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U40F. I asked for separation from my husband mutually as I dont have feel to live with him anymore. He behaved harshly, took away kids, all property documents, my government ids, gold and left with no money at home. He maintained all accounts financial things in the house and I dont even thought of knowing about anything related to accounts, passwords etc.. Now, it seems he started taking mutual funds from my savings. I am working women. Now, I left with nothing. Please advice what I need to do.
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UDocument Everything:
Gather all records—bank statements, texts, emails, and any evidence of financial transactions (such as withdrawals from your mutual funds) that you suspect were unauthorized.
Make a detailed list of assets, documents, and accounts that have been taken or controlled by your husband.
Secure Your Financial Accounts:If you still have access to any of your accounts, immediately update your passwords and security settings.
Contact your bank(s) to explain your situation; ask if you can freeze or closely monitor your accounts to prevent further unauthorized transactions.
Consider speaking with your bank about the possibility of opening new accounts or otherwise protecting your funds.
Seek Legal Advice Immediately:Consult with a family law attorney or legal aid service as soon as possible. An experienced lawyer can advise you on issues like financial abuse, property division, and custody matters.
They can help you understand your rights regarding mutual funds and other assets, and whether there are grounds for a restraining order or emergency injunction to protect your financial and personal security.
Consider Professional Support for Domestic Abuse:Even if physical violence isn’t currently an issue, financial and emotional abuse can be very damaging. Reaching out to a domestic violence support organization or counseling service could provide you with emotional support and practical guidance tailored to your situation.
These services often offer advice on safe housing, emergency funds, and other resources that might help you stabilize your situation.
Look Into Court Orders:Depending on your jurisdiction, you might be able to obtain a court order that mandates the disclosure or freezing of financial accounts and property documents. A lawyer can help you file for such orders.
If you’re in immediate danger or feel that your assets are being irretrievably lost, a temporary restraining order or emergency custody order regarding the children might be necessary.
Reach Out to Trusted Support Networks:Inform close family members or friends who can offer support, both emotional and practical, during this time. They might also help you gather additional evidence or accompany you to legal consultations.
Remember, every case is unique and local laws can make a big difference in your options. Please consider this advice as a starting point, and prioritize getting professional legal guidance as soon as you can. You deserve to have your rights protected and your voice heard, so please take steps to ensure you’re supported legally and emotionally during this challenging time. -
UThank you for immediate advice. Currently, my family is not supporting me and I am all alone. I dont have any idea on how to approach lawyer and other consultancies. All are indirectly forcing me to live with him by doing all these… I am stuck.
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GI will advise you to contact a good advocate who you can trust and start immediate proceedings under some criminal law such as Domestic Violence or 145 of the Crpc. Criminal cases are heard quickly and it will help you get access to your child and assets. The threat of criminal action might soften your husband’s attitude and then offer him that you will withdraw the criminal cases if he agrees to the mutual divorce on terms that you deem are justified. I will advise seeking help from a passionate female advocate because I don’t think any male advocate will understand your point of view and it may cause a delay and lead to the misappropriation of the joint asset by your husband. If you want to finally get a divorce this approach may work because if you decide to get a regular divorce it will be lengthy and considering you don’t have someone to back you it may also be emotionally painful.
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BAnd the fake domestic violence, fake dowry cases begin.
This is how all the cases begin I guess. With the advice of some enlightened person like you.
Contacting a good advocate minus the fake cases will be enough.
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GI understand you are triggered by the word ‘criminal’, but his husband did commit several of them. He took away his gold and government IDs. Granted my advice was on the assumption that everything she said was correct. If you have known how the justice system works you wouldn’t be so triggered. Taking away her gold which may also be her ‘Streedhan’ is a considered crime, so I didn’t advocate filing fake cases.
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BThen file the relevant cases. Criminal or otherwise.
Not fake ones.
You literally told her to file domestic cases because you are impatient about judicial justice.
Stop backtracking and giving rationalisation for your act. Have some sense. If there are too many fake cases ultimately the cops and justice system will stop giving swift justice to actual victims. Stop crying wolf and destroying the life of genuine victims.
Stop unnecessarily being a smart ass.
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ULooks like a one sided statement.. not very clear why you want to leave him and why your family also not supporting you.. be clear… Lot of cases like atul subhash and Nikita singhania type cases are also coming up .. so be clear and then maybe we can give advice.
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EYeah, you found one case and made a perception. A country where every minute rape happens, women still get burnt alive fir dowry, you think men are oppressed.
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KYour attempt to downplay the seriousness of male suicide is unacceptable.
While cases involving men may receive less media attention, that does not diminish their occurrence or significance.
This is not a competition about which gender suffers more; it is about ensuring justice and fairness for all individuals, regardless of gender.
The fact that women can lie and deceive is not only evident from numerous court rulings but is also recognized on an international scale. The Amber Heard case is a glaring example.
Therefore, approaching a one-sided statement from a woman with skepticism is not only logical but firmly grounded in material facts.
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HOP, first, consult a family lawyer to protect your assets and seek legal action if needed. Contact your bank and investment firms to report unauthorized access and freeze your accounts. If your mutual funds are in your name, inform them immediately. Also, report missing government IDs and apply for duplicates. If your husband took the kids without agreement, talk to a lawyer about custody or visitation rights. Stay strong!
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UAdding more details. Basically, he is very possessive and he dont like to make anyone friends (especially opposite gender). I met one person and he was reminding me about my past person (who I lost), so I wanted to be friend with him and introduced to the family. I just to chat with that person (he is very young person only – 23M) and not with any wrong intention. But, on knowing this, my husband hates me and other person and started hurting. Family members as well start abusing me with wrong words and they hit me as well.
I do not like to live under pressure and control. So, I asked for separation and after this all are happening. And it is getting worse now.. -
UAdding more details. Basically, he is very possessive and he dont like to make anyone friends (especially opposite gender). I met one person and he was reminding me about my past person (who I lost), so I wanted to be friend with him and introduced to the family. I just to chat with that person (he is very young person only – 23M) and not with any wrong intention. But, on knowing this, my husband hates me and other person and started hurting. Family members as well start abusing me with wrong words and they hit me as well.
I do not like to live under pressure and control. So, I asked for separation and after this all are happening. And it is getting worse now..-
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HAre you also a co-owner of the house?
Do you have access to your money and bank account?
If you’re still in your house, then don’t move out.
Basically don’t make any big decisions when you’re angry.
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UIts rental house. I dont have access to money and bank account as I am not aware of details.
This happened before 2 days. -
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VYour post reeks of someone dodging responsibility and using vague feelings as a convenient excuse to ditch your husband—maybe even to run off with someone new. Instead of citing any real abuse or concrete issues, you claim you “don’t feel like living with him anymore,” which is a flimsy justification when you left all your finances and documents in his hands, only to be surprised when he takes control of everything, including the kids. It’s hard not to wonder if you were planning your escape all along, neglecting your marital duties and financial security in anticipation of a new life, rather than facing the consequences of a genuine marital crisis.
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USee if there is no single string left to binds both of yours heart together then there is no meaning in living together, and as many may suggest go to lawyer, seek legal action, but when you go/left just go, don’t ask, don’t expect, don’t question, don’t answer, and you’ll be better than them in the coming days for sure, you’ll know how to live life instead of all sufferings, life is so short to worry and so long to live, follow and make your hear happy and inturn it will keep your soul happy 🤘🏻
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