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I (33M) found out my FWB (also 33) is pregnant, and it’s turning my world upside down. This wasn’t planned — we were never in a committed relationship, just casual. But now she’s decided to keep the baby, no matter what I say.
I’ve tried everything to talk to her about other options, but she’s completely shut down those conversations. She’s angry, emotional, and refuses to even listen. I’m not in a place — emotionally or mentally — to marry her, and I know doing so would destroy me. We are just not compatible. It would be a disaster.
She keeps saying it’s her decision and promises she’ll never ask me for anything — no money, no involvement, won’t tell my family, nothing. But how can I trust that? Promises like that can vanish once a baby is actually here.
I even asked her if she’d be willing to sign something legally — just to make things clear and protect both of us — and she refused. Says she doesn’t want to involve the law. But she’s acting on emotion right now, and I’m terrified about what that means for the future.
I feel stuck. I don’t want to be forced into a situation I never agreed to. I don’t want to be a father under these circumstances. And I don’t want to lose control of my life.
I’m scared, and I don’t know what to do.
My questions:
What are the long-term legal risks here?
Is there anything I can do now to protect myself, even if she refuses legal paperwork?
Could she come after me later for child support or involvement, no matter what she’s saying now?
Do I have any say in this at all?
Please — any legal advice or shared experiences would really help. I feel totally powerless right now.
TL;DR: My FWB is pregnant and refuses to consider abortion or legal agreements. Says she won’t ask anything from me, but I don’t believe it. I can’t marry her, and I feel like I’m being dragged into something life-changing without a choice. How can I legally protect myself?
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RWith due respect, If it is a FWB first confirm you are the only possible cause for the child. If this is not true, then you have a life span left. Secondly you can give her abortion pill (i am not an expert in this medical science though) after convincing or by whatever manner because here still “friend with benifits” stands tall.
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CRoyally fucked bro, a male in India impregnated a women, and the women wants to keep the baby, and y’all are not married
The laws are biased to the woman buddy, the only thing you can do is watch the circus play out.How hard is it to wear a fucking protection bro, went in with iron balls now got blue balled
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SNot a lawyer,
You are not married yaar, dont worry, the child will be legitimate irrespective of whether born before a marriage or not
She will need to prove that the child is yours, you can refuse to give dna test because it violated your right to privacy (SC recent case where they told the husband to give child support for the kids born out of a affair between his wife and another man)
However if she put allegations of SA on you then things might get difficult and a lawyer may be needed -
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JFirst of all, according to lawyers and some other guys here you can’t do a thing and after that chill out man.. you’re a man after all.. She wants the baby? Alright it’s hers, you don’t want to provide anything for your blood anyways so let her manage it. She’ll be fine without you and possible some other man will claim her and your child. She’s not threatening you with child support or anything. And I’m curious what kind of a man is running away from building a family at 33. I’m sorry if my words hurt your feelings but I’m just shocked that so many men cant stand behind their actions nowadays.
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SBe an adult about it. These things happen. The best you can do is not panic and be there and present for the mother during pregnancy and be there for the child financially and emotionally. Married to the mother or not it’s your child. Be an adult about it.
Law of any country I know will not side with you on this. These things happen. Only solution is to be mature about it. -
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VLawyer (Female) this side. Apologies but will in no way sugar coat. The reality is simple: there is no blame game to be played at this stage, since the pregnancy has occurred. And unfortunately, since your language has made it clear that the woman is not willing to relent in any manner, you are unfortunately at the end of your rope. And the law will in no way side with you, imagine explaining FWB in a courtroom. You don’t want that. The best case scenario would have been a termination, but you need to avoid becoming a cash grab scheme for the woman in question. If possible, get into a non vulnerable, neutral discussion where without legal intervention, you set limits on what you can do or wish to do for the child, if at all she decides to demand something in future. Or, get her word in writing, that you sign away all parental rights and she’s independent. Or if you can prove she has sufficient resources to raise the child and you want nothing to do, and have no legal relationship or responsibility, get such terms included. Get whatever you can in writing. Realistically, even this is a stretch, but appeal till you can.
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FQuick question, if you have some time please answer. Thank you.
As per my understanding, If the child wants any other contract between parents can be terminated as this limits the child’s right to inheritance ( based on the observation of the Hon. Court) + Personal Law Hindu/Muslim will also favor the child.
Also as he will not tell his parents, thus the grandparent will not exclude them in the will and then they can claim the inheritance under the Mitakshara law?
If you choose to answer this, Thank You for giving your time.
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VHey, thank you for your question. The nuance in your question would be more clearly addressed by a family lawyer. As for a general response, personal law applicability related to succession and inheritance is not a domain of discussion here as I don’t believe religion has been disclosed in any part of the question.
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KShe has right to keep the child, and you are morally and legally supposed to take care of your child. Don’t run like a coward saying I’m not prepared, my life will be destroyed blah blah. Talk to her, if she agrees, get married to her and raise the little soul with love and care. No one’s life gets destroyed because of marriage of and having children, it will actually help you grow in life and will give you a new reason for happiness.
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