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U20f my grandmother recently passed away and left a house for me. My aunt and mother are eyeing for the house, my mother will only let me stay if I give her 80 percent of the money after selling the house and my aunt is asking my mom to send me to her place to stay. My aunt is planning to entangle me up with his son somehow and get me married to him so they get the property. What’s the best course of action I can take , ig I don’t do anything either I will be sent to my aunts place or will be dead.
Edit : thanks for all your advice and suggestions and sorry for not responding ( i was dealing with health issues and was shifting to another relatives place who was close to my Nani and better than rest of my family in terms of trusting her with my life ). I will be getting back at my lawyer and transferring the house to my and making a will simultaneously.
There ain’t any family member I fully trust after this and many more incidents which have happened in past so I’m planning to make my close family friend as power of attorney who won’t rat out to my family, as well as writing a nc against my mom would cause me more damage than advantage as the police in near by jurisdiction has pretty good connections with my mom.
The whole point is my mom wanting to get control over me as she knows once I leave the city there ain’t a way I’m coming back( as I have funds and all resources) to this place and the place I’m planning to go to college is where my aunt lives and she has brainwashed my mom into thinking if I stay with them she( mom) would always have control over me. At this moment all I can do his soothe my mom’s ego and give a false hope while preparing the funds to leave. Once again thanks for all your inputs and definitely all your suggestions has helped to get at this decision. I’m not planning sell this house untile all my other options are out of picture , this is the last memory i have of her
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QApproach a bank and take their help to arrange an education loan or personal loan against the mortgage of property as soon as possible and till that happens seek protection from police by writing an email to the police commissioner/superintendent of your area and go meet him personally he can then send policemen to warn those who are trying to harm you
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SOption 1: Make a will and get it registered. Let the beneficiary be someone else apart from them. A sibling or even a friend you trust.
Option 2: Form a trust and make the house a trust property.
Option 3: Make a complaint to the police that you face imminent threat to your life at the hands of these women.
Option 4: File a complaint stating that you’re being forcefully married.
Option 5: Suit for injunction against your aunt and mother to permanently injunct them from dispossessing you of the property. Injuncting them from entering that property.
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ANAL, I’m so sorry this is happening to you 🙁 and I’m sorry you lost your gran. Money brings out the absolute worst in peoole and I have learned this the hard way, but even though it happens often that doesn’t mean it’s okay that it happened to you.
First of all, do you have any sort of financial independence? If yes. Are you willing to live independently away from toxic relatives? If yes, does your unique situation present you the opportunity to do that?
Second, I read you’re from Bangalore or Bangalore is involved somehow? If true do reach out to u/StBroseph, he’s a social worker who helps people in complicated situations such as yours.
Third, for now I would recommend saying (not doing) anything to buy time and stall until you can figure things out. (Perhaps eventually renting out the house for passive income if that’s an option? I don’t know the intricacies of your situation)
DO NOT ALLOW A SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE COERCED INTO MARRY SOMEONE.
Remember not to make decisions in haste or when in heightened emotional states. I know things are overwhelming but everything is going to work out! I would offer to help in any way possible and I do make that offer. However I also believe you’ve got this and don’t need any help from me.
PS. Best of luck for your NEET.
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RTake a small loan mortgaging the papers of the house. Alternatively enter into an agreement to sale – not sale deed of your house to a third party. That third party should be extremely close to you. To be on the safe side make a cancellation deed of the agreement to sale. Keep these documents in a safe in a different city. This takes care of the title. Regarding possession you can make an agreement of possession handing over possession to the same person who you made the agreement to sale to. So legally you hand over possession & title.
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UCrazy. Dont marry at your aunt’s place at all, your life is a living hell.
And your mother showed her priorities, so don’t ever feel guilty about removing her off your life. She’ll guilttrip you for sure.
You’re young, i imagine it’ll be difficult for you to fight head on. So don’t tell them straightforward that you won’t give them.
Make fake talks, show fake intentions…and buy yourself time.
Once you start earning enough, get to a different city. Get far away from them.Now, it’ll be difficult for you to live there but if that matters a lot to you and has emotional attachment, get ready to fight for a lifetime.
But if doesn’t matter, sell it as you move to a different city. Sell it and even if you don’t have any investment knowledge, a simple FD would do.
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UDon’t do what they want you to do. Be smart and ask them, aunt what do you suggest I do. Mom what do you suggest I do. You’ll get to know their intentions. Then don’t do it. Excuse yourself with education, exams and what not. Tell them you are not interested in property and will transfer and go abroad for studies. ( Secretly plan to sell the house and fund your education.)
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BLawyer here, this is a pretty straightforward situation where one of the actual legal heirs (i don’t think you are one) needs to first get a surviving member certificate (from the municipal corporation) and then file probate/partition proceedings before the court. In these proceedings, one can get a stay order to prevent any alienation (transfer) of properties and then through a court-mediated settlement ensure that everyone only gets what they are entitled to under law.
All this maneouvering that your aunt seems to be doing will be set at naught if the other legal heirs are smart about it.
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U1. Write a will stating that in case of unnatural death the house goes to some charitable trust. Let them know this fact.
2. Take a loan against the house. Put the house as collateral. Invest loan amount somewhere. Keep this hidden. Dont let them know. If they find some other way to grab house they will have to pay bank loan first
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UHi I’m not a lawyer but I can help you more than any lawyer. I’ve been working in human rights for many years. I advise you to be a member of any human rights organisation. Or join ours. Our family had same situation and we didn’t know what to do. Even lawyers couldn’t do anything then we joined Human rights. My mom got awarded by judge after two years of social work. Now no one has dare to even look at us.
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TIn my opinion you must tell your mom that you will give her 100 Per cent. A.lie offcourse. Ask her to wait as properties is going high year by year. In three years time the price may increase exponentially. Convince her. You will get time to finish your studies and get a job. Prepare your exit plan once you have a place to live. Never tell your boyf as most probably the saying goes ” escaping the frying pan and landing in fire!.
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STake a friend, go to police with a written complaint so u don’t get confused there with all facts name both of them give phone numbers and addresses. Police will warn them.
Then sell house ask for check payment, go to a good CA, pay fees get advice , but a small house or flat far away and invest some …in safe FD or mutual funds.
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UGood thing you live in a country where laws for women protection are pretty solid hence you have few options
1- get a restraining order against your aunt and the son.
2- you are an adult no body can force you to marry(let the local police station know about this)
3- buy sometime and figure something out or hope that things blow over
Either option you chose will lead to a long battle.
Nothing but more power to you from me.
Hoping for a positive reddit post soon. Take care and talk to someone. Don’t let this hold you down more than it should. -
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UYou holding the cards, keep them under your thumb. If they keep the papers, file an FIR that the papers are lost or if you are vindictive against them for wrongful possession.
You hold the cards in the situation, play the character of a bitch and don’t give in. It seems they are just looking to take advantage of you.
If you think they are after your life place cctv in your house and step out only with your friends. You might have anxiety but in this situation it’s normal to be that way. Just kick ass!
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UFirst of all consult a real lawyer and not Reddit so that you can get an idea of all the options available and any legal clauses that you must know.
Second, buy some time on the basis of false promises.
You’ll get out of this mess, just stay calm and try not to engage in an argument/fight with your family at the moment -
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