Providing pocket money to GF for ~10 years

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      Anilbro105
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        March 18, 2025 at 5:50 pm
        Due to some circumstances at my GF’s Parents’ house, I’ve been supporting her financially for the last 10 years. This I’ve been doing as a responsibility since she wasn’t able to keep a steady job for more than a few months at a time. Her Father is a retired Govt. official who’s barely making ends meet with his pension.

        The solution that I’ve thought about is to take a loan of 2-3L and give her the money in bulk and cut ties with her since it’s straining my personal as well as professional life including my future plans. I’ve been planning to cut ties with her for a few years now, but I never did since I’m worried what she’d do to herself considering the stress she’s facing. We’ve talked about breaking up a few times, and she knows that we are somewhere on the edge. The only reason the relationship is running is due to her financial situation.

        I don’t think she’d return the money that I had given her, but I never asked her to return the money either. My friends have been suggesting me to get her to sign a document saying that I’m doing this out of my own free will and the good of my heart (or some jazz like that).

        The advice that I’m looking for is:
        * Should I get her signature on a document saying that I had given her pocket money for X number of years?
        * What’s the approach that I have to take that doesn’t blow back in my face when I start a new life with a new person?

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        Wisebear8536
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          March 18, 2025 at 5:57 pm
          You should cut ties, cut your losses and move on. Don’t take loans. Don’t give her more money. She’s an adult. Part of being an adult is having adult responsibilities.

          Forget the documents IMO. Just move on.

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          Fiercerajendra3191
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            March 18, 2025 at 11:52 pm
            as a straight guy, ive never wanted to be someone’s girlfriend so bad just so i could freeload for a decade

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            Coolveer2119
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              March 19, 2025 at 3:18 am
              Why you will give her more money after taking loan?
              Is she your responsibility anyhow?
              Relationship is supposed to be equal not one way.

              And the part where you said she might do something to her (isn’t this is just emotional blackmailing)
              I am sure once you will try to cut ties with her, she will come running to you crying and with other threats, and considering how much emotionally invested you are there, you might take her back and this cycle will never end.

              If her family is not able to make ends meet , then she should get more serious in her life and job.

              At this point, she is just free loading you. She knows it and taking full advantage of you.

              Now that you have realised this, suggesting you to cut ties immediately (coz her problems will never end), move on and never fall for emotional manipulation (in case she tries).

              Starting today stop giving her more pocket money.
              This is not going to do well for you.

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                Happypanda9748
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                  March 19, 2025 at 8:20 am
                  >And the part where you said she might do something to her

                  This is a very common thing, my friend was told the same thing, when he told her that he wants to break up. and My friend melted and still in relationship with her.

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                Cleversajal8453
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                  March 19, 2025 at 4:22 am
                  Unless you are married or have been living together looking enough, you don’t need any documentation. She can’t claim as a dependent unless in these situations.

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                  Mightybear961
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                    March 19, 2025 at 4:56 am
                    DONT GIVE HERE MONEY she can say you give here money to keep here mouth shut for rape or false marriage promise.

                    You have given here money think of it as you given to charity and ump here without giving here anything.

                    She might , she might not go towards legal route you never know but cut the crap and put your humanity aside becoz she will do the same IF SHE FILES FALSE CASES AGAINST YOU and dump here if you live in a rented house you pack and run if you live in your house get a civil suit of injunction against here.

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                    Niravpanther555
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                      March 19, 2025 at 6:01 am
                      Why do you need to pay money to break ties ? You obviously don’t see a future together so it shouldn’t be your responsibility to take care of all her needs. Her family should figure it out and ask fir help if needed ( not legal advice)

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                      Krunalpanda769
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                        March 19, 2025 at 6:42 am
                        Sorry to be rude but,

                        Isko Bombay main bolte hai, Ga**d main nahi G*o, h*gne chale Juhu.

                        Sorry again

                        • #32533 Reply
                          Happypanda9748
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                            March 19, 2025 at 8:22 am
                            Koi aur muhawara toh use kar sakta tha

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                          Alphahawk5751
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                            March 19, 2025 at 6:59 am
                            Life lesson: Don’t spend money on GFs. Only spend on wife or other relationships.

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                              Happypanda9748
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                                March 19, 2025 at 8:22 am
                                Waah kya baat boli hai

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