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EHi everyone,
I’m seeking urgent legal advice regarding a serious domestic abuse situation in my extended family.
My uncle (chachu) has been physically and verbally abusing his wife (my chachi) for many years. He is unemployed and an alcoholic. Recently, he physically assaulted his 18-year-old daughter (my cousin), and continues to verbally abuse both his wife and children. He comes home drunk and beats his wife regularly. If his daughter tries to intervene, he beats her too. They also have a 14-year-old son who is witnessing all of this toxicity.
We (my mom and I) have repeatedly urged my chachi to leave him. My dad has offered her financial support and even told her we will help with rent and living expenses if she takes the kids and moves out. But she says she has nowhere else to go, and she’s scared that even if she moves into a rental house, my uncle will show up there, harass or abuse them, and create a scene. Also, she says that why we’re asking her to move out, and not asking chachu to leave the house or stop this abusive behavior. We tried to talk to chachu but he’s out of his brain, he has a very short temper, is abusive, and doesn’t listen to anyone.
To make matters worse, mostly, my dad and bua support my uncle and refuse to interfere, saying “it’s a family matter.” My chachi’s own family is very poor and cannot take her back or support the children either. She feels completely trapped.
This has gone on for far too long, and I want to take legal action or at least guide her toward a safe way out.
I have a few questions:
1. What legal options does my chachi have? Can she file a police complaint or get restraining/protection order under domestic violence laws?
2. Can I file a complaint or speak to authorities on her behalf?
3. What kind of legal protections exist if she moves out? Can she get legal help to prevent him from harassing her at a new place?
4. Is it possible to get custody of the kids for her if she decides to leave?This situation is mentally and physically damaging, especially for the children, and I want to do the right thing. Please guide me, I want to help them.
Thank you in advance.
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HI’m not a lawyer, but I was also in an abusive household due to my dad’s abusive tendencies. Even if u file a complaint the problem is that ur chachi might back track that there’s no abuse going on. The best thing to do right now is to make sure ur cousins becomes independent enough to get out of that situation. Saying this from experience as my mom refused to go to police as well. I decided to move out at 18 and mom followed suit after that, maybe encouraging ur cousins might change ur chachi’s mind
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