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UI am at the point I am planning for suicide and it is well known that police will try to harras my parents and maybe extort money out so what should I do in order to prevent that because I don’t want to more pain in thier ass I have already gave them enough pain.
The only idea in my mind is to mention that they are not the reason for suicide in my suicide note but if you have please let me know I will be dying somewhere next week
Thank you so much in advance
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UHey OP!
Things may be hard and we may not understand how bad it is for you. You may not be able to explain it either but everyone can have a purpose. Find your purpose. Go away and start afresh. It may be difficult but you’ll give yourself the chance you deserve. Life and circumstances may not have given you that chance so give yourself a chance. Help people however you can. That can be a start
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PBhai yaar tum aaj Kal ke bacche. Too soft. 5-10 backs kya lag gaya suicide ki baatein karne lagte hain, 2-4 lakh ka loss liya stock market main chal diye suicide karne, girlfriend ne chod diya, atmahatya hi ek solution hai fir. Bhai yeh sab chutiyape se niklo. Bhai be a man, face your circumstances. Don’t chicken out, stand tall face that shit, what are you afraid off ? Your parents ? Your friends ? Your girlfriend ? Police ? Fuck that shit man. Show up. Take accountability, apologise where you need to and face the music. Be a man. Because life is going to throw a lot worse at you. Buckle up man.
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UFirst of all if you want to kys over your parents perception of you, you are not at fault. Not just your parents but anyone who makes you want to kys is not worth harming yourself at all.
Your life is not about appeasing others it’s about what you make of your own living experience. Billions of people around the world do not share the same views conservative Indian children do, if they are living just fine without having to constantly think of their parents so can you.
It’s not your job to please them, cut them off if you can or smarten up enough to create an environment where you can cut them off in the future. That’s the battle you want to fight not yourself.
You come across as a young individual, I know it’s hard but use the internet, cater your life to be financially independent. I’m sure you’ll want to explore a whole lot of things you’ve never even thought of. Who knows you might end up becoming a psychiatrist yourself, don’t rob yourself of a potentially beautiful life ahead. I wish you the best.
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i am so sorry you feel this is the only option you have. I would like to share a poem that helped me
# “To the Young Who Want to Die,” by Gwendolyn Brooks
Sit down. Inhale. Exhale.
The gun will wait. The lake will wait.
The tall gall in the small seductive vial
will wait will wait:
will wait a week: will wait through April.
You do not have to die this certain day.
Death will abide, will pamper your postponement.
I assure you death will wait. Death has
a lot of time. Death can
attend to you tomorrow. Or next week. Death is
just down the street; is most obliging neighbor;
can meet you any moment.You need not die today.
Stay here–through pout or pain or peskyness.
Stay here. See what the news is going to be tomorrow.Graves grow no green that you can use.
Remember, green’s your color. You are Spring. -
KOP, I completely understand your helplessness and hopelessness.
It’s okay to be introverted, not so bright in studies. But it’s not okay to give up on your life. Find your purpose and work towards it. None of us are perfect, each one of us strives, struggles and get on with life. Be a better version of yourself not to impress others but yourself.
I have gone through the worst phase than yours but I never gave up on myself. Hear me out, Life is tough but you must be tougher. Live for yourself and believe me, one day you will thank your this decision.
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UBhai tu rahega toh sab sahi hai. Nai rahega toh kuch sahi nai h. Tera rehna important, hai unke liye, tere liye. And you are younger to me , one piece of advice I would give you if you stay longer you will figure out a way and you will feel better.
Don’t punish yourself ku ki unke parameters alag h. Kya pata with time unke parameters change ho jaye.
Bhai we tend to underestimate what we can accomplish in the long run.Take care buddy.
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UDo NOT do it. I may not know or feel your emotions right now however, do know after months, maybe years there will be a time you look back and reflect on your current days and say you made it despite the odds/situations.
But to do that, you’ll have to stay alive.
Trust me, don’t see suicide as profit or loss, problem or solution….life has more to it than just temporary feelings. You did not feel like dying all the time since the moment you were born and will not want to die after some time as well. Unfortunately you are tempted to make this decision of ending it right now but believe it, there’s light on the end of this dark tunnel. If not for anyone or anything, just for the sake of it, don’t think about giving up and just move forward!
Or think of it like this – Being a disappointment hurts but this disappointment WILL turn into a feeling of pride and honour. Your parents will love you. They already love you but it won’t seem so bcoz of your own thoughts and temporary emotional equation between you and your family. But change will happen…..it will happen bcoz Life works that way. Do you want to rip them off of this chance to be proud of you just bcoz you felt sad?
Whatever keeps you moving, do it. Whatever you want to tell yourself or lie to yourself, motivate yourself or just be stubborn. Keep moving Soldier! Comrades from this comment section want to hear from you, 1 year later. And it should come from you only! Not a friend, not a family member, you OP should let us know how things have turned out.
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UIt’s a good thing you are planning. But perhaps you haven’t taken into account the ever-changing flow of life. And since you haven’t, your self un-aliving act will be a failure. Atleast be successful in something. And to be successful, you have to go through shit. You are shit, coz you’re in shit, someday you will pull yourself out, clean yourself, do something for parents and then plan again. Be successful in your own eyes first, then you can successfully carry out the un-aliving act
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BHere’s a life hack. Get a life insurance. Usually there’s a clause that says, the insurance will be void if you commit suicide within 1 year. Make Your mom or dad or both nominees. Write down all the outrageous ways you have thought of making money. Try a few of them. If you succeed in some and end up making money, do some of the stuff in Your bucket list. Use this 1 year to make a detailed will and leave proper instructions and disclaimers. Maybe even write an autobiography. See you in an year.
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UDon’t do it, the trauma you leave behind is more damaging than you think. You may not realize it right now and are trying make an emotion driven decision. Your parents may give you hell because of your actions, but there is no mother or father in the world who can truly hate their child. Take a step back, deep breath and try to think of the good things that are around you. A roof over your head, food to eat, clothes to wear. You obviously have a phone or laptop with internet, so you’re already better off than 50% of the people in the world. Life is so much more than what your eyes are seeing. I suggest that you read “The Gospel of John”. The truth will set you free.
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UHey mate,
I’m not Indian, and I’ve never interacted with this subreddit before, but your post appeared in my timeline and I felt compelled to reply because I was so concerned about you, and for your welfare.
I’m not going to offer any practical advice, simply because I don’t know how the healthcare system works in India, or what support is available from charities and the government and so on. Rather, I’m going to say that I get it.
I’ve felt how you’ve felt, and I’ve been where you are. I’m the youngest of three, and my early twenties was one colossal screw-up after another. I dropped out of university, moved to another country, and things didn’t work out so I had to come home after a year, broke and unemployed. And I felt like a loser son that let everyone down.
The thing is, the only way you could truly let your parents down is by hurting yourself. I don’t know the things that make you feel like a “loser” — and I use inverted quotes, because I truly don’t believe that you are — but they’re temporary, and that’s what you’ve got to remember.
I’m guessing you’re young. I was when I blew up my degree in pursuit of a job overseas that didn’t work out. I was 19, in fact. I came home feeling like an abject failure. And it took some time, but I was able to get my life back on track, and now I’m married with three dogs, my own business, and a little house.
Right now, I feel like you’re staring at your life and feeling like it’s this big, monumental thing that you can’t fix. But the truth is, it doesn’t work like that. You work on the little things, and soon enough the big things don’t seem so formidable.
It was like that with me. I did little things, and suddenly life got better, and I didn’t feel like that loser I once did. It was finding the right job. Going back to university and making new friends. Getting my degree. Meeting my wife. Finding the right antidepressants that worked for my brain chemistry (Duloxetine, FYI). Getting diagnosed with ADHD and starting treatment. Buying my first dog, and then my second, and then my third.
(And don’t discount the possibility of a fourth.)
Your life is just beginning, and you have so many opportunities ahead of you. The problem is that if you hurt yourself, you foreclose on those opportunities.
Your parents raised you. They love you. And the thing is that there’s very little that you can do to change that. There’s nothing so infinite as a parent’s love. And I guarantee that they don’t see you as a loser, and if they could do anything to make you feel better, they would. I imagine that if you told them how you feel, they’d remind you how much they love you, and they’d do anything to help.
I’m speaking from experience there.
I know it’s scary, but you can get through this. You’ve just got to do the little things I told you about. Do you have the means to see a doctor? Can you speak to a therapist? Honestly, getting meds and then articulating the feelings you’re experiencing to someone who can help you process them is an absolute godsend. And when you start to feel better in yourself, you’re able to tackle the big things.
Do you have a passion that you can turn into a career, or a business? Do you want to go back to school? Could you do an apprenticeship (I have no idea if they’re a thing in India like in the UK, or if they work in the same way).
I don’t want to discount the pain you’re feeling, because it’s real, and I imagine at the moment it’s all you’re feeling. But it’s not insurmountable, and you’re too important to let that pain win. Because the thing is, you can beat it.
I really hope you don’t hurt yourself, because I believe that you have a bright, happy life ahead of you. Please, please look after yourself.
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UIt has no solution. They will have to face 2 outcomes- one that they’ll be 99% already dead inside without any will to live anymore and second the societal pressure to handle the criticism no matter what. The world is cold and it will be, if you think misery has end, i am sorry my friend. Its upto you how hard you can goo!! I feel you can go a lot harder and not colder like this.. Common. I aint motivating you, just giving out fax.
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VNothing you do will make it easy for your parents.
Your loss might trigger them to do the same act..
Everything in life can be figured out.
Love, sex, money, respect any thing and everything could be earned back.
My cousin committed suicide..it’s been over 20 years.
Family cannot move on from such events..
It shakes them and breaks them..
If you want someone to talk or vent, reach out.
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HAs long as you are alive there is a chance of possibility. Possibility that you might change and make peace with parents. And trust me only your parents, especially mom loves you from all her soul. Rest others are just transactional based.
Dude, I read on reddit that, a person simply deserves respect simply because that person exists. Not because he is rich or successful etc. so don’t let these expectations feel you small, you are enough just because you exist. Everything else is just chery on top. -
UAs someone who contemplated and attempted suicide years ago, I can tell u this. Please hold on. Life eventually gets better. It might not be tomorrow or next week or next month even. Keep hoping for a better tomorrow and it eventually comes. And when life works in your favour, u will be strong and resilient that everyone will look up to u.
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RSuicide is not an escape. It’s a reset. You will be reborn with the same kind of life and go through the same shit again. You will contemplate suicide again n might do it. Maybe you did it earlier too that’s why you are going through it again. You will be Trapped in this loop of shitty lives until you bear everything n complete your life. So break the cycles and don’t do it. Things will be better for everyone after 29th March
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Uidk if you’ll read this OP but dusro se thoda alag opinion h mera. telling a suicidal person to not kill themselves because their family will suffer may not be the best solution to the problem. it may put more pressure on the person and/or the person may interpret it as “my pain is less important than others pain”. in some cases, that person might already believe that their existence is making their loved ones unhappy, which can reinforce their feelings of worthlessness.
i’ll highly recommend getting therapy, talking to someone about your issues. i see you are struggling but trust me, it gets better. you’re not alone OP.
try calling 1800-599-0019, its a suicide helpline number. hope you read this before taking any serious steps about your life.
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UNot sure if you’re a religious person or what belief you follow. But suicide is something you should never do to your soul. It’s believed that your soul will suffer much more than what you are suffering in this body for a never ending period. Even if you get another human body you will come back to where you left as your karmic role was left unfinished. So by committing suicide you are actually not doing any good to yourself as you cannot escape from your karmic path. So think about it even if you don’t believe in all this. There’s no problem without a solution. If your parents don’t think you are a perfect son it doesn’t matter. Move out find a job & start living yourself. Look around , there are many who’s praying for another day in their life. You are blessed with so much in your life that many others don’t have. Now that you have decided to postpone suicide to next week atleast do this , start writing 5 things you are thankful for in your life even if it’s some unnoticed blessings as a healthy body or able to hear , see etc. Write them down & genuinely feel grateful for it. Till you decide make it a habit to help another life even if that’s giving food or water to a homeless person or a bird or dog . Make every day of your life purposeful while you are in this body.
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UBro just don’t do it is not worth it.
I know a neighbour uncle who lost his daughter, she committed suicide because he did not permit her marriage. She was 17 and guy was 23 or something. Uncle is as good as dead. No parent can handle losing a child.I understand your parents have high expectations, the best and immediate way is to get away from home. You have an Engineering degree, use it to get an unpaid internship in a different city. Change of setting is what you need right now.
Believe me the successful future version of you will say the journey was tough but worth it. Just push a little more and you will make it.
I BELIEVE IN YOU!!
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PBhai please mat kar yaar Aisa. maje maar bhai. Ek baar maa baap se baat karke dekh yaar sabh thik ho jayega. Jyada se jyada kya karenge woh ekk thappad marenge baad mai sab thik ho jayega. Trust me mere 12th se pehale mere papa se khup behas hoti thi mai papa ko apna dushman samjta tha kyuki woh har baat pai muze tokte the ki aisa kar waisaa kar but Aaj jaab mai acchi job kar raha hu tab mere saath papa hi nai hai. Abb papa ki bohot yaad aati hai lekin kya hi kar sakte. Aur jo kuch bhi pehale hua abb woh chubta hai ki kash maine acchi bat ki hoti kash… Isi liye keh raha hu bhai maa baap se baat kar tum kya karna chahate ho uske bare mai baat karo. Thike aga tum kisi chiz mai acche nai ho toh. Maa baap se milkar solution nikalo unke paas har chiz ka solution hota hai. But yeh pagal wale thought man mai bilkul mat Lana kya pata maut ke baad aur dard ho, but tab kuch nai kar sakte… So, talk with parents. Sharma mat bhai karle ab baat…..
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UI suggest you to watch the movie Dr Carson, it’s based on a true story about a black boy living in US in early 90’s who struggled in school and was very poor in his studies, kept failing and was told by his teachers he was good for nothing and all his school classmates made fun of him. He started to believe he was dumb but later went on to be the greatest doctor (surgeon) of all time. Start with small improvements and you will build up. Watch the movie I strongly suggest. Even read stories of jack ma the founder of Allibba
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Hread your reply in other comment telling why you want to kys, will say I was in same boat as you and brought up to my family that this is how I am feeling like no bullshit just straight up with a poker face. To be honest I have disappointed my family in kinda more ways than you. By disappointment here I mean not being the perfect son they want. when I brought it up to them, they were actually more understanding than I thought. sometimes we form these ideas about people in our heads which aren’t true at all. Will advice to talk to them
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UNegga what? Bro my life is absolute dogshit right now. I have no job, my family thinks im useless, my parents business experienced a serious fraud and we may lose everything. I know those feelings of suicide come up. I feel them regularly. But i find something to keep me going. For me thats my niece. I dont want to set a bad example for her by killing myself. I want to show her that no matter how bad things get, you have to fight. Surrender is not an option. My suggestion is to find something that will help you keep going no matter how small or big it is. Whether it be a hobby or a person or a movie, even a video game. Latch on to that.
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UTrust me buddy, if there is a hell it’s not worth to go there by suicide for eternal suffering,
That’s what I have told myself in the past when I had the thought of ending things years ago, it was a passing thought but the idea of hell scared me and I decided it’s better to take all the hardships in the world however long I have. Bad times will pass too so don’t give up! Atleast think about what your parents will feel losing you! Call a suicide helpline and talk to someone, take care!
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