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PI am getting married this month and yes, it has been going good.
Still, I want to be prepared for anything that might happen to me in the future.
How can I prepare myself legally? There is no dowry involved and we have an account of all the expenses that we have done towards the wedding with bills. What should I do? I have spoken to my fianceé that I’ll be preparing myself legally and she doesn’t have a problem with that..
Please guide me.
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Sshe doesn’t have a problem because she knows no matter what you do during divorce (hope not) nothing will be make sense.
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S1. Well if you are not getting married in India then I would say get a prenup done.
2. Go for a marriage counselling as there are things both of you should be prepared for before starting this chapter.
3. Go for a medical test with hiv (somethings cannot be cured for generations)
4. Sit with your families and make them understand not to interfere too much into your lives post marriage
5. Do not spend lavishly and take up too much debt. Once married you are a different family and no one will be willing to help you.
6. Do no start pleasing people. Learn to build your small family and not gift others or throw parties just to make others like you
7. Do not show off on social media. Rejoice in private. Excel in private. But be humble in public.
8. Go to the gym if not already and keep fitness as a priority for both of you.
9. Take care of your parents and ask your wife to do so as well. Don’t make it such that one person takes care of both the parents.
10. Try to shift out of your house. You guys need to figure things out on your own
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PI know. But if I get an agreement done between my family and her’s, just stating the facts of the wedding and get it notarized, won’t it help me in a legal proceeding.
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AI guess its legality depends on specific conditions and legal provisions. I’ll let a lawyer or someone who knows answer your question. Good luck and congrats on your wedding!
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DHello , first of all congratulations on your wedding, now answering your question , the idea which you are considering can indeed be considered legally beneficial , speaking as law student, but I would like to suggest formation of an agreement between the two parties under the Indian Contract Act 1872 as it would provide the provisional ratification to your agreement and will be enforceable in case of any legal difficulties.
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SGet any proof that you are not accepting any dowry. By WhatsApp or by email where they accept that you are not taking it. Ask them to make a list of streedhan, which their parents will give to that lady and record that during marriage and also record everything gift exchanges which gonna take place.
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PWill a legal agreement on a 100 rs stamp paper stating everything, signed by both the parties and getting it notarized do?
It’ll state that we are not taking any dowry, it’ll state the streedhan, and also all the gift exchange that’ll take place.
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SThat will not called an agreement according to me. But yes you can do it 100% and get it notarised by notry public they keep the records in their register as well
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SThis will definitely help and court marriage is nit a thing in law instead marriage registration is.
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CCongratulations on your upcoming marriage!
Nothing says “we’re madly in love” quite like preparing legal defenses before you even say “I do.”
If you’re already seeing red flags that make you feel the need for all this legal preparation, maybe consider that the exit door is still available.
And let’s be real. If your wife-to-be decides she wants to make your life hell (as you seem concerned), no amount of legal preparation is going to save you. Indian family law isn’t exactly known for being husband-friendly when things go south.
But hey, since she’s “totally cool” with you lawyering up before the ceremony, maybe you two really are perfect for each other. Nothing builds trust like mutual suspicion!
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AThe majority of marriages in India happen before the “madly in love” part. I am a woman and I would also legally prepare myself if I was entering an arranged marriage.
Prenups are legal in my state, and there’s no controversy about them. Never heard or seen any drama take place. Might be a cultural difference though
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CI’m not a lawyer, but from what I’ve read, prenuptial agreements are not legally valid or enforceable in India. However, they can still serve as a moral or reference document during disputes. In some cases, they may carry persuasive value in divorce proceedings. For example, to reflect the original understanding regarding financial arrangements or alimony. But they are not automatically binding.
I’m not sure which state you’re in, but since marriage laws in India are personal or religious and governed at the national level, state-wise validity doesn’t apply. The situation is the same across all Indian states. Please correct me if I’m wrong.
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AI’m sorry but you are wrong. I am from Goa, and they are legally enforceable here. Not sure where you heard personal and religious laws in India are only national level, but in Goa we have the [Goa Civil Code](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goa_Civil_Code) which is completely valid. Everyone in my family has gotten married under this law.
One source for prenup: https://www.legalserviceindia.com/legal/article-6426-goa-civil-code-and-not-uniform-civil-code.html
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CThanks for sharing that. I honestly had no idea. It’s reassuring to know something like this exists in India, even if only for a certain group. I don’t really think they’ll bring prenups into the law, but I still hope they do someday.
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AThe reason it applies to us is because historically we followed the Portuguese legal code.
I’m not sure if other groups can register their marriage under the Code but in high school my Civics teacher told us that is why Goa was such a popular wedding destination for rich people and celebrities. I don’t know how true that is.
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CStay in a rented property, if you have your own property or are going to buy it, make sure it is in your own name, make sure you rent it out to people because in the case of divorce, wife can’t go there and stay.
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PShe doesn’t need to be wrong now! And you can’t be sure she will be right in the future. So, no garls is right!
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UIf you really get to know the person, before rushing into marriage, you won’t get into trouble. If you’ve lived with the person under a roof for a year, you really get to know them.
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UHe has retracted his statement now, saying that the affair she is accused of having with Kuttysankaran was “emotional” not “sexual”.
PS. She has screenshots of emails and WhatsApp conversations of everything she’s accusing him of. I’m too tired to share the blogs covering her entire accusations. These news articles have a few highlights.
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SYou can go through Advocate Amish Aggarwala’s social media timeline or maybe consult him.
You can also go through his [book](https://www.amazon.in/THINGS-SHOULD-BEFORE-GETTING-MARRIED-ebook/dp/B0879CWDWJ).
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SDon’t disclose all your assets to your wife or in-laws, live in a rented property and never ever have a kid, until you are 100 percent sure, to have a kid with her. Don’t ignore the omens and red flags, kindly observe the mentality of her and in-laws. Take a certificate that no dowry was taken during marriage and the rest is up to God.
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PSo your kind has no problem in taking dowry but don’t want to pay alimony huh? Even when taking dowry is illegal, look at you treating it so casually as if it is no big deal.
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SYour kind has no problem in filing false cases of 498a, DV, MC etc, on your husband and his family, no problem in demanding exorbitant amounts as alimony even no dowry was given during marriage, you have no problem in using everything even child as a bargaining chip to extort lot of money.
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PI do. But you don’t know the future. People change. She can change, so can I. And our growth might lead us in different directions. Why can’t we be prepared for it.?
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SThere is honestly nothing you can do to “prepare” yourself for marriage.
You have to face it along the way. It is a hard process, probably the hardest thing you will have to do until now, which is to start living with a stranger, fall in love and give up a lot of what you are right now.
So just get married, try to love and respect the girl and hope she reciprocates !
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NThere’s absolutely nothing you can do. Both prenups and postnups are not recognised in India.
No matter what you agree to now, even in writing doesn’t preclude her from filing legal suits later in the future.
But instead of being a pessimist, I for sure know one thing. As long as you and your fiance love and more importantly, respect one another, you’ll pretty much be fine.
All the best!!
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