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SHi, my name is let’s say A. I’m writing to inform you about my personal circumstances and the challenges I’ve been facing.
I got married to let’s say B in 2023. I came to Australia in April 2024, and I am currently on a Bridging B Visa. Since then, I have been experiencing emotional distress in my personal life.
From the beginning, I have faced constant criticism and emotional abuse over small things—such as wearing earrings he disapproves of or the clothes I wear. He also scolds and threatens me regarding physical intimacy. He is a very aggressive person—he has pushed me and held my hand tightly on several occasions. This has happened many times. He has repeatedly threatened to send me back to India and has said he would cancel my visa. He often says things like, “Why did I bring you here? I should have left you in India.” This behavior has continued for almost a year.
This is the second marriage for both of us. B mentioned that his ex-wife married him for his permanent residency status, and now he claims to be “more prepared” this time. But in reality, he often provokes me, records our conversations, and even threatens my family members. This has taken a huge toll on my mental and emotional well-being.
He buys things for me and takes photos to show others, trying to appear supportive—but that is not the truth. He is very manipulative. I left my career, my parents, and everything behind to be with him. This is also my second marriage, and while he initially seemed kind, his behavior changed drastically after the wedding.
I have taken full responsibility for all household chores, including cooking and cleaning. I’ve been trying my best to adjust to a new country, culture, and lifestyle. Despite this, he constantly tells me I’m doing nothing and keeps threatening to send me back to India.
This is heartbreaking because my parents are elderly, and my father is a cancer patient. If I’m forced to return, I fear the emotional toll it will take on them—especially if something happens to me.
His actions have pushed me into a very dark mental space. I feel like he is manipulating the situation in a way that could drive me to harm myself—and I truly don’t want to go down that path. He has also applied for a Bridging A Visa, possibly to travel to India, and has threatened to cancel my sponsorship altogether.
I am reaching out because this has been a deeply painful journey, and I don’t know what steps to take next. I urgently need your support and guidance. If anything happens to this relationship, I want to be able to stay here in Australia, rebuild my life, stand on my own feet, and live independently—without burdening my parents. If the situation worsens, I sincerely hope you will be there to help me.
Please help me. I am in urgent need of support.
Kind regards,
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FYaar I’m not a lawyer but I hope you get out of this, a lot of people will give solutions. Bada haramkhor pati hai aapka, maybe he’s buying things and keeping photos so that if you appeal for divorce, he can show that you were happy with him and you’re the problem. Stay safe and strong sis
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SNot a lawyer. Being in Australia you have more rights and support from the law there than in India. Use it to your advantage. Others and family always lean on the side of “try to make things work”. This compatibility between people who have to spend their lives together either is present or is not, it can rarely be coerced out of someone. A persons behaviour comes out of their character which comes out of their personal experience and background. So imagine the effort it would take to undo all that, and install a different character in them.
I am not sure of your rights as per the current visa/residency class that you hold there, but find out your rights within the provision of the local laws and give it a good thought, whether you would like to live like that for the rest of your life with him, is it going to get better, or worse?, what should be done to bring you out of this situation with the support of the local laws via your rights, can you be self sufficient without him in a foreign land, if situation comes to worse? Can your job enable you to do that?.
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SYes I have been thinking of contacting the services here, Thankyou for your response truly appreciate it much needed for me because everytime I do something to make it right it was always been used against me or tried to lable me as being selfish
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SSeems like you are being gaslighted. Taking care of yourself whether physically, mentally or emotionally is not selfishness, not giving a damn about others who don’t care about you is also not selfishness.
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