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Tldr: due to my past abuse from my childhood due to my mother side relatives my mother abused me (physical, emotional and mental and also sometimes molested by my cousin )and due to which i turned out to be with various behavioural issues now for the past 4 years I was unemployed and kinda abusive towards my parents especially my mother so today my father wrote an an application complain to police station to get me admitted into an mental asylum as I’m abusive towards them. Is my career finished as they’ve written in the application that I’m physically and verbally abusive towards them from past years?
Due to past abuse and childhood abuse(physical+ emotional by our relatives side also being molested 2 times by my cousins ) by our mother’s side relatives abusing us I’ve turned out be emotionally ubstable i.e for the past some years I’ve been violent and being unemployed. My parents never cut contacts with them and my mother kept abusing me and my family, always doing fights arguments day and night and my mother always abusing also me being bullied in my school I’ve turned out to be violent and abusive towards my parents. My father started taking me to Counselors and therapist. But root cause wasn’t solved ie my mother and her not cutting contact with her relatives as my father is afraid of her and their marriage was a compromise (my mother don’t like or respect my father)
So I’ve been remaining idle at home and unemployed for the past 4 years due to my trauma and childhood abuse and me being extremely angry towards my parents especially mother for not cutting contact with them and in return abusing me and setting me up for failure. For the past 4 years I’ve been verbally abusive towards my parents and sometimes physically abusive (although it’s justified what all they did to me) so yesterday I’ve had an argument with my mother and I epxosed her abuse towards me and how much she hates me and wants me to be a failure in life because she was abused by her parents so she threatened my father with some reason and my father toda submitted an application complain to a police station near my house that I need to be admitted an mental asylum and hospital as I am abusive towards them.
Now I’ve gone to the police station to take back the application but i don’t know that if my career is finished or not as I’m preparing for govt jobs (as CGL). They’ve given a application to the police station so I can get admitted to asylum and they signed it. Now is my career finished or not . Will be rejected in criminal background check or not. As my name is in records of police
My own parents destroyed my life and I’m thinking of suicide. While writing this my body is getting weak. Don’t trust me but I was just gonna leave my house and gonna shift to a nearby pg by doing a bpo job to get out of my abusive home and they complained to police. Now my career is finished. One thing is clear my doubt was clear my mother really hated me from my childhood. Now she 100% proved it. Also my brother never stopped them.
Is an application submitted to a police station a record for future rejection from jobs?
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UIm so sorry for that, please leave your home ,find a job start living for yourself. Focusing on yourself. Change your life it’s in your hand. Please take care don’t lose hopes ❤️ if you feel like talking please connect.
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SThank you for responding but I still don’t get any detailed answer?? Is my career over? As they have written in the application that I am physically and verbally abusive towards them?is it gonna come in background verification and I am going to be rejected over it? And are you a lawyer and 100% sure? I hope you don’t mind
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ENot a lawyer
Don’t get into legal trouble of cases and al. This will unnecessary waste your youth and your family’s financial condition.
Better to leave the house and say tata bye bye to your family and start a new life somewhere.
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EObviously it will be affected. Be it private or government. They will remove you once they get information on this.
As you don’t have any job and eyeing for government job. Even if you pass any govt exam I’m future this case will come up when they do background check and you will be automatically disqualified.
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UIf they haven’t filed an FIR then it won’t hurt your chances of a government job, your career is not over
If the environment is really that toxic, you should get even a simple job for the time being, getting out of that place will actually help your mental health, if your mother doesn’t care, leave her, that’s a losing battle OP
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Rohh yes because that guy can erase his past records for future jobs, you know your answer is like asking folks not to sit at home or not to vote NOTA and vote in elections full well knowing the choice they have is shit vs shit. Of course he ll try, but he is scared that in the end it might not even matter, and you chose to write “unemployment is your decision” jeez
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EThere’s always a way. You just don’t have to mention that there is case going on on your head when you work on private company. For government job, they will do background check and this will definitely come up.
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Uhey, from the way you have written your post, I can tell you are extremely anxious right now.
Firstly, breathe. A big inhale, hold for 4 secs, and then a big exhale. Do that until you feel better (slowly tho, you don’t wanna feel dizzy!). If that doesn’t work, try putting ice cold water on your wrists. Just get yourself to calm down first so you can think rationally.
Coming to your issue, I understand being frustrated with your parents right now. But being physically abusive is not right at all. Why do you want to be like them? Hitting someone is never, never right. You need to find a job as of now and move out into your own space. Once you do that, you can actually start thriving instead of living. You mentioned you want a govt job. Keep preparing for it, but right now i believe you need to get a job to save your mental health first. Get a job, save up, move out, settle down at your new space and after a few months, start/continue your prep for getting a govt job. You need to plan longterm here.
One rule that I have when I feel extremely suicidal is, that I have to give myself a fresh start to live another type of life, as the current one isn’t serving me. Move out, start a new life. Don’t give up so easily. You’ve got this.
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SBut will my government job because affected? Like will it be an automatic disqualifiier from jobs?
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CHitting someone is right when you have to defend yourself. OP is actually defending physically when they are being abused psychologically. Because OP hasn’t learnt to defend themselves psychologically yet
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Uoh, I thought they weren’t being defensive but offensive with the physical violence as it wasn’t clear on the post.
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CNah. You mentioned that ‘hitting someone is never, never right’
I’m just presenting a situation where it is right. And assuming with my knowledge how victims act. There are no perfect victims.
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UIt will affect your job search. The only jobs you would be able to apply is where they do not conduct background checks.
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