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RWe both are 23 and she lives in Bangalore. Recently she started hanging out with a new group of friends from a mutual friend from college and there was this guy who started talking to her. Cut to the chase, recently when they all hung out, he asked and leaned in for a kiss to which she said no and that she’s not interested. After that all of them met up again at the friends place and this time when she was by herself on a call, he came in and kissed her. Once she realised what was happening she yelled at him and immediately left.
Now once I got to hear this from her ( I’m in a different city) , I was obviously filled with rage. I want to know all my options before I decide to beat him up.
I want to talk her through the legal way if she’s up for it. I don’t think she would be ready for the whole FIR ordeal because there’s so much to follow up on right, including appearing before a court. She won’t be in the mindset to do that after being assaulted.
I wanted to know what all our other options are
Preferably one with less involvement of the victim.
So there are no witnesses, but one piece of evidence I guess is a message of him apologising through chat after both incidents.
I read about NCRs. What are the formalities for it and what are the other options to proceed legally?
And ig it’s to be expected that the cops aren’t going to be exactly friendly right. Any tips on how to talk to them. And as a boyfriend, I can accompany her that’s it, since it’s not a legal relationship. -
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BFuck the laws just beat the shit out of him. He won’t go to cops because if he does your girlfriend can file SA case on him.
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ANot advisable…Go the legal route…Tu usko marega fir when you are not in town he might retaliate, which might become a bigger problem.
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FTo be very honest. I don’t think police would take any much of high legal action against him. They could ask the other guy for apology.
What I can suggest is that Call the mf threaten him with gaaliya + threaten filing FIR if he is again anywhere near her + asking him to apologise to your gf.
And also tell your gf to learn some self defense. Some Men can really go down shit. She is the only one who could protect herself first. -
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CThey both kissed, before someone could tell you or you got to know it somehow, she just made up this story. They are soon gonna fuck each other
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MOh! Look at that. Only took five hours to start the victim blaming, and just 14 upvotes in 44 minutes. Keep it up fellas.
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R# OPs Disney fantasy crumbling cause how can she?
Ps: Flirt, Fun, New, Attention >>> Long Distance old boring safe “taken for granted” relationship.
– Do you know any of her contacts there?
– Can they corroborate verify any of this?
– Can you trust / ask anyone there of the vibe dynamics playing out between them?She’s likely enjoyed the attention and banter and lost her Awarness in the giggles and laughter she was floating on. Later she’s having guilt & buyers remorse so she’s projecting it on said dude.
Save yourself a future repeat of XL at Orchard
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SThe ball is in your court..you can literally make his life hell because kissing without the will is sexual harassment and the Indian law is very strict about it..but at the same time, you have to talk it with your girlfriend about what she wants..it is not about how you feel and what you want, but about how she feels and what she wants.
BE ON HER SIDE AND RESPECT WHATEVER CHOICE SHE MAKES; YOU MUST FIGHT WITH HER, NOT AGAINST THE CULPRIT.
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VFault on her to attend a place where that guy was there after the first incident. I feel you deserve better friend.
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LHow much money do you have for this? File FIR, police will say no, will scare your gf that things will be nasty in court and they will ask her questions in explicit language which will make her uncomfortable, pay them. Court hearings. Travel here. Appoint a lawyer. This guy needs to be taught a lesson. Rip apart his life. If he is working, contact his HR with FIR copy and details. If he is studying, let them know. Bring a social media campaign against this. Assume that somehow your GF’s identity will be revealed somewhere. Still protect her at all costs. Fight with this injustice. Marry her. Have kids. Tell them the story later. Have a discussion with this offender guy via a group of 6feet tall, black, bearded, gym goers, goon like people, tell him that you have planned all this. Tear apart his world. Girl will be yours.
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Ashe is 23 and staying in Bengaluru, college passout, I assume she would be working and most probably in IT. So this new group will most probably be of similar set of colleagues. 1 thing I know about of this city is these educated people wont go against anyone’s will to do this crap, of course exceptions might be there but most probably Mawali type people wont be in this group, fkboys/flirty boys can surely be there. There are high chances he wud have received some positive response of his flirts from ur gf side, so he took his chance. But nobody simply leans over a girl to kiss her without any hint. Off course ur gf wont be fully interested but ideally if she doesn’t like his company she can straightaway avoid the meetup with this group for 2nd instance. I simply dont understand if she so much care about u and ur relationship, why wud she still hangout with this group knowing that guy will also join especially after the incident which happened at the trip. She told u bcz of the mutual friend as anyways u wud have got the info. Dude mark my words, if u guyz wont shift to the same location, in 3 yrs u r going to lose ur girl with the existing scenario and it wont happen all of a sudden it starts the same way as it is happening now, this guy might not be that great this time but u wont be lucky again and again, time will change and so will the guyz. U cant stop ur gf to visit these social gatherings or outings else she’ll breakup citing her freedom, that feeling sud come within her herself what group to choose and what guyz to avoid, if she is not capable of doing it, then u better change ur location or change ur girl.
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ULook, I can beat him up for you. What’s in it for you? Pure satisfaction. No evidence, no witnesses, and your girlfriend? She’ll just think it’s Karma.
Me? I do MMA. You’re not hiring a thug, you’re hiring premium pain.
As for the cops? Please, I’ve got a black belt in vanishing and a PhD in plausible deniability. Worst case, I run. And trust me, I’ve outrun guilt, exes, and married men.
So yeah the contract’s open
For bonus I can send you the photo of his bloody face with a nice frame and all
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BBefore you do anything please verify how accurate her story is, whether she is intentionally skipping some details or just lying about something.
1. Hanging out with a new group of friends comes with a lack of trust where you must think about your wellbeing; in the first incident a guy tried to kiss her yet she didn’t think twice before hanging out with the same group where the same guy would be present.
2. Why was she all by herself? It implies that this guy might have planned it and asked everyone to leave him alone with her, if so then everyone who was present there is complicit.
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