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PI’m a younger brother from India, and I need some genuine advice.
My elder brother is married but doesn’t earn anything. He once tried doing business, but it failed badly and he ended up wasting a lot of money. Ever since then, he’s refused to get a job—even when my parents suggest it, he just avoids responsibility and brushes it off.
Despite this, my parents still pay for his lifestyle—his wife’s needs, his unnecessary spending, travel, everything. My dad still runs the household and carries all this weight silently.
Let’s say we have wealth worth 100 units. He’s already indirectly wasted around 10 through his choices, and still adds to the burden and on the other hand, I am younger, working hard to build my own future.
What worries me is this: when I settle down, my wife might question this imbalance. Why am I expected to stay silent while my brother enjoys a free ride? I don’t want future conflicts, and I don’t want to be taken for granted.
Has anyone else faced this kind of situation? Should I have this conversation with my parents now or wait till I’m more financially stable? How do I protect my future without being seen as selfish?
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PFuture conflicts? The fact that you’re thinking about the inheritance weightage make you no different than your brother.
You’re building your own future right? Why do you have to worry about your father’s inheritance?
Build your own future man. You don’t have to worry about what your future wife may or may not say.
This is coming from some whose father is an ex MLA. I still moved to another city with 10,000 bucks to make my own inheritance. And to be honest, the feeling that you get my creating your own wealth…. No father’s inheritance will give you that.
Once you build your own wealth, your inheritance is just a bonus on top.
And if your to-be asks about these imbalances, plus run away from that lady.
I might be wrong and these things are totally subjective. But these are my 2 cents.
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Pyou protect your future by earning your worth and your money. the moment you eye your parents money is when you will be rightly seen as selfish. the moment you look to get your parents money for yourself, you enter into the same boat as your brother and nothing seperates you from him. idk your age but if you are in clg going age as long as they dont deny paying your fees (provided it is reasonable) you dont have the right to expect anything from them. Now on the plus side when you earn your money you are not obligated to share it/contribute it for use by ur brother…no legal advice reqd as there is nothing illegal happening here!
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