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UI (27M) in relationship with a girl (28f) since 2 years. I’m a doctor and my girl is a dentist.she promised me of marriage since the beginning of relationship and we had physical thing between us
She is from an orthodox family and had assured me to convince her parents no matter what.Her dad got a proposal among her relatives and pressurised her for marriage. She’s hell scared of her parents. She told me to approach her parents to convince them. I went and they were against intercaste marriage. One thing lead to another and the engagement was called off. They made a complaint against me and threatened her that they will kill both of us. they made my girl to say no for marriage infront of police and warned me not to approach her.
Fast forward 1 month my girl approached me for marriage. Saying she’ll take stand this time and convince her parents. She called me to her home when their parents were on a trip. Her mom got to know about us and then threatened her again. Made her to give complaint against me. The police took in writing that i won’t approach her again.I requested her dad that we have lived like a wife and husband and she even got aborted a baby.but he didn’t give a damn about it
They made her stop working and have locked in her home. Im blocked in her phone and unable to contact her anywhere now
Please tell me
1. How can I take legal action against them? Her dad has threatened me of doing castration on a call and abused me with all bad words and I have all the recordings of it
2. Police threatened me that girl will file a false rape if I approach her again. I have all the chats and call recordings to prove it false and she has accepted that her parents have hit her. And made false promises of marriage to me
3. Can I put mental harassment case?this thing has completely drained me
4. Her parents are scared of the society. I’m planning to send whatever has happened with us to her relatives.( I know it’s a bad one )but have no optionPlease, please help me
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BYou need to understand that this girl is not going to stand by you. Whatever relationship you had is over the moment she gave a written statement to the police and agreed to cut off all contact. Even if she was pressured, the legal reality is that she is not defending you and is not likely to in the future. If you try to approach her again, you are exposing yourself to serious legal consequences, including the risk of a false rape case.
It is good that you have saved chats and recordings, but those are for your protection, not to continue chasing a relationship that is clearly over. Filing any kind of case, sending messages to her relatives, or trying to “expose” what happened will only make things worse for you.
The smart thing to do is walk away now. Let this go, focus on rebuilding your life, and do not take any step that could be seen as harassment. You have already been warned once by the police. Do not give them a second chance.
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UI have mentally become weak bro, sliding into depression and what not. Filing a false rape case mean she’s agreeing that she is raped? I don’t think her father might not file it
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BI get that you are struggling, and it is okay to feel that way. But this is the time to protect yourself. If a false rape case is filed, it will be likely in her name, and even if it is under pressure, it can ruin your life. You need to stop chasing her and focus on keeping yourself safe. Use your evidence only if needed to defend yourself. Let this go before it drags you down further.
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CSorry for you young man but I think there’s no other option than to just silently walk off from this. Look they are never going to agree for this marriage and even if you marry her somehow they are not gonna let you two live peacefully. And if she even after being financially independent is letting her parents control her life to this extent then what makes you think that she’ll not let this happen after marriage. Look you might feel bad about what I’m gonna say but there is a slight chance that even she doesn’t want to marry you but just doesn’t want to be bad in your eyes. Think about it my man you are a doctor you have worked hard for this don’t let a relationship ruin your life please
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HAs a brother, I would advice you to prioritize your safety above all else primarily. You do not have assurance if the girl will turn on you later on if her folks threaten to off themselves.
And so, let her take the first stand. Let her call up the police to take her away from her abusive folks. She can say whatever she has told you, to them.If you keep at it, the last place you’ll end up is in a prison cell, my brother.
Let her do the heavy lifting here. I understand this might be difficult to put into practise but its something you’ve gotta accept and do in order to protect your bright future as a doctor and saving lives.
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