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USo this morning, my neighbour had some work going on in their sewer that is attached to their home and for this they were digging the road, and there was already a tussle going on with my mom and my neighbour lady, when I saw all this, I asked her to get it all covered by evening, to which she replied nahi kiya to kya kr lega and then it all went south and now they have a recording of me abusing her not directs abuse ( i called her bikau aaurat ) just this. I’m 21 idk how I lost control over my language but now I regret it.
Now they had called up 112 and the police was like ki ab jo ho gya ho gaya koi baat nahi agli baar nahi hona chaiye, and to them he told to get a permission from nagar nigam.
But they denied this, and said ki wo law jante hain and all, even the police guy was like sir itni se baat ko kyoun badhana hai.( Not saying im even a bit right, I know I have made a big mistake today)
To ab I’m scared I’m 21, I have job offer but the background verification is pending, Im drying every heart beat
Please I’m ready for everything, apologies, maafi, and all sort of these things but they are like ab tera career kharab karunga and all.
By siblings are doctor and engineer so they were already very jealous of this.
Please help me out, tell me If there is anything possible, for me now, that I can do to be safe from all this fuss.
Please help🙏
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BYou need to relax man. The police were smart. They realised it’s just neighbours fighting. Don’t stress out over it and lose your hair. If they file a complaint, they’ve filed it. Co-operate with the police. If an FIR has been registered, then have an advocate collect a copy so you can follow the procedures according to law.
You’re worried when even a complaint hasn’t been lodged.
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IThe lady did a good job. Kids think they can do whatever they want filmy style and get away with it. This guy learnt a lesson today. Most Indians need to learn this.
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UYeah man, I introspected a lot today, maybe never thought of this aspect, that’s why. But yeah I’ll be more humble to others and cautious of my words and actions.
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IRare to see people accepting mistakes especially online. This is how we learn. All this confrontation is hardly worth it in the end.
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UPeople assume so much on internet, people with power or even slightest bit of connection will not even bother about the problem which, made me feel bad all day long, I am an introvert I never talk in my society to anyone. All I have in life is my small family of which I only have mother at home as my father is in army and siblings at their work.
People are jealous, ik it sounds so primitive but yes they do, the only thing that lady, their father and unemployed (30) son, had to say to the police guy was we do not want agreement and literally shooed them away, even the police guy had sympathy for me.Just think again, a guy so vulnerable, no political connections, not a single police or even a constable’s ph no, (in my entire family ) all I have is my knowledge and family ask me a 3rd thing and I’ll be blank.
People target vulnerable to exploit and entertain themselves, no matter what.
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SIn all this fake modesty case you’re completely ignoring the fact that the lady was causing a public nuisance without getting permissions from the municipality. The lady already knows that this country is so biased that she can easily gaslight her way to do whatever she wants.
>Most Indians need to learn this.
Bikau redditor.
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U😂😂😂 that recording would not stand in the court. Unless they have filed FIR you need not worry. Had you physically assaulted or got into altercation which damaged their property or physical harm it’s nothing to be worried about.
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UNope just a quick short shout to their son – ” ki teri ma bikau aurat hai” while looking into the camera he was recording with
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UBackground verification?
Umm what is that?
If the company needs you? They are not gonna even check it.
Background verification is done to check if u are not involved in drug cartel, hijackings or any suicide bomb mission or any terrorisital attacks.
Imagine getting rejected over calling your neighbour a bikau aurat😂😂😂
Dude.
People call their HR bikau aurat and still get away with it.
Nothings gonna happen.
Trust me
Even if they file a complain, nothings gonna happen..
We all have had personal grudges against neighbours and society members
Take a chill pill,
Relax
Congratulations on your new job!!
And bhai,
Agar aise career khtmhote na? To aaj koi bhi engineer doctor ya cricketer nahi hote.
Insaan ka Career insaan sirf ek banda khtm kr skta hai vo insaan khud( ranveer allabhadia did to him). Thats it. -
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IIt is not a serious matter; most likely, nothing will happen here.
At the same time, learn to keep your anger and tongue in check, especially when dealing with women.
This time, maybe the complaint wasn’t registered, but if it had been, the criminal justice system could latch on to you. Even if acquitted, the process itself is punishment enough.Here, you were actually liable u/ S79, S352, S296 BNS — a mix of cognizable and potentially arrest-worthy charges, with up to a maximum of 3 years’ imprisonment and a ₹1K fine, or both.
(During this duration, most job opportunities would likely have eluded you, assuming you were eventually acquitted.)On the other hand, the woman would have faced, if anything at all, a simple charge u/ S292 BNS, which at most carries a ₹1K penalty — a charge that is rarely enforced on women.
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USir I have not touched any one, not touched any of their property, no other things just the cus words that I just wented out in frustration
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IImagine the opposite scenario: if someone had behaved the same way with your mother or sister and then rationalised that they at least did not touch them or their property, but just called them bad words, would you be satisfied and not feel offended?
There are specific sections governing this, as every being deserves the dignity of life—more so women, due to societal constraints.
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ARegister a counter complaint against them, so that police has complaint from both the parties, and it’s not one sided. Police knows these neighbour fight cases and they never want to escalate it, they’ll just lodge complaint from both the sides and nothing will ever happen, they won’t register a FIR. But ensure your neighbours know that you have filed a complaint as well for illegal digging, fight, etc otherwise they’ll stand all over you. Keep a strong face, if you go down this ready to apologise etc side you are done
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UJust say it was not me it is AI doctored video.
MOVE ON.
WATCH GAURAV KAPOOR’S recent stand up.
Also don’t degrade others. To control onself in such situations require immense power from within.
I have done my fair share of shenanigans but never went this far for such small things.
Imagine their reaction had you just came out of your house and started laughing at them from beginning without getting agitated…
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UYou don’t have to worry about anything buddy. I saw some people in the comments saying they could file for defamation. It doesn’t count as defamation, neither in criminal law nor in tort law. They can’t even register a complaint for assault as u/ S 130 BNS – “mere words do not amount to an assault”. Police won’t lodge an FIR in your case.
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EShame on you. Calling a lady your mother’s age and your neighbour a prostitute is deplorable and shows a serious lack of education and morals. That too without any serious provocation. Your conversation should have been something like ” auntie, please get it covered as soon as possible as it makes it difficult for us”. No educated and decent boy would ever dream of using such language against a lady and that too much older lady. You are lucky her son didn’t beat you up.
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U– technically abusing a woman can be pressed as outraging the modesty of a woman but in this case she’s clearly a difficult person and the cops ain’t blind man
– you don’t have anything to worry about. Even if the neighbour gets the best lawyers and forced the cops to file an FIR – the district magistrate will not let this go to court to waste everyone’s time and effort
– police complaints don’t show up on background checks. FIRs do but most Indian companies don’t check for that either.
– FIRs and criminal court cases also show up for background verification for Visa, but even then most countries are fine with it as long as you are honest and don’t come across as a liability to the host country.
Source – I have a law firm on retainer for my business and my wife’s a lawyer.
I had 2 FURs against me and still could travel to Canada and Italy (Schengen visa) without only mild inconvenience of submitting a few additional documents for my visa appointments.-
UThankyou so much sir, also are these true?
The criminal justice system could latch on to you. Even if acquitted, the process itself is punishment enough.
Here, you were actually liable u/ S79, S352, S296 BNS — a mix of cognizable and potentially arrest-worthy charges, with up to a maximum of 3 years’ imprisonment and a ₹1K fine, or both.
(During this duration, most job opportunities would likely have eluded you, assuming you were eventually acquitted.)On the other hand, the woman would have faced, if anything at all, a simple charge u/ S292 BNS, which at most carries a ₹1K penalty — a charge that is rarely enforced on women.
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UFor context —- I run a business, and in the process of trying to recover bad debts and in the last 12 years that I’ve taken over legal processes for the business – I have initiated about 40 cases of which I’ve seen actual recovery only in maybe 7-8 cases and about 20 are still ongoing. And the rest got dropped at some point because the cases were getting too time consuming or costly that I’d rather loose money than go to court more often.
– the max terms are given to history sheeters.
– such cases of neighbourhood fights barely get the sort of strict response from the law that you’re expecting here.
Your neighbors need to be existing or retired ias/ips kinds of be close to politicians for this to even get registered as a complaint let alone be turned into an fir.
So that’s how I would judge the true risk of your position at this point.– if you have a FIR for a violent altercation, say road rage related, this will certainly impact your chances for hospitality roles or customer facing roles. Makes very little difference in most other jobs.
More than the fir or the crime it is about how anal your prospective employer. A good indicator of that is how dei friendly are they.
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PYou’re done man, just because you had to say shit like that. She has a recording of you, that’s solid evidence against you for the police to register an FIR for misdemeanour. which will show up in background verification everytime you join any company. Some companies may just decide to let you go because no company wants a liability & you already know how woke corporates are, especially when it’s woman related assaults, also almost all HRs are woman, what do you think they’ll do when they find it out. Not to mention that if your neighbor decides to send that video to your employer, you’re done. All the best man, I’m sure some desperate companies won’t mind it, but good companies – I doubt
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NHonestly tho why tf would a road being dug crate such fuss. Road is public area.
Becarwful next time. Just hope you don’t get caught in harassment case. They may have connections, and if they do then you are fucked.
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UAre bhai sun, koi dikkt ni unko jo krna h krne de maafi mtt mangna ab aur ulta unpr case kr de ki bina nagar nigam ke permission ke bina ye sab kr rhe h yadi wo zuada kre toh ,
Aur tu kaha rehta h bata mere mama aur papa indore ke ias , mla wgerah h tujhe bachane ki zimmedari meri message kar mujhe -
MYou dont need to be scared of any action because even if they move forward it will die down quickly. The only thing you need to be scared of is your internalised misogyny where you think just because youre angry you can call some woman “bikau aurat”. Youre just sorry because youre scared of the consequences not because what you think you did is wrong.
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SAsk your mom to file a proper police case citing the other lady doing illegal work and harassing you and threatening to finish your career by giving false cases. Police and everyone else in the universe can’t give less of a shit to neighbours fighting. So they will take the GD and sit on it. But you’ll have first mover advantage and anything they say later will be held as a counter case to your case.
And anyway stop panicking. Itne mein phat gayi toh baki life kaise guzaroge? Kuch ni hota. -
UFirst of all, no one, absolutely no one can start digging the road as they want. They have to take permission from municipality and pay for digging and filling the road back. Without that permission, they can get in big troubles. I’m a builder and even we have to submit a written application to get water line and they ask us to pay digging and filling charges. Even after getting the permission, 4 neighbours complained to Municipality and we had officers visiting us asking for the permission. So it’s pretty common. Next time, instead of directly confronting them, go the legal way and they’ll be scared of you the whole life.
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MI made the same mistake (verbal tiff with a lady) when I was younger. Do not worry, mostly nothing will come out of it. If something does, **it will be manageable.**
Take one learning from this though, just like I did. When in public, you need to be very careful with your tongue. Things can sometimes escalate, and we don’t want that.
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UI just want to understand what was the reason for you to anyways demand that they finish the work by evening? I’m assuming they were getting the work done to fix an issue and not just to have fun by digging. What if you had a sewerage issue and had to get similar work done?
I keep seeing such issues every now and then. People feel entitled and pick up fights with neighbors who are getting anything done.
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