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BAfter 30 years of marriage husband is demanding land or hefty amount (₹40-50 Lakhs) of money from wife’s maternal home and harrassing her regularly. She is a house wife (50y) and doesn’t income. Husband is a pensioner(63y).The couple has 2 sons (26y & 22y old).
According to the victim she is facing the mental harrasment since 3-4 years. And from last one year harrasment is very severe (no physical harrasment is there) that the wife and sons became soo dipressed and stressed. There is no environment for study of sons and it’s affecting their career progression.
Husband blackmailed them by saying, if wife cannot bring land or money from her maternal home then he will throw out her form the house, disowned his sons and will his all properties to orphanage.
They tried many times to had a discussion regarding the matter and make him understand and convince, but everytime the situation becomes worst.
Wife has a fear of filing case on husband as her sons are unmarried and case filing will hamper on the marriage of her sons. Husband is literally making their life as hell.
What should the family do to live a peaceful life.
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WAdding to other comment, does he extra marital affair and children out of it? Maybe he wants property for them? Ask his sons to track his mobile n moments
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UEither post is incomplete/ hiding facts
Or husband needs treatment for his declining mental health.-
BHusband wants to build a new house/start business and he doesn’t want to spend all the savings and take any loan.
He became frustrated as his wife doesn’t income and didn’t has any govt job.
Wife’s maternal side said to give her land (worth 5-6lakhs) but husband want more (₹40-50lakhs) And wife doesn’t want to claim forcefully the ancestral share from her maternal home as it will impact their family reputation negativity in the society because her son is unmarried and no one will give her daughter to a family like this.
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UInfo: What do the children do? They are 26 and 22. Completely employable age and most probably educated too. Why are they not earning?
P.S.: I believe this a karma farming post. If not please do provide the info.
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BElder son got a job last year (struggled through all these) and younger one is preparing for job and further studies but cannot concentrate because of these mess.
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UThe maternal family seems to be supportive. They can shift with them till the children start earning enough to support the three of them. Why isn’t this option being considered?
Legally speaking, why none of the kids are coming forward and registering a complaint against their father with police? In case their father decides to divorce, he will have to give 50% of his own property as alimony. He would be cornered with a complaint. Why this is not happening?
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BSons are saying to live separately as the elder one is earning but wife is worried about the negative aspects of the separation in indian society which directly impacts the marriage of her sons and future.
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UIs she living in 1925? It’s 2025. There will be not be a shortfall of options if the boy is good.
If she can be brave, ask them to not shift out of the house, but file for separation. Even if she doesn’t go ahead with actual separation, husband will understand the situation. The relationship is anyway dead, let the husband leave.
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UWeird story. My guess is that the husband wants wife to initiate litigation for right to ancestral property which she’s resisting.
Another guess: OP is one of the male heirs/ claimants to this property…another wild guess… OP is son of the brother of the lady in question; doesn’t want bua to claim her rightful share in the ancestral property
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UBut earlier u agreed to what I said .. and you are clearly far too invested to be a “neighbour”.
Just accept it that you are the bhatija who doesn’t want bua to get any of that dadaji’s property
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BGet lost from this…. If you can’t give any opinion rather assuming me as one of the family members.
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BWow you could have won even 7cr question on KBC.
Good that OP is accepting this clearly now that dowry is just a fake story
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UI highly doubt the legitimacy of this story, and need to hear the husband perspective too. Cuz, it is highly unlikely for the husband to demand dowry outta no where thirty years into the marriage. There could be some land or property issues between the two families.
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BAs far as I know the husband is doing all this by getting frustrated. Because his wife doesn’t have any job/income.
And long back he had land dispute with his own sister. In that time his in laws consoled him not to get mad with all this land and shits and they are always there for help. And now for that “help” he is forcing his wife to get the property worth 50 Lakhs from his in laws.
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UThis is a double edged sword.
It’s possible thatbthe woman is being cheated out of her inheritance and he’s taking action to force her to start litigation.
On the other hand, once she receives it he may escalate in order to take it away from her – either by guilt or threatening violence. Sons may join in too, she might end up worse off – no money and lost family support.
Then again, getting her inheritance may embolden her to resist his abuse.
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BOP has mentioned in response comments that entire episode is related to property dispute.
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She is continuously being forced by the husband to claim maternal property forcefully. But she doesn’t want, because it will affect the family reputation for the sake of her son’s future and marriage.
======This is not about dowry as such but wife’s sibling emotionally manipulating wife and husband is not liking that.
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CLet me guess, you are her brother and you don’t want to divide ancestral property equally. So you are now creating fake dowry narrative as your brainwashing did not work.
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BI am their neighbour. From long I frequently hear shouting and all, just asked them out last week what’s the matter and this is what came up.
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QYour post is heavily skewed against the husband here, lots of unnecessary adjectives against the husband, almost like you hate him or want us to have a huge negative connotation towards him.
“Husband blackmailed to not share property?”
A wife is okay to give her to anyone she chooses but not him?
Wife kare toh chamatkar husband kare toh balatkar?Your post is total sus bro
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QNAL here, I will be answering this question:
>What should the family do to live a peaceful life.
She should file a litigation against her family for inheritance. Any kind of decision on such cases take years if not decade. His husband would be either dead or rendered physically and mentally useless. She can withdraw her petition in future. This will bring peace to her husband and sons for time being. However, she would destroy her relationship with her maternal family (depending upon the value of inheritance, a lot of people would argue that it’s worth it. I leave that choice to the concerned person)
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