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UHi everyone, sorry for the long post.
Tldr: Wife accusing false DV and dowry(we didn’t take any dowry) and asking 2 Crore for mutual divorce.
My wife lovebombed till our court marriage(did it for for spousal USA visa) occurred. Then she and her mother started having fights with me everyday out of no where. She even mentioned divorce once and I took it seriously and dediced to end it. Then her family started emotional drama and convinced us that she did it in innocence. Then our marriage occurred one months later and since the day of marriage she again started threatening me of divorce. I was shocked but didn’t wanted to end my marriage as marriage was a sacred thing for me.
We went on honeymoon and she treated it as a solo trip without interacting much with me and was acting cold throughout the honeymoon and when I confronted her, she shouted and said for divorce. My mistake would be that I kept on asking her the reason and prolonged the conversation for 20-30 minutes instead of 2-3 minutes which might use to irritate her but it was because of her cold nature I was losing it out watching my marriage getting failed.
We went USA and same things happened for a year where she use to pay a lot attention to my friends and her friends and no attention ot me even when I was sick. I lost my job and she didn’t care to talk to me about it. When I told her I am feeling depressed because I lost my job and that we should go for a walk, she again shouted and said ” I won’t be always there to lookout for you”. I use to care for her and make efforts to provide her most things in hand. She use to say me that I am over expectations from her even on small things like asking for tea she would say I have over expectations.
She use to run away in USA and not pick my calls for hours and shout for police if I stop her from walking away from the house. I found 2 more jobs and lost all the jobs because of this torture. My parents use to send me money but u didn’t informed them about all this stuff(big mistake).
She wanted to come back India, we came to India and out of no where her parents came my home and took her away. She and her parents blocked me everywhere and didn’t picked my parents call. They didn’t allowed any mediator or any relatives to interfere from both the sides.
They agreed for a meeting in there city after 4 months and demanded 2 Crores and said that I didn’t get any food or didn’t spend any money on her. I had 1000’s of picture of going out and eating. When we showed them they didn’t had a look and said pics are of no use. They ended the meeting in 10 minutes.
My wife didn’t came in the meeting and she’s not in her hometown from past 3 months according to her neighbour. She might be doing a job in a metrocity as she used to do before marriage. There family doesn’t have a house, neither a 4 wheeler. She filed a report for which I have to appear mahila thane in her city after 2 days. I filed for divorce in my city. It would be a long battle!
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ULeave the country before they file 498A and a bunch of other cases. Because your passport will be blocked and you will not be able to leave the country. And if you fight court cases in India, even if you win it will take 5-10 yrs.
Other option is settlement depending on how much you are comfortable paying.
You will not get justice in the court system in India.
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UDafuq is wrong with the sanctity of marriage these days. Women asking for crores as if people grow money on trees ππ€―π€―π€―
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UDonβt be scared. If you look at these cases, the go on for long and wife get tired and reduce the alimony amount significantly. It will happen if you stretch it longer. Treat it as a game you have to win. But yes get a good lawyer and involve yourself in the case also. Donβt let the lawyer do everything. Just get involved with the process. Put counter cases against her. Once they see that you are ready for fight they will give up eventually. Donβt kill yourself please, it will only make things complicated
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UThis is a terrible act and Iβm sorry you had to experience this. My uncle got married decades ago(I was a kid) and his then wife for 2 days had psychological diagnosis. Her family hid it; she threw mangalasutra on my uncleβs face the very next day, screamed and behaved strangely. He dropped her at their familyβs home and never let her come back in his life. They demanded alimony to sign divorce proceedings but our family refrained from paying. Both the parties had no contact for years and my uncle remained unmarried.
No, you donβt have to pay the money your ex-wifeβs family is demanding. Stay firm but sadly, this will be dragged for years. More power to you!
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PNAL
She needs to provide proof for dowry or harassment.
You need to provide proof that you didn’t.
Keep every small evidence, whatever it maybe.
Receipts, records, messages everything.
Don’t give a penny as a settlement. Fight the case & contact ms. Deepika narayan bharadwaj ( she is a member of the men’s rights group).
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UYou can easily puncture her case..
Get a net worth assessment done of her family. If she claims u got an amount greater than that as dowry u can ask her how is it possible? Unless they have some black money statche.
Now did she have a job before? How much was it paying her? You van pay her that money as lost income.
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UMoral of the story. If the girl’s family doesn’t have a house and are reliant on her! It is a huge red flag for an impending divorce! Don’t be fooled by beauty.
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UThis is so cruel. What’s happened to the world is heart wrenching. This is not fault of yours or the marriage institution. I think there were no really connection between you two from what has been mentioned. I think the cause is not bad people or good people. The root cause is that minset of many people has become to get instant gratification. People who are getting married are doing it for mainly two things – financial security and intimate connection. Many people lack in either of the two. This is causing issues which were not previously seen I mean a decade ago. So imo please don’t get married if you lack in either of the two. You see marriages that last are built on trust, sacrifice and love from both parties. Today’s generation don’t know about the sacrifice part. They only want rosy bed but not to spend time in cold hard road. This is a fact and you should accept and move on.
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UPlease focus on your mental health and build a purpose in your life. I would suggest you read on the book ‘Ikigai’ which explores the purposes on life. There are ‘n’ no. Of things to do apart from marriage.
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UNAL. Sorry brother, this is a well planned scam being executed by few disgusting women who hunt for high net worth individuals or NRIs, thanks to India justice system such scams are being justified due to nari shakti.
My two cents. Stay in USA and hire a good lawyer and continue fighting, donβt give until they come down to lower amount to settle. Get all the videos and photos as evidence.
Best of luck brother and donβt lose hope.
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UDo an out of court settlement use some strong mediator other wise ur in for a big run to just court and dates of courts will leave u in lurch.
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UAh yes the classic honey trap.. How long did your courtship last?
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UPotential big loss she can cause is blocking of passport. This will probably go like this – mahilla thana dont have any influence in the matter, they just take the fir and statements from so called victims in this case and submit it to family court. Due to multiple SC rulings, family members can be easily removed from the FIR allegations and further future court proceedings. Family courts are already burdened with lots of cases, they will call you first for consent like you will cooperate with the courts proceedings. And will give next date most probably around 6-7 months later. Everyone would get aware like both side lawyers, judges etc that itβs false case. Court cannt do anything in these cases, other party wont be able to prove the allegations, court will proceed with its usual slow process, will try that both of you either reconciliatie, settle or take mutual divorce. Only loss here would be of time. And yes as someone else suggested be careful of lawyers, try to get trustworthy lawyer. Their first priority is mostly extracting as much money as possible from clients. If time and little bit of travelling is not an issue, no one can do any major harm in such cases.
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NIts gonna end up in settlement and since you earn well it will be a significant sum.
Just start the negotiations there is no point in prolonging it.
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ROne of the girl in my neighbour tried this stunt with the guy’s family. She filed a hell lot of fake cases against him, even though the guy was innocent he has to suffer a lot. Somehow that guy had an a**hole cousin sister who came to the rescue and she filed fake rape cases on the girls father and brother, they are arrested soon.
At the end girls family have to take back all the cases and they got divorced mutually.
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UWomen like this make me wish I wasn’t a feminist. Save yourself man. Good luck. People are so f*cked up to this to an innocent person. She’ll get her karma soon.
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