What precautions should I take before marrying ?

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        January 17, 2025 at 12:38 pm
        So that I don’t end up being atul subhash

        Or worse . paternity fraud happens to me and I have to give child support for child not even mine .

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          January 17, 2025 at 12:42 pm
          Do not get married honestly if you feel this way about your future partner.

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              January 17, 2025 at 12:44 pm
              Rightly said

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                  January 17, 2025 at 1:55 pm
                  Lmao downvoters go crazzyyyyy πŸ˜‹

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                  January 17, 2025 at 12:46 pm
                  I am not accusing the gender . But our courts . Who never thinks of men

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                      January 17, 2025 at 1:14 pm
                      There is nothing you can do

                      As suggested, don’t marry at all

                      If these are your concern then there is no saving of you when you get case against you

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                          January 17, 2025 at 1:15 pm
                          why my comment is getting downvoted ?

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                              January 17, 2025 at 1:24 pm
                              Redditors are just like our law, doesn’t make any sense.

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                                January 17, 2025 at 1:39 pm
                                You’re accusing the whole world of being in purple. But in this case you’re not realising that it’s because of the purple sunglasses you’re wearing.
                                Thats why you’re being downvoted.

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                                    January 17, 2025 at 1:42 pm
                                    I have clearly written that it’s not gender war . The courts are the problem

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                                        January 17, 2025 at 2:00 pm
                                        If that’s the case, then why are you assuming that the person you are going to marry would do such a thing. If you are insecure, then it’s on you.

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                                            January 17, 2025 at 2:01 pm
                                            atul may also have not thought about that . Many other’s also don’t. Kya hua atul ka ?

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                                                January 17, 2025 at 2:29 pm
                                                Isn’t it a cultural problem then? A deep rooted societal issue?

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                                                    January 17, 2025 at 2:36 pm
                                                    to law /system hai kyun bc ?

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                                    January 17, 2025 at 12:43 pm
                                    Marry the right person.

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                                        January 17, 2025 at 12:44 pm
                                        +1

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                                          January 17, 2025 at 12:46 pm
                                          what’s the criteria to differentiate? and what’s the guarantee that the person won’t change ?

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                                              January 17, 2025 at 12:50 pm
                                              Learn people skills. It’s hard, but the only option.

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                                                  January 17, 2025 at 12:51 pm
                                                  that’s literally shooting in the dark . hoping to hit the target

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                                                      January 17, 2025 at 5:17 pm
                                                      That’s the definition of marriage.Β  It’s a lottery.Β 

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                                                    January 17, 2025 at 12:54 pm
                                                    Learn to be a good judge of people.

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                                                      January 17, 2025 at 2:42 pm
                                                      Even life doesn’t come with guarantee. Jeena chorr do. 🫑

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                                                          January 17, 2025 at 2:46 pm
                                                          Main bagawat karunga

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                                                      January 17, 2025 at 12:44 pm
                                                      Don’t marry if you feel like you are going to end up as him. Marry only when you are confident your partner won’t do something like that.

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                                                          January 17, 2025 at 12:47 pm
                                                          but sometimes people change . Main problem is the law and the system. I am not against women

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                                                              January 17, 2025 at 12:48 pm
                                                              Thats why I said dont marry until and unless you are 100% positive that your wife won’t do something like that

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                                                                  January 17, 2025 at 12:50 pm
                                                                  ok tell particularly how to be sure ? One logic I can think of is to marry a financially independent woman who is of High morals ( morals means here , professional ( imandari ) ) . Honesty , integrity are some qualities maybe . Can be someone who says what she does .

                                                                  I don’t know If I am thinking it correctly or not

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                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 1:36 pm
                                                                      Dude it’s not an appliance that you can claim guarantee on. A spouse is a human being as yourself. If you treat them as you’d like to be treated then you should be fine. Also you should marry only after you’ve found the one which will happen only after we mature as human beings first.

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                                                                          January 17, 2025 at 2:48 pm
                                                                          You should have the skills to find a good person just being a mature and thinking them as a human being doesn’t mean they will also see you as a human being, there are many men who are only seen as ATM even though they see their wife as a human being.

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                                                                  January 17, 2025 at 1:03 pm
                                                                  Lol you should not get married.

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                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 1:04 pm
                                                                      Why shouldn’t I get married? What’s wrong to protect myself against any evil individual?

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                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 1:06 pm
                                                                      Transfer everything to ur Moms name xd

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                                                                          January 17, 2025 at 1:07 pm
                                                                          yeah that can be a way

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                                                                          Don’t marry a stranger. Date for atleast a year before marrying anyone.

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                                                                              January 17, 2025 at 1:08 pm
                                                                              given that 1 saal ke andar andar sachhai dikhne lage ( agar shuru mein dhong kar rahi hogi to )

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                                                                                  January 17, 2025 at 1:12 pm
                                                                                  Yeah 1 year is the minimum i would say. If you marry a stranger after meeting a few times you are taking a big risk. You could get a good person or a terrible person. Atul was not dumb he would have tried to judge the womans character before marriage but it is easy for people to pretend for short periods. I would also say that make sure she is sexually attracted to you. Like she is actually wanting to be with you romatically and you are not just a provider for her.

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                                                                                  January 17, 2025 at 1:20 pm
                                                                                  Even dating for 10 years is no guarantee. Have seen cases like that – cheating after 10 years of being in a relationship.

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                                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 2:47 pm
                                                                                      Nothing is a guarantee. You could die crossing the road tomorrow but it is much less riskier than jumping off a 30 story building.Β 

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                                                                                    January 17, 2025 at 1:12 pm
                                                                                    don’t marry a woman

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                                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 1:13 pm
                                                                                      Waise to i would advise not to get married & many more down the line have advised the same BUT karke dekle…

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                                                                                        January 17, 2025 at 1:18 pm
                                                                                        ans mile toh mujhe bhi batana 10 saal baad jarurat padegi:)

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                                                                                            January 17, 2025 at 1:20 pm
                                                                                            mujhe 6-7 baad jarurat padegi

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                                                                                                January 17, 2025 at 1:30 pm
                                                                                                mera simple hai agar totally trust kr skne wali ldki nxt 5 saal me nhi mili nd india me kuch prevention laws nhi bne fake cases ke liye toh foreign me hi kr lunga shadi,wha pa divorce bhi hua to atleast puri jindagi regret nhi hoga

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                                                                                              don’t marry a woman

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                                                                                                January 17, 2025 at 1:20 pm
                                                                                                Establishing a trust, transfer all the assets in trust name.

                                                                                                Chill 😎

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                                                                                                  January 17, 2025 at 1:24 pm
                                                                                                  Marry a foreigner and move out of India.

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                                                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 1:43 pm
                                                                                                      This is the best advice for OP. I am intending to do something similar.

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                                                                                                        January 17, 2025 at 2:04 pm
                                                                                                        What “foreigner” are we talking about?

                                                                                                        I think the OP is insanely immature if he is asking these questions. He can’t comprehend “matrimonial markets”, he is in for a rude shock when he realises “dating markets” (especially in the west).

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                                                                                                            Foreigner in the sense- a person who is not Indian and not all foreigners are from west. If you are rich enough even a middle class Indian can get a women from poor countries.

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                                                                                                                January 17, 2025 at 2:47 pm
                                                                                                                Ok, then we a new problem of recognition of marriage, under which law? (poor, rich, east, west…)

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                                                                                                                    You can leave Indian citizenship, get a better citizenship and marry a girl.

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                                                                                                                        January 17, 2025 at 7:00 pm
                                                                                                                        What are you even talking about? What is get a “better citizenship” mean? Again, what laws are we talking about and which country? If you say US, UK, Canada, or Australia, good luck getting screwed over there as well.

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                                                                                                                            Did you think for 4 hrs to counter my comment?

                                                                                                                            Anyway a person who feels Indian law is not safe for him and he who even went looking for a foreign girl will obviously be willing to get a citizenship outside Indian whether that citizenship is bad or not will matter less to him.

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                                                                                                                                “Did you think for 4 hrs to counter my comment?” You are not special, mate where I have to “counter” your comment. It’s called people having other commitments in the real world

                                                                                                                                Like I said, good luck if you think it’s that simple.Β 

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                                                                                                                        Non Indian, need to make an effort, come out of this stupid Indian way of marriage mind set.

                                                                                                                        Modern problems require modern solutions.

                                                                                                                        Accept it that Indian marriages are not working out anymore.

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                                                                                                                      January 17, 2025 at 1:35 pm
                                                                                                                      Dont marry

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                                                                                                                        January 17, 2025 at 1:45 pm
                                                                                                                        Dont do it

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                                                                                                                          See as a guy you can do anything but just think about it let’s say the child is not your are you going to pay any attention to the child and you will be so bitter that you are going to wish bad for the child the girl who does this kind of things doesn’t understand that also it will be really difficult for this kind of girls because after divorce no guy in his right mind will marry them because they will think that if she did this to the first person she might do this to me also so they will end up lonely and bitter in their old age and even if they have child a child needs father very badly and if he doesn’t get a Happy Family he will suffer like anything and you will end up blaming his mother or father or whatever and surely will be reading all this stuff on the Internet also even so he will be living a bad life and in the old age of the parents he will surely try to get back at them

                                                                                                                          moral of the story don’t do bad otherwise bad will happen to you

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                                                                                                                              are you serious? you are defending the girl who tricked the man to believe the child is his ? are u really serious?

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                                                                                                                              January 17, 2025 at 2:13 pm
                                                                                                                              Ppl who are downvoting if ppl talks abt gender based law, are u even married or still in dating phase or even in India.

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                                                                                                                                Brother I hear you I would suggest to talk to a lawyer and ask about if you do what Achraf Hakimi a PSG footballer did is something similar available in Indian law! You said it right people can change or pretend to be someone else for long enough

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                                                                                                                                    my immediate question now is . Why people have downvoted me ?

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                                                                                                                                    I’m telling you, if you have thoughts like that, then for your own peace of mind, dont get married. Relationships and marriage have become something like a dice roll now, legally women have more power now and there are too many white knight and simps among men who will come to support of the woman even if she is in the wrong. You will have to fight a gruelling court battle for a long time the time you are proven innocent you will have lost your peace of mind for the rest of your life. See what’s happening to that judge Rita Kaushik – Absolutely nothing, no one’s even talking about her.

                                                                                                                                    2 men that I know of are going through this and trust me it’s not pretty, for them as well as their families. Again – Dont get married, there is no legal solution to your query.

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                                                                                                                                      Op. If you want to marry, do a family background check. What happens after marriage is for future purpose.

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                                                                                                                                        Marriage is a relationship based on trust. Marry someone you trust, and you wont have these questions

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                                                                                                                                          BACKGROUND CHECK. The more you do the better. Ask anyone who might know your prospect. His a PI if needed. Ask multiple people because some people lie. Read body language. Don’t ignore red flag

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                                                                                                                                            Looking at OP’s history, seems he is barely 22-23. Beta. Baith jao. Abhi bahut kychh dekhna baaki hai.

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