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UI am belongs to lower middle class family. My brother is in relationship with a girl for last 3year. Recently my brother tell us about the girl . My family and the girl family met. But the girl family is not good . My parents refused for marriage with this girl. But my brother convinced us . Due to other circumstances and money problem we said we cant do marriage now.but the girl family put lots of pressure on us for marriage. The girl started blackmailing to my brother. She is saying she will do suicide. After this kind drama my brother said to that girl , i cant marry you because my family didn’t like you. Now girl threatening she will do suicide. My brother is a very simple person. He can’t tolerate this kind of stress. Iam afraid my brother didn’t do anything wrong.
Please help if anything goes wrong then we can’t afford for legal fight. My parents are in very difficult situation. We are not able sleep .
Please help us
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VIf they were intimate, then she will file case against you brother for false promise on pretext of marriage he used her for sex.
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SWell, ask your brother to take ss of any chat where she is threatening him with s__cide! Or do voice recording.
Keep them as proof or go one step further and submit these recordings to the nearby police station. Your brother is not responsible for her life +she is literally blackmailing him
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UCan she file cases against him? Yes.
Do they have any strong base? No. Firstly, she can’t do any false promise to marry or anything because they were never intimate and even if they were you are guilty only if you wanted to use her from the beginning. Backing out of a marriage due to family reason is not the same as that.
Even if she commits suicide, your brother and your family won’t be guilty. You are responsible for someone’s suicide only if you compelled her to commit it. If she cannot handle a breakup that’s not your problem.
Lastly, threatening someone with suicide is illegal. You have to get those proofs, get a lawyer and get restraining orders against her and her family.
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UIt’s difficult to ascertain sex over the internet. Since the original commenter hasn’t made any corrections with regards to OP’s reply, they could actually be a ‘Sir’. What did you deem to accomplish with your passive aggressive comment here ma’am?
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UYou’re right, it’s difficult to ascertain gender over the internet which is why OP shouldn’t be assuming.
My goal was to make OP aware of their prejudices. We all have them and won’t unlearn them until someone points it out.
I saw OP replying with ‘sir’ on another comment. Why is it when someone providing legal advice is automatically a ‘sir’? We must collectively unlearn such prejudices in our minds, for the betterment of our society. Starting with one person at a time.
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UI understand and fully support women excelling in their fields. However, in this particular instance, what exactly do you expect OP to do? Should they start asking everyone’s gender before replying?
In school, I was taught that when addressing a letter, it’s better to use “Sir” as the honorific unless you know the recipient is female. This practice is not meant to insult women. According to a 2023 article in The Economic Times, the sex ratio among lawyers is 20:3. This means that the probability of a lawyer being male is six times higher than that of being female.
I do agree that small actions contribute to larger change. However, this was not the right moment to “school” OP. My reasons are as follows:
1. OP has more urgent issues to address at the moment. This might lead them to overlook your comment, or in the worst-case scenario, it could cause them to lose interest in the broader message of feminism.
2. While my reply might seem absurd or unwarranted for what was a simple comment about not assuming gender, your comment felt similarly unwarranted in this particular context.
With that said, I’m aware that what I’ve written may face resistance, but I don’t wish to prolong this debate. I hope you have a great day, ma’am/sir!
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CFile a non-cognizable complaint with the police giving all the facts and that she is threatening suicide. Involving a lawyer in this process will be helpful. Do this if you don’t want any trouble in the future. This is the legal way.
I am a lawyer.
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UGet a lawyer and start the process. If the family is not good, it’s better to cover yourself.
The lawyer can help in putting a case on the suicide threat. This will help put other issues to rest – like case of backing out of marriage after promising etc.
And do not come in the pressure of getting your brother married to her!!! -
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Kwahi toh… 3 saal se relationship m hai and shaadi ke time ‘family nahi maan rahi’ …. bc ladki toh bolegi hi ye sab..
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SUnfortunately, in Indian courts, if the girl is dead, whether suicide or by murder, then there are very less chances of her harasser being convicted, so your brother will not be in much trouble in the case she commits suicide. What you should be worried about is false rape case she can put on your brother which always proves to be more dangerous for a man than if he genuinely commits murder. Be prepared legally with lawyer ready to reply to any legal notice and get your brothers mobile to search for any sexting which can be made to look like they had sex for example sexual fantasy talk and such. Inform your lawyer if any such thing is found.
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UI love how in all these kind of posts the man is a simple innocent boy who is absolved of all kinds of accountability. When in reality he is a spineless coward who can’t take a stand for the woman he loves. If his parents words are like gods gospel to him why didn’t he discuss the girls background with his parents prior to entering a relationship with her? Why is he disclosing everything to his parents after 3 f@@king years? Understand this scenario from the girls pov. In the lower middle class community her and her family’s reputation will be permanently ruined if your brother doesn’t marry her. No other man will marry her ever. In her eyes it’s better to die than live like this
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