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        I am a resident in Germany with Macedonian nationality. My long distance Girlfriend is in India and I donโ€™t know how to help her, nor does she have anyone that would help her. Here is her current situation.

        – Is 20 years old
        – Comes from a Muslim family
        – wants to convert to Christianity but is scared of what her family would do to her
        – Her family abuses her verbally every other day if not every day
        – not allowed to leave her home
        – even if she leaves her house, she is scared of the outside world.
        – Her mother will be coming back to India in 3-4 months. God knows what she will do to her.

        Is there any advice on this predicament? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

        Best regards

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          March 1, 2025 at 7:45 am
          As much as what’s mentioned is quite the norm in muslim family .. there’s an equal chance of catfishing โœŒ๏ธ

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            March 1, 2025 at 7:51 am
            broโ€ฆ.youโ€™re being embroiled in a long con. this just screams โ€˜scamโ€™ to me. cut your losses. run, donโ€™t look back.

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              March 1, 2025 at 7:56 am
              She may be a faker and time passer. Have you ever met in real?

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                March 1, 2025 at 7:57 am
                A 20yo with childhood trauma will always be scared of their parents even if they become financially independent. Ask her to see a therapist if possible, that might help them to overcome this fear.

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                  March 1, 2025 at 8:19 am
                  simply tell her to apply for passport and buy her a one way ticket for your country thats it

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                    March 1, 2025 at 8:35 am
                    Make sure she is legit and if she wants out – you must be ready to host her and probably in the future can marry. Thatโ€™s the way.

                    Muslim/islamic parents are tough and inhumane at times to their girl child.

                    No one can stop you guys from eloping. Good luck.

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                        March 1, 2025 at 9:42 am
                        Indian parents*

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                            March 1, 2025 at 10:20 pm
                            She is

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                          March 1, 2025 at 8:36 am
                          OP pls be careful, it can be romance scam/pig butcher scam

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                              March 1, 2025 at 10:56 pm
                              Donโ€™t worry. Sheโ€™s legit.

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                                  March 2, 2025 at 1:33 am
                                  You keep saying that but you haven’t replied to the comments which asks have you video called. If you haven’t, how can you say she is legit

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                                      March 2, 2025 at 4:12 am
                                      And video calls do shit really. All its proving you are speaking to a live person and everything else in her sob story would be false.

                                      This whole convert to Christianity thing is nonsense. Shes adult female. If shes genuine and OP genuinely wants to help, can file her immigrant visas and fly her out. He/She doesnt need anyone’s permission. And all that conversion can happen while she is in Germany.

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                                  March 1, 2025 at 8:47 am
                                  CH*tpagal hai kya

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                                    March 1, 2025 at 8:49 am
                                    Bro you’re in Germany, why are you even dating an Undian muslim in the first place??? You got so many good lookin babes out there. Go get one of them

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                                        March 1, 2025 at 10:19 pm
                                        How about no? Iโ€™m not interested in German women.

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                                            March 2, 2025 at 12:36 pm
                                            Ye toh relatable ho gaya ๐ŸŒš

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                                          March 1, 2025 at 8:52 am
                                          Fake Girlfrand Scam

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                                              March 1, 2025 at 9:26 pm
                                              Keep assuming

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                                                  March 2, 2025 at 4:23 am
                                                  Did you ever have a video call with her? And thereโ€™s a reason so many people here are saying it maybe a scam. Donโ€™t be delusional.

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                                                March 1, 2025 at 9:13 am
                                                S C A M

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                                                    March 1, 2025 at 9:25 pm
                                                    A S S U M E

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                                                    March 1, 2025 at 9:27 am
                                                    If she wants to become a Christian, she surely would have been in touch with Christian preachers or organizations on the ground who will be able to help her, financially and otherwise. That would honestly be the only feasible option for her.

                                                    Whatever you do, please don’t send her money.

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                                                      March 1, 2025 at 9:50 am
                                                      I am sorry but this sounds little off. Letโ€™s assume she is actually a Muslim girl from very conservative family then how come she is in dating sites, that too Christian dating site which is not very common. If she wants to convert, she could do it in India itself and she is an adult so she doesnโ€™t even need parents permission.
                                                      Please donโ€™t send any money. Also I would not believe Aadhaar card and passport things too as those can be of some other girl and some fake person using it. I once faced this kind of scammer who provided fake documents.
                                                      Tell her to contact any church or women helpline or police station. Do not travel for her and send anything. Itโ€™s better to take precautions than regret later.

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                                                          March 2, 2025 at 5:05 am
                                                          she will get killed if she converts in india.

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                                                          March 1, 2025 at 10:39 am
                                                          Cut โœ‚๏ธ gya bro

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                                                            March 1, 2025 at 10:42 am
                                                            As an Indian, 80% chance that you are being scammed

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                                                              March 1, 2025 at 10:53 am
                                                              Did you ever have a live video chat with her?

                                                              Not just where she is looking directly at the camera all the time but also looks side ways and turns her body. (This breaks the scammer’s male to female filter)

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                                                                March 1, 2025 at 1:35 pm
                                                                The first thing any oppressed girl/person is not allowed is communication like Internet, phone.

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                                                                    March 2, 2025 at 1:33 am
                                                                    So there’s only one definition of oppression?

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                                                                        March 2, 2025 at 2:21 pm
                                                                        The one where you have access to communication still staying there waiting for some stranger you never met to save you. You know what in that case it does.

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                                                                      March 1, 2025 at 2:22 pm
                                                                      She is gold digging her way out of India. Any religion, any ethnicity would do for giving up Indian citizenship.

                                                                      Get your girlfriend from your country. Don’t give up on your religion, identity, culture, food, and country.

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                                                                          March 1, 2025 at 10:58 pm
                                                                          What do you mean give up on my religion, identity, culture, food and country? I havenโ€™t

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                                                                          March 1, 2025 at 2:35 pm
                                                                          Whatever u do don’t come to India, if this is a scam she could file a case against u and u won’t be allowed to leave India until the case is over

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                                                                              March 1, 2025 at 5:27 pm
                                                                              Oh damn this a thing too?

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                                                                                  March 2, 2025 at 5:07 am
                                                                                  yes one girl filed fake rape case and moved to canada. the guy had to visit court many times but the girl never showed up.

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                                                                                      March 2, 2025 at 5:24 am
                                                                                      Oh man ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

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                                                                                          March 2, 2025 at 5:42 am
                                                                                          yes. he couldnt leave city as court would keep giving new dates.

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                                                                                              March 2, 2025 at 9:32 am
                                                                                              That’s so messed up

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                                                                                      March 1, 2025 at 2:52 pm
                                                                                      Hey I got a bridge to sell to you ? ๐Ÿ˜‰

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                                                                                        March 1, 2025 at 3:48 pm
                                                                                        Are you really that desperate?

                                                                                        /S

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                                                                                          March 1, 2025 at 6:23 pm
                                                                                          Bro you are being catfished by someone who is not at all interested in you. She is gonna get that visa and dump you. It’s not worth the hassle, you don’t have any valid means to confirm the condition of her

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                                                                                            March 1, 2025 at 6:25 pm
                                                                                            She should file a complaint in the police station. Many missionaries will happily convert her and give her financial assistance(cost of a lawyer, shelter home, etc).

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                                                                                              March 1, 2025 at 7:57 pm
                                                                                              I bet โ‚น1000 that you’re talking to a 30-year-old guy with two kids, not a 20-year-old girl, lol.

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                                                                                                  March 1, 2025 at 10:59 pm
                                                                                                  Give me the lakh because you lost

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                                                                                                      March 2, 2025 at 4:25 am
                                                                                                      Thatโ€™s 1000, not 1,00,000

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                                                                                                          March 2, 2025 at 6:15 am
                                                                                                          My bad

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                                                                                                          March 2, 2025 at 9:18 am
                                                                                                          Have you ever met her in person or talked on a video call?

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                                                                                                          March 2, 2025 at 5:27 am
                                                                                                          He is talking to himself. Seems a mental case since his mother reverted to Islam 9 months back.

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                                                                                                          March 1, 2025 at 7:59 pm
                                                                                                          This guy might have already lost thousands of dollars for this scam..

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                                                                                                              March 1, 2025 at 9:24 pm
                                                                                                              Lol keep assuming

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                                                                                                              March 1, 2025 at 10:34 pm
                                                                                                              Get a new GF mate. And stay off the internet for one. Want an Indian GF, go to India. This shit ainโ€™t real

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                                                                                                                March 1, 2025 at 11:00 pm
                                                                                                                Before we delve into this “girlfriend”

                                                                                                                1) A guy with MGTOW in their username is simping this hard for a girl he has never met in real life. Sounds quite contradicting.

                                                                                                                2) In another post, you mentioned your mother converting to Islam. So mother is Christian converted to Islam, gf is Islam wanting to convert to Orthodox Christianity. Very coincidental, I would say.

                                                                                                                Now this gf.

                                                                                                                1) A muslim girl named Heba from India, a very rare Muslim name for Indian girls tbh.

                                                                                                                2) You have never met her, or video called, but you are in love?

                                                                                                                There is a high probability that 1) You are either making up such stupidity, or 2) You are telling the truth. In case, you are telling the truth, as others have warned you, there is a high probability of it being a catfishing scam, where she will perhaps ask you for money to travel from India to your country, and then dupe you into giving your money.

                                                                                                                In the rarest plausible chance that all of this is actually true, she still has an extremely difficult task ahead of her, which you should consider and decide whether you really want to be involved in all this bs.

                                                                                                                Now if you are that 1 in a million person who is telling the truth, she is telling the truth and you both actually want to execute this, then ensure her safety by making sure she emancipates when she has enough money to sustain herself atleast in India. Then you can worry about how to bring her to your country.

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                                                                                                                    March 2, 2025 at 6:14 am
                                                                                                                    1. if you tell me how to change my username, sure. Iโ€™ll get rid of it
                                                                                                                    2. I have enough worries to deal with in my life. Why would I lie about stuff like this?

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                                                                                                                    March 1, 2025 at 11:43 pm
                                                                                                                    She is afraid to go outside? She doesn’t video call you? You are being catfished and by the way you are responding, it is pretty clear you are going to send “her” money, plane tickets, and whatever else she asks for.

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                                                                                                                      March 2, 2025 at 2:22 am
                                                                                                                      Good luck with this mah dude! If you are ever meeting her in India, you could be jailed on rape charges, all she need to do is you had sex on the promise of a marriage. So be aware

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                                                                                                                        March 2, 2025 at 2:39 am
                                                                                                                        Seen a lot of your replies to comments and have to say, either she’s not all there in the brain department or I’m going to have to agree with most people here and say it’s some sort of long game scam but still not all there in the brain department… Sorry but “too scared to go outside” she showed you her Adhaar and Passport, if her parents were that toxic she wouldn’t even have a passport or it would be locked up in a safe so she couldn’t get to it, that’s the major red flag right there, if you still believe the story after listening to 99% of these comments, honestly fair enough you deserve to be scammed, and hope it goes well for you.

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                                                                                                                          Bro, are you sure you are not getting scammed?

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                                                                                                                              I am. I already offered multiple times to help her financially. She refused.

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                                                                                                                              Scamster vibe

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                                                                                                                                Dude. People are telling you the realities in India and you are yet refusing to believe. We are experts in creating sob stories. Specially with those living outside knowing the benefits that flow in the form of gifts, financial assistance and what not.

                                                                                                                                Not saying in your case it’s not genuine but just cross the tees and dot the i’s. You will regret it before you know it.

                                                                                                                                With that said. What’s her mother doing outside india.

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                                                                                                                                    Her mother works as a nurse in Saudi Arabia

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                                                                                                                                    9 months back your mother reverted to Islam. 6 months back someone tried to revert you to Islam & now you are claiming that your Muslim long distance GF wants to convert to orthodox Christianity? It seems your mother reverting to Islam & your sufferings in foster care had some negative impact on your mental health. Meet specialist.

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                                                                                                                                        Tried to revert me? I was never a Muslim in the first place.

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                                                                                                                                        Scam 101 .

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                                                                                                                                          Where does she live

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                                                                                                                                            OP you have no way of knowing if what she says is true. You need a friend or contact in India to verify your girlfriend and her allegations. If it is true, then your contact can arrange for her to leave her home and then buy tickets to leave the country. Try and get someone in India to help you.

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