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Experthero9759.
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EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 6:10 pmMy girlfriend cheated on me and married that guy, later I found out she was using me for his happiness aswell. Take me and buying things for him, got all dressed up made me take her and family to his sister wedding 100km one way trip and left me alone with even me knowing that it was that guy..Even after marriage played with emotional, gave me hopes mentally fucked me up and everything.
Now when she got comfortable kicked me like a dog with multiple medical issues, suicidal thoughts and from being most confident to a person with no self esteemAnd she was in relationship with him long before me.
I want to take revange that guy watch my WhatsApp story I plan to put her and mine picture taken consensually with
Can she later use those whatsapp stories against me?Edit:- to add little more context, copy paste of my replies as people were giving advice and all. I did everything before reaching this point. I was many time near doing suicide I am not mentally well because of her
I know I wasn’t vague, but if same was done by boy to girl.
She made false marriage claim everything, used me physically, emotionally and mentally.And from last 3 months I having mental and sleeping issues, that much she broke me.
So it’s not a crime?. Just because I am a boy?.
tried moving on, first she didn’t got out of my life.
Draped all the benefit from me, soaked me dry out of all the feeling emotion and with multiple medical issues.Then she kicked me out like dog, when she felt secured and everything.
Iwas nothing but loyal and honest.
I supported her and everything. Now it’s about my well being.My brain hurts with everything, inwas nothing but good but got used and thrown fake hopes even I was too precautious about relationship with her she built trust made me meet her family met with mine everything.
I never lied or nothing, fed me with happy family thoughts, kids everything.
I know the right path but knowing she is happy with the person she cheated me, even I tried telling him her family made me request him to marry her by begging me.
Now all this bother me day and night. From last 3 months.She even got all dressed up at my home and I drove her off 100km with her family. Later I got to know it was for his family wedding.
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RRidhibear74
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April 3, 2025 at 6:17 pmIt am not saying but It can get ugly in Future. Courts are not a place that you wanna go, take it from a guy who spend one month of Internship there -
MMightywolf5457
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April 3, 2025 at 6:25 pmBro let me tell you my story .I was studying UPSC Mains 2017.. and on July 7th, just when i was awaiting prelims result(which i passed) My ex gf who was an IT employee at that time (she has given me money too when i was unemployed.. she spent a lot on me) made out with someone in Pune, while i was in Delhi..
Fast forward 5 years.
Married in arrange marriage styleGot divorced.. 17-20 lakh loss in one time alimony streedhan lawyers etc.
Its good that you got it over without any significant monetary loss..
And regarding mentally breaking , I would highly suggest 2-3 nights in Pattaya Thailand… ๐
Its visa free, cheap and mentally very very relaaaaxiiinngggg
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CCleverninja6304
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April 3, 2025 at 6:48 pmThose Thai lady bois hit different fr -
RRapidknight4404
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April 3, 2025 at 7:09 pmyou became an IA*? -
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 7:10 pmGuess what I am(kind of was rn) studying for upsc as well part of it was to marry her as well. -
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 7:11 pmShe married that guy, she was in relationship with him for 10yr and even while I was with her.
Married her in love marriage with everyone knowing about it and I got fucked.-
MMegamaster6629
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April 3, 2025 at 8:39 pmDid you never grow suspicion, she must be talking to his older bf too-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:45 pmI never knew.-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:47 pmAnd she did so much , said so many things and things so much I never doubted. And I was the precautious one she was the one who was always ready to marry and have kids.And I was made to beg that same to guy to marry her and I lied when I told him. Even after that she came back to benefit of me being down and after 3 month of marriage when she saw everything going great she threw me like garbage told me die. It happened today.
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MMegamaster6629
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April 3, 2025 at 8:49 pmYou must’ve seen her insta WhatsApp or any other socials at once, and u never got to know. Did she kept it all private?-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:50 pmI did, but I never cared much. I was all for privacy until I find something.-
MMegamaster6629
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April 3, 2025 at 8:57 pmI mean u must’ve noticed if she was talking to the same guy repeatedly. She might’ve introduced her bf as her friend maybe Or never smth like that happnd?-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 10:00 pmNever
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RRapidrutuja6239
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April 3, 2025 at 8:01 pmYou clearing prelims and you suggesting 2-3 nights in Pattaya doesn’t add up. u/HarsdDeep Brother, please talk to a therapist and it’ll help you set your head right. Once your headspace is clear you’ll see things through.-
UUrbanpratyush8343
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April 3, 2025 at 8:29 pmWhy, cracking UPSC lowers one’s testosterone? -
MMightywolf5457
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April 4, 2025 at 2:27 amDude . I cleared prelims 4 times..2015 2016 2017 2018.And went to Pattaya in 2024 November.
Mane kauno sense hai baat ka ??
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MMightypanther3230
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April 3, 2025 at 6:39 pmBro hindi mein hi bol tu-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 7:08 pmSorry it’s just copy of my multiple reply,i wasn’t in the mental capacity to write whole thing.-
MMightypanther3230
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April 3, 2025 at 8:14 pmIt’s ok brotherย
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RRapidknight4404
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April 3, 2025 at 7:14 pmbhai would laundi ka chal rha that kisi ke saath, isko bhi uthaa liya aur paisa ka use kiya, isse apne pehle bande ke liye khareedwaaya wo San, aur shaadi pehle bande se hi kiya, shaadi karke bhi iska kaatti rahi ki aa jaaegi iske paas waapis lekin finally GM bol diya, aur ek baar toh isko driver bhi banaya aur jaha iska kaam nahi waha 100 km leke gayi-
TTapanknight839
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April 3, 2025 at 7:28 pmBro better than ChatGPT! -
MMightypanther3230
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April 3, 2025 at 8:13 pmHnn bhai vo pta hai….English mujhe aati hai ๐ญ๐ญ….but uska grammar bohot ajeeb tha…so had a stroke reading that….tabhi bola ki ya to theek se likh ya to hindi me likh ๐ฅฒ
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BBraveseeker242
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April 3, 2025 at 7:16 pmLet it go.You are ij resentment stage. Don’t do anything that will ruin your life. If she files case, your career would be in danger.
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SSaurabhowl468
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April 3, 2025 at 7:35 pmNothing goes away u get what u sow, she did wrong she will also face same pain probably more so concentrate on you job and family and chill, ek gyi dusri aegi but feeling rakhna bekar h aj k time sb bhag jaengi !-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:27 pmNo people don’t reap.what they, I loved, cared, trust, pampered everything and more what I got?
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DDevanshshark68
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April 3, 2025 at 8:10 pmDidn’t understand your post completely, but if it’s about you getting cheated, man, move on. No love story is perfect, or pure. -
RRonakrider986
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April 3, 2025 at 8:17 pmDude, how are people getting into things like these?It’s honestly incomprehensible and sad to see.
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EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:26 pmYou don’t know whole details, sir and everyone react differently to different situations.
For someone needle is a stuff and for other sword is just basic.-
RRonakrider986
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April 3, 2025 at 8:32 pmIf you’re that weak, then there is no help.There are countless things that can happen in life that are worse than getting heartbroken in your early twenties. Plus, it’s literally just 1 girl. There are tons of girls around who are compatible with you and better than the one you are so depressed about.
You seriously have to grow up, man cause life will throw worse at you than this surely and if you’re in such a state now then how do you plan on the future? You can’t let a random girl decide you’re a loser.
If you’re feeling depressed, try talking to your parents if they’re cool or a friend, or even a counsellor.
Plus, it’s all in the past. If you focus on the future or even live in the present, this will soon all be a distant memory anyway.
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EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:44 pmThat thing I have been in worse condition then this in kife relating family,friends and healt.
I have took on everything with smile but this time it was different. It was like she deliberately took me out of my cautious self made me believe she will do everything for me, and got used and made to beg to that same for person she cheated me with by her family to make him marry her and tell him I lied even after that she came back apologiesed made promises took benefit of my fogged brain.
And then when she saw she is having life of her time and she is safe. She dumped me again and proved me I was an option told me to hang myself.It was not in past, this what happened today.
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RRonakrider986
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April 3, 2025 at 8:54 pmเคคเฅเคฎ เคเค เคฐเฅเคคเฅ เคนเฅเค เคฌเคเฅเคเฅ เคเฅ เคคเคฐเคน เคฒเค เคฐเคนเฅ เคนเฅเฅค เคเฅเคชเคฏเคพ เคฌเคกเคผเฅ เคนเฅ เคเคพเค, เคคเฅเคฎ เค เคฌ เคฌเคเฅเคเฅ เคจเคนเฅเค เคนเฅเฅค-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 10:00 pmI am a crying kid from heart and I am unapologetic for it.
Thank you.
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EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:31 pmI know and I appreciate what you told me.
But cheating is different thing, after getting cheated and when I told him 6month before they got married her family made me beg that guy and lie they I lied about everything.
And even after that she stayed in contact and made promises and all I took pitty.
But after marriage when she saw everything is going great for her.
She played with my mental again, started playing game etc.I have been rejected, heart broken this was different and once in a life time thing. From the 1st I was precautious but she deliberately made me trust her like she will never leave me and marry me.
And made me mentally to much clinged to her.-
RRonakrider986
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April 3, 2025 at 8:33 pmLike I said, you need to gain a lot of wisdom on life. Get to it. Right now, you sound like you are just feeling sorry for yourself.Better people in life do not feel sorry for themselves. They move forward.
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AAmittiger829
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April 4, 2025 at 1:35 amBro, when she asked you to lie you should have known. Any ways love makes one stupid. But the best thing to do now is completely cutoff from her. Trust me once a cheater always a cheater. She will fumble in her marriage that time please don’t be a back up guy. Have some dignity. Try to distract yourself.
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AArpitaninja487
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April 3, 2025 at 8:27 pmYou know exactly what you have to do. Be a man leave those wrong thoughts as far away as possible and become something that makes you proud of yourself. The best response you can give her is no response at all. This is gonna be the most difficult thing to do as you invested yourself but just ignore everything get away from her and start a new. Learn from it thats the best thing you can do right now. -
IIndianshantanu4183
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April 3, 2025 at 8:27 pmChill kar bhai at the end of time we all get old and we all pass away-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:38 pmBut if doesn’t mean we get used every time.
Even lord Krishna killed his cousin even after forgiving her more then 100+ times.
Forgiveness is a thing but not on expense for you life and well being.
When that same person is the one who after forgiving her multiple time, took me out like an dump after she got comfortable Nd knowing she will be happy at his house after marriage.-
IIndianshantanu4183
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April 3, 2025 at 8:45 pmJust went through your profile and got to know that your ex is muslii , i don’t understand bro how were you even hoping that musli woman would marry you? They just use you for fun but always marry m since they know it’s not easy to convince their regressive households.-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:49 pmShe made me believe
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EExpertstar3644
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April 4, 2025 at 1:34 amKrishna was never attached to anything he was just doing his duty but you were attached to her. I think none should be attached( Attachment is Suffering)if she leaves you’re fucked up-
EExperthero9759
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April 4, 2025 at 2:56 amI am not attached to her-
EExpertstar3644
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April 4, 2025 at 3:03 amI can’t understand why did you helped her to marry someone else
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CCalmhero3095
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April 3, 2025 at 8:43 pmSimp desevere this-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 8:49 pmI was not simp wtf? -
SSmartfalcon7499
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April 4, 2025 at 12:23 amHow’s he a simp? He never knew about that other guy-
CCalmhero3095
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April 4, 2025 at 6:06 amThe very thing he kept on going with her demand is simping. He should have lead her not the other way around.
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SSuperramesh5271
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April 3, 2025 at 9:19 pmMan itโs tough. What youโre going through is horrible. People on here are normalising. They donโt understand shit.
You need to cut her off entirely, if you want you can put it on social media. Thereโs nothing wrong with that. But it wonโt get you anywhere. Sheโs a terrible terrible person. Karma will get to her.
In the meantime you need to work on your self. Start going to the gym. Exercise every day. Try to work or read something or the other. Keep yourself busy.
You will get out of this. There are horrible people in this world. I hope you recover soon man.-
EExperthero9759
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April 3, 2025 at 9:59 pmI used to do everything meditation,gym, study, gaming, job I left all for her because was peace and to study to get her. She was like my life in a human form. Everything remind me of that person I loved
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LLuckyseeker8203
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April 3, 2025 at 10:26 pmI’m sorry, but why were you in touch with her after she got married? Even if she told you that she would still come be with you, whatever- what happened to your self-respect, OP? Never put anybody else above yourself and what you stand for, no matter what.ย
If you’re considering putting a picture of the two of you (I’m guessing it’s an intimate one), please think of the legal consequences before you do that. You’ve your whole life ahead of you and you can choose to take this as a lesson and work on finding what’s right for you.-
EExperthero9759
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April 4, 2025 at 2:58 amNo intimate one, normal video call. With both our face hidden
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VVineettiger954
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April 4, 2025 at 12:07 amMove on. -
WWiseeagle3111
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April 4, 2025 at 12:46 amIm sorry this happened to u. But, all of this that u said sounds pathetic.Be a man, accept that u made a mistake, learn what u did wrong and what you could have done better and move on. Put all this behind you.
Crying like a little bi*ch not only makes you look like you can’t handle adversities life throws at u, it just makes u look weak and pathetic. No girl is ever going to respect you for behaving like a weak pushover.
Give it a few days and you will realize that all of this Crying you r doing for a girl who was not worth it.you yourself will start to feel ashamed of you reaction to this.
Count your blessings and learn to control your emotions.
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HHappyguru1072
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April 4, 2025 at 1:16 amNothing can be done legally, and taking revenge is also bad. It might give you a short boost however will not last.If you want to talk, I am all ears.
Always remember, people (gf/bf/friends) are a part of our part so if we keep it that way things are a bit easier.
However if you make them your world a situation like this happens.I know it is easier said than done but you need to build yourself again.
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SSwiftbro1162
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