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YMy loving Sister’s married life is very disgusting and frustrating. She had been married since 10 years . Starting years of her married life were normal though some there were some clashes, misunderstandings and lack of respect and understanding in their relationship. Her husband used to quarrel and torture her mentally. She too used to reply and argue in order to make her point clear.
One day he beat her blue and pushed her from bed , she fell on ground and her arm was injured. She some how managed to run from there to our parent’s house and stayed there for about one year while searching for job. She got job and started pursuing her job there. Due to hectic nature of job she left her job after one year and returned to our parents. After about 6 months, on the advice of our parents she decided to patch up and returned to her husband house. She was accompanied by my other sister. Her husband was not present there but her mother-in-law was there. After few days she got pregnant. Her husband took her care but he wanted her to go to our parent’s house as he was not very much interested to take care of her. They took house on rent in our parents city. One day he beated her in her 8 month pregnant condition. She ran and hid in bathroom the whole night. In the morning, our father came to rescue her. Our father tried to explain her husband about changing his toxic nature. Her husband did not accept his mistake and on the contrary blamed her. Our father took her to his house. She stayed with our parents even after her delivery. Her husband used to take her doctor visit whenever he wanted. He used to visit her in our parent’s house and continued to argue and fight there also. When they returned to their house the toxicity continued and she was also burdened to take care of her toxic mother in law. Her husband didn’t change a bit more and nor showed much affection towards their daughter, he even used to beat her, after sometimes my sister again ran from her husband’s house with their daughter to come stay in our parents house, after that if I shorten the story, she took a job to take care of some expenses as she is a doctor, but but earned average, even after everyone tried so hard to convince her to take divorce from her husband, she….. She didn’t do anything about it. She is struggling financially, everyone helps but her husband doesn’t pay for any expense even though he has a very good job and earns a lot. Now her daughter has grown but I think she is about 3 years old and my sister asked for documents and other things about her daughter he refused to bring them to her, so she is going to get it to let her daughter take admission which she alone is handling. Now the thing is I find it crazy why she won’t take divorce, she could get some financial support, etc. But this story was too long if I would have gone in too many details so here was the story of my sister. I have always tried my best to help her but she I think feels good being separated well she still is struggling financially and mentally. My mother takes care of her daughter and tries her best to help. But can anyone suggest something that might be helpful, my sister never has gone to the police or the lawyer we tried our best to convince but she won’t listen. -
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RI know this is a legal advice sub and not a grammar one… but it would really help you fetch more answers if you used more paragraphs in your post.
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WCongratulations to your parents for ruining their daughter’s life and to your sister for ruining the child’s life by deciding to born a child out of such unstable and toxic wed lock.
It’s horrendous how Indian parents push their daughters off the cliff in the name of compromised and adjustment in a marriage
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PIf she’s not willing to go to the lawyer or the police, take her for counselling. She needs emotional support, she may open up and start thinking about her & daughter’s future. Once she is convinced she will be ready to take legal action.
Legally – she has many options at her hand
1. File a criminal case under Section 85 of the Bharatiya Nyaya Sanhita, 2023
2. File a Domestic Violence case seeking civil remedies such as maintenance, protection, counselling, etc. [https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/](https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/)
3. File a maintenance case under BNSS 144 – for herself & for the child – [https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/](https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/)
4. File a Divorce Case on the grounds of cruelty – physical, mental & financial cruelty. [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
Let her keep the record of events such as messages sent, photographs, videos, medical records that show cruelty
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UMost women find it very hard to come out of an abusive relationship .. mostly because she feels her parents won’t support her .. which in your sisters case is correct. Even after such treatment if parents want her to go back to her husband then I have no words . On top of it she went ahead and had a baby .. we wish today’s girls did better than this . You cannot help her . She has to help herself . One day she will .. just be there for her and support her ..
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YYes that is correct!! My parents show they support her but even I don’t think they really want to keep her. It was my parents and I think my siblings and my fault too, because we didn’t check the history of abuse in her husband’s family. Now my father I think is staying in my other sister’s house to help out or something, so yea my sister might get a little comfort in my parent’s house.
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Ppretty sure this abuse was part of her life before getting married. mental torture and beating happened at your house too. that is why she doesn’t wanna get divorced. because this is normal to her. which is the main reason why women won’t leave abusive marriage. id say your parents are mainly to blame. you also know they are abusive, they gaslit your sister into returning to her abuser.
she doesn’t just need legal help alone, she needs to have psychiatric help too. trace back the abuse and conditioning from the childhood.
and before you say anything, siblings experience parental neglect differently. especially if you are a man. just because your parents were nicer to you, doesn’t mean they were to her. and if you are a man you are likely to continue the same abuse to your wife and daughter as well.
as i said, this first requires psychological treatment
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YIt is also one thing I noticed my parents are weird and as indians you might know “have a kid and it will solve your problem” is one of the most used statements used by parents, I don’t know what is on my sister’s mind I feel like my father also doesn’t want her in the house forever and always makes small insults which are really hurtful. Voluntarily? Hate to say it but I think she was irritated by my parents I was not connected well with my parents at that time but it might be due to it. Oh yes my father has gone to my other sister’s house to stay and help, so now I think she has some peace of mind for a year or so as my mother is not insulting but my father is so yea.
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PYour sister is a doctor??? And she is struggling financially? I was under the impression that she isn’t very educated or skilled, hence dependent on the husband. She is a doctor then why didn’t she work from the beginning? Your parents could let her open a clinic in the house instead of sending her to her husband, just cuz she was sitting at home.
I see people with just BA degrees earning quite well, even in this economy, Idk how a doctor is struggling. Also, the way your parents told her to return to her abusive husband, she probably is conditioned to be disrespected, so it doesn’t bother her now. -
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