                                      Just an advice, donโ€™t waste time in lodging the complaint while seeking for advice on online forums. This is a great subreddit, but seeking information online can happen in parallel. The more you delay lodging the complaint the more questions you would be asked by the police. Get a lawyer if you have pressing questions that you need answered.

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                                                                        February 21, 2025 at 11:12 am
                                                                        Ask her to post his pic on social media. So everyone is aware.

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                                                                          February 21, 2025 at 11:12 am
                                                                          she can file FIR by visiting police station. Take help of u/st_broseph and visit police station because if she visits alone. Cops won’t take her seriously abs victim blame

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                                                                            February 21, 2025 at 11:13 am
                                                                            Please contact u/st_broseph

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                                                                              February 21, 2025 at 11:13 am
                                                                              Get in touch with St Broseph. He’s a social worker based out of BLR.

                                                                              https://www.reddit.com/u/St_Broseph/s/ApNB654rqP

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                                                                                February 21, 2025 at 11:14 am
                                                                                Is it that easy to strip a person of their clothes??????

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                                                                                  February 21, 2025 at 11:17 am
                                                                                  Hi lawyer here, just store the proofs for the future. But go to the nearest police station and lodge a complaint asap. Do not delay. All you will need as of now will be the name of the boy, his photo if any, his phone number and address

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                                                                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:19 am
                                                                                      At the cost of your friend having to relive the entire situation please ask her to lodge a complaint in detail and read it before signing it. Please also ask her to take a copy of it and ensure that an FIR is lodged on it

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                                                                                      February 21, 2025 at 11:28 am
                                                                                      NAL

                                                                                      Contact women’s helpline. Although, the state our country is right now, they’ll pin the whole thing in the girl saying that this wasn’t sexual abuse/harassment as she gave her consent to the guy by agreeing to go to his place

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                                                                                        February 21, 2025 at 11:42 am
                                                                                        Please tell your friend to see a doctor too

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