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UI am a guy and I have been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years she is 23 and I am 19. So for the context my girlfriend used to date some guy before me but she broke up with him cuz he cheated on her(that’s all Ik about them). But he was really obsessed with her and tried to get back but my girlfriend blocked him from everywhere.My girlfriend was really stressed that he might fight with her again, I am 6’1 and go to gym too so I am strong enough to fight him and reassurred her nothing will happen.
But last year when I got my college I had to leave my hometown so my girlfriend was alone now. I used to talk to her daily and told her if anything is off she can let me know anytime. So 2 weeks ago the guy came again and tried to talk with her and was being touchy with her so she slapped him in front of his friends that hurted his ego. She shared that incident with me so I came back and was with her for emotional support. I told her why don’t she file complaint against him but she said she don’t wanna get into this matter, now I didn’t wanna force her to file complaint as i thought at the end it’s her choice as a person what she wants to do. She also has a small brother in grade 10th and you won’t believe her ex went and fking harassed that boy and beated him. He came crying to his parents and when asked who beated him he said he was an adult. And today I got a message from that same guy that he will even beat me up if I don’t leave my girlfriend. Now I don’t know what to fucking do. My girlfriend still doesn’t want to file complaint against him. So can someone tell me what should I do and why is my girlfriend acting this way could it be that there is a reason she doesn’t want to consult police as the guy might blackmail her? Need your advice pls
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UBruh how is that pedo? It’s barely 4-5 years age gap. A pedo is a 50 something person dating a minor.
Just because someone is dating a minor doesn’t make them a pedo. Many people in 12th grade turn 18 and have relationships. You’re comparing those people with sick pedophiles.
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MIt is, you generally don’t a minor, if you think its OK to date one then you are sick.
So will you say the same thing if a 21yr man dates a 17 yr girl?
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UYes. Having intercourse with a minor is not okay. But a few years age gap is not pedophilia imo. I’ve seen people in schools having relationships in and around 10–12th grade and some of them are not minors.
Pedophilia is a sick fetish. Minors are protected because it is assumed that they don’t have the capacity to make rational decisions. But let’s face it, no one suddenly has that capacity on their 18th birthday.
You find it pedophilia for a 19y old to be dating a 17 year old. But not if it’s a 50year old dating a 19y old.
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MI think you didn’t understand their current age is 19 and 23 before 2 yrs
he was 17 and she was 21.
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UIt’s still not pedophilia. What would you say if it was a 18y1day old person dating a 17y364days old person? Is that also pedophilia?
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U1. You should file a complaint yourself to the police as you must never take someone like that guy as a joke even if you are stronger than him, cuz it can become a matter of life and death as well
2. If your parents know about you people being together then disclose about the guy to them
3. Tell your gf to tell her parents about that other guy harassing her
4. Try resolving the issue with that guy yourself peacefully, try convincing him that they both aren’t meant to be together and that he should respect her choice if he truly loves her
5. Try telling the parents of the guy about him harassing a girl (being anonymous or telling them straight is your choice)-
U1 alright I will convince her to file the complaint today
2 ,3 she has really strict parents so we can’t tell them
Bhai the thing is that guy is a gujjar and is always ready to fight i myself am a jaat but still ok jaat and gujjars just love to fight so ik talking with him won’t work.-
UYeah try convincing her at all cost because you should not take this lightly.
I understand the problem of having strict parents but see if anyone from both of your family is good enough for you two to include in this situation, choose the person carefully and see that if they are really understanding and mature enough to help you.
I know it is a difficult task to convince bailbuddhi people but still give it a try, who knows maybe he will understand, but yeah never go to a place if he invites you or your gf, just limiting your conversation to chatting if you are doing that. Otherwise consult any adult from your college or gym or from any place in case things go down.
Take it from a Law student, don’t take things Lightly if you think something is wrong, report to the police or any adult immediately, don’t care about your future with her if your present isn’t secured yet
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UI have told the matter to my older brother and now we both will decide how to handle this and I will convince my gf to file complaint today. Thank you so much for your advice brother appreciate it!!
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UA wise choice indeed.
I am glad to help you brother, stay strong and treat her well, my wishes are with you two.-
USo I had a talk with her father about this and told him everything, he was very angry at first but thanked me for letting him know the truth. We have decided to file a complaint against him and tell things resolve me and my gf are leaving the town. Her brother is also recovering just fine
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UWhat strength are you talking about here? How does your height fucking matter in this case? What’s your height going to do if he comes up with a gun to you or a knife to her? Don’t be stupid enough to fight him as that guy isn’t sane enough to fuck up with. These people are like a well shaken up can of soda, remove the clip and they go boom. Tell her to stay away from him, block him ignore him, you do the same. Show your strength by informing the authorities and filing a complaint. If you can’t do this then let her PARENTS handle it. You are not one of authority to her, her parents are. Tell her to address everything to her parents. That’s the best bet you got. Hoping things get better
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U1. You are too young to get into any legal trouble because of your gf.
2. Your gf is too young to file a police complaint without her parents being involved. Already her younger brother is getting targeted, so her family should be a part of this legal battle and should support your gf. If that’s not possible as per your gf, she is screwing her own life by being harassed by such an ex. You should not be in relationship with such stupid people
3. Focus on your studies/career. Mark my words she isn’t your last gf so don’t waste energy on her. -
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