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Ume(M34) and girl(F33) met a year ago in the US.
Girl came to the US from India for her masters a few years back and I met her through matrimonial website. I have been in the US for over 10 years now, and this girl as she said in the beginning was ‘awaiting on her divorce’ with her husband in India.
Initially **according to the girl**,
She got married in India in 2016 and applied for divorce the next year after her marriage based on fake salary of her husband. She made a lot of stories about why her divorce is still awaiting and that it’s in the high court of the state now. She was well behaved with me, but I did feel something strange about her and her family since beginning. I did not promise her anything but then she had walked away on her own a few months ago.
Now, **according to the same girl**,
She called back me and asks me to be with her and marry her.
Now she confesses that her family and the lawyers had forced her to file a false 498A against her husband back then and she had given all statements to court like he beat her up, removed her from home, and more(pretty common in India these days to make their fake 498A sound legit in court). And, the guy won the 498A years go. She mentioned that her husband doesn’t want to divorce her now yet and is seeking revenge from her father by postponing her marriage here. she claims he(her husband) is asking for $$ from her US income now. She was also trying to pressurize me for marriage even before her divorce gets finalized in India.I am just confused, I have no idea what the hell is going on back there in India but these girls are on the way to ruin a lot of things for other men everywhere. I am NOT going to entertain this girl at any cost, as I love my life, family and career more than this crap.
My question is- how real this story could be? could there there be more to this? did I do anything wrong here? She has some of our pics together, she keeps calling me and texting me even when I don’t respond. Tbh, she did not seem like anything like she could have done all this stuff. . Luckily, I live very far from her city and I haven’t went too deep into emotions due to her abandoning behavior. I learned- do not trust them easily!!Any advice?
Edit/Thanks:
I am grateful for everything you guys said. I am glad I took a validation from here 🙂
She ain’t the right fit for me, I just wanted to know what I am thinking is right or wrong.I blocked her!!
I should be more careful hereafter as I read all the comments.
I hope she doesn’t keep troubling me from other sources.
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UMarried life for men in India is a nightmare nowadays. Marry, 498A, divorce and then alimony is a business. Don’t ever bother to marry or date Indian women, as a Indian man some girls are the worst pieces of crap out there. Fake rape, dowry and domestic violence cases just to extract money from Indian men is a legit nationwide business adopted by many girls. Suicide cases by married men due to alimony, divorce and mental harrassment by wife and in laws have shot up like rocket. The recent Atul Subhash suicide case created a nationwide shock but ultimately the girl walked out free while the family lost their child.
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Usorry if I am making silly points but I do not want to reach out to anyone private to my life about this. I was just seeking advice on my next steps. for example: Would blocking her harm me in any way?
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UWhat do you think? Why would there be harm?
A 34 year old adult should be capable of making good decisions. They tried to ruin someone’s life for a little more money. What does this tell you?
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UIs it really that hard to see the obvious here?
And one thing I don’t understand with folks like you…….What is the obsession of marrying an Indian woman if u are based outside the country? God forbid if any enterprising woman and her family traps you, they will make your life a living death sentence. Even if you yourself are residing outside India, your parents and immediate family aren’t safe. I have seen old (80yr+) parents of the husband dragged and thrown into jail due to fake cases by wife who wanted a high settlement amount. This is a legit business now.
NRI folks like you are just easy targets for opportunists running this very specific scam, supported by the system and marriage laws.
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RWhy is this on a legal advice sub?
Bro she said she filed a false case and lost and he is not divorcing her. What more do you want to know? It is of no value to you.
Just run for your life and hope that she doesn’t do a false case for sex on the pretext of marriage.. Though she might lose that case too as technically she is still married but who knows, save yourself by distancing ASAP. Have some proof where you mention that this won’t work and you didn’t have sex.
What’s worth learning is how difficult it is to detect girls who might ruin your life. Weigh pros and cons.. Make wise choices.
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UShe can’t file sex on the pretext of marriage because they met in USA and USA don’t have stupid laws like India 🇮🇳
Sex between consenting adults of legal age should be considered as their own individual decision.
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Uyour profound insights on women are truly breathtaking—I’m sure your imaginary partner is just thrilled to be with someone so enlightened. Oh, wait, my bad. That level of ignorance probably guarantees you’re single. Silver linings, huh?
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RThey met in the USA and probably have contact here in India and you say she can’t file a case.
nice non-Indian girls? The dating (esp marriage) markets are worse in most Western influenced countries, just slightly better laws.
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R😂
Have you checked the laws?
Find me the Western country with the best laws for man so that I can move there.
Say you and your European gf drink a lot and have sex, Can she file a case for sex without consent? Consent is not possible for inebriated women (men are on auto consent).
And if divorce rates are higher then actually it is worse overall even with slightly better laws.
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UHer husband is playing the long game and taking his sweet time by not letting her out of the marriage. If she did end up marrying you, it would have been bigamy which is a criminal offense with possible punishment for upto 7 years. Section 494 of IPC.
My advice, put it in writing you cannot and will not proceed in any relationship with her and it was she who approached you. Otherwise there’s nothing stopping her from filing false cases on you too. Trust me this is becoming more common in India these days.
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SI am not sure how much time you invested in this woman. If it is more than 2 months then you are not a smart man bhai. Sorry if this is harsh.
If you are in the US, why are you dating Indian divorcee in the first place, if you have I-140 approved a few years ago, try someone from other countries where there is still respect for marriage or girls from those countries.
If you have a lot of money, you can date single unmarried American women as well to see if you find a mate.
I am worried about your choice bhai. Take care
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UTo be honest, this belongs in a relationship subreddit because to me you need relationship advice rather than legal advice.
The bottom line is run. Don’t stick it in crazy. She has, according to her, a documented history of making false statements, her family is coercive and to top it all off a vengeful almost ex-husband hell bent on his revenge arc.
So, that being said what you do next is up to you. You don’t need a lawyer to tell you to block her number and ignore her communications.
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WLol, no, I believe she can still file cases in India. I’m not sure about the statute of limitations here, though, or whether having sex under the false pretense of marriage on foreign soil is considered.
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UTo your question, how real the story could be?
I would say that most likely what she told you won’t be the worst of what her husband and his family most have gone through. Highly likely that they would have been arrested and may even lost a lot of money, reputation etc. The guy, if insisting on not divorcing her means he would be as pissed off as one could be as most men would want to get on with their lives.
Block her on all social media as well from your life.
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UIs it really that hard to see the obvious here?
And one thing I don’t understand with folks like you…….What is the obsession of marrying an Indian woman if u are based outside the country? God forbid if any enterprising woman and her family traps you, they will make your life a living death sentence. Even if you yourself are residing outside India, your parents and immediate family aren’t safe. I have seen old (80yr+) parents of the husband dragged and thrown into jail due to fake cases by wife who wanted a high settlement amount. This is a legit business now.
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SIt’s not you, it’s your green card that’s tempting her ! As we say in India “pehli fursat mein nikal ” …leave at the first chance you get ! Don’t waste time digging deeper for what’s happening in the case back in India. Just leave and find some ody else. 498A and Dowry acts have become a tool in the hands of lawyers to ensure a regular income by manipulating the woman and having her consider filing false cases against the husband.
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UBhai mkl bhag ja, this girl is cuckoo in the heads my friend is going through the same thing only last night I was speaking about this and now I’m seeing your post.
This lady has already destroyed someone else’s life and come to the USA because she couldn’t stay in India, now she wants to settle down again and destroy someone else’s life. She’s desperate to get married to you because you are the only bakra who can fall within her timeline of marriage because no one else will be naive enough to give her so much bhav.
The tf away!
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UBro if she filled for fake cases once she will file the fake cases throughout her life
Just block her from everywhere do not give any information about you & your family & run far far away if you have no Idea what is happening in india just go through indian news once in a while you will get to know
She is just using you for staying in USA
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SPlease do not marry a woman who has filed a fake 498A before.
Fake case means the previous marriage failed because of her mistake and she still filed a 498A, she and her family are a bunch of cheaters who you need to stay away from.
Bro these woman act like they are the nicest person until they get married. Take the hint, get away. -
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UShe has married in India,then she filed fake cases on his husband for revenge while she could easily took divorce by mutual.
Now,she lost and don’t have any gud guy to support for his future.
Here you comes in picture,A USA based guy , which she could marry and live happy in foreign.
She is just gonna use and control you.
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UDon’t block her right away without giving her a closure. Chances are high that she might come back to India and file a fake 498A against you and harass your family and force you to come back to country for a marriage. Make sure you get your photos and any evidence with her deleted. End your relationship with her amicably.
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UAs you are in US file for a order of protection through local coirt. That will save you in case if she files any false cases against you either on US or India. Run from her. Red Flags every where in her story. If possible get all these over text or email and take screenshots of these and file it along with Order of protection
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