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UI connected with a girl in indian matrimony app 3 weeks back and we started talking by exchanging phone numbers. She told me she was in a relationship with a guy in her workplace and the guy rejected him.
I used to talk with her in mobile. I dont know where she lives exact location or where exactly she works.
Today night i pinged her and she called me and told she was depressed as the guy didn’t accept him, and she is planning to commit suicide. And she told that i might get caught and she asked me to record my last call with her conversation, as she fears once she dies i might be in trouble as suspect.
I tried to convince her as much as i could and i think she might commit suicide anytime. She said she will wait till her boyfriend ‘s birthday in few days.
What should i do. Should i go to police or call any suicide helpline to help her.
I dont want to get into any problem as i had phone conversation with her in last 4 weeks (1hr per call aprox).
I want to help her prevent commit suicide.Pls give suggestions.
Update:
I called police and they tried to call her she told she is alright to police. I called police again to know the status, and they told that when they called her she told that she is fine..
And they cant do anything as i dont know her location.
I even sent her suicide helpline number and told her to call. Now i see her insta profile that the adds status of a convo with another guy. I think she Might shared about her thoughts with him as well…
I really dont know if she is will take any bad decision on his birthday (a couple of days from now) if the first guy she loves is still adament or she will move on to find new partner for her.I asked her on whatsapp to talk to her parents and she says no.
I have call recording of her last 3-4 calls which she told to record for my safety.
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IThis is a temporary phase. You’re strong and will recover from it. Life is so much more than a office colleague who rejected you. Good luck in your future endeavors. Hope you find someone who is perfect for you!
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You have done whatever you could. If police wanted to, they could easily find her location using her phone number. If she doesn’t want help no one can help.
Stop dragging yourself into this matter. If things go wrong, you will be one of the people to suffer.
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UYes i planned to stop speaking with her… She called me last night 1 am i didnt attend, i just pinged her on whatsapp today and told her to talk openly with her parents.
Im planning to stop picking her calls if she calls and reply over text-
IYup. Tell her explicitly that you can’t be of any help in this matter. And are really busy to find time to talk to her.
Most likely she won’t do anything to herself. Is just wasting your time is what I think
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UYou are saying matrimony app, check if there is any contact information regarding her parents or family is available. And approach them
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UYes thanks..
If i block all way for her to contact like whatsapp and phone, i fear that her depression may arise more as she already in bad mental health… Instead i will avoid her calls and just reply small in whatsapp that im busy something like that -
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WBlock her and stop speaking to her. She sounds like she has “Histrionic personality disorder” or something similar from what you describe of her.
Once again, block her and move on with life. For the future, recognize that you can’t help/save everyone.
You are on a matrimonial site to find a partner. Not to be an unpaid counselor to anyone. There is an important life lesson here. Learn it.
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UYes thanks… I will for now avoid contact and in case of she disturbs me again, i will block her…
Im in lot of mental pain because of a unknown person. I learnt a great lesson.
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WWhy block her when she reaches out again? Why not avoid any additional trauma and block her now? I mean if you don’t then somewhere you are encouraging this behavior yourself too.
It takes all of 30 seconds and 1 click to block someone.-
UI just have a thought of fear that i blocking her immediately may make her mental state worse… Instead i plan to not initiate contact and not pick her phone…and only message that im unavailable over whastapp if she calls me.
Do u suggest to immediately block her from insta whatsapp and phone now? I think she might be triggered a bit if she tried to call me…
Or I’m thinking of blocking her phone calling me and allow whatsapp. I dont know.-
WBlock her if you value your peace of mind. Shes an adult and is responsible for her actions. Not some random internet stranger.
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MEven if it makes her mental state worse, that’s her responsibility, not yours. She should decide for herself to go for therapy, not make an issue for random people and warn them of being a suspect etc. it’s sadly enough an attempt to get attention to fulfil her emotional needs. You’ll not be suspected – you don’t even know her. Please block everywhere including phone calls and whatsapp so that you don’t have to know anything more about her.
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