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MI lost the will to even live. Married a girl out of love and accepted by parents. She had history of mental disorder and was in rehab for short period of time.
She refuses to take meds. I earn around 50k per month. Before marriage my expenses was only 20k. I told her before marriage that we have to live simple life for which she agreed. She told me just two meals a day is enough. Believing her, I married with no dowry.
Now after coming to my house she didn’t have job and needed to depend on my income and father savings.
I have the habit of recording each expense.
Last month was our first year wedding anniversary.
Things escalated between Me & her over moving to 3BHK apartment as she felt our house was not hygiene enough as per her standards. My father was constantly making efforts to improve the house by spending on repairs. And anyway we are gonna demolish and build new house in another 6 months so he asked us to wait for sometime.
Now, today while arguing over it, I told her in fit of anger that last month expenses alone crossed 1.5 lakhs and my portion expenses was just 40k. And hers, incl anniversary sarees I bought her, came to 1.1 lakhs.
In fit of anger I asked her does she want us (me & father) to sell kidneys and fund lifestyle?
Now she is abusing me and threatening me of filing domestic violence case against my family for “starving her” (many times she herself refuses to eat homemade food deeming it “unhygienic” as per her standards)
And she said she will extract minimum 2 crores as alimony and give me fate worse than Atul subash.
She even threatens to commit su!cide writing my name as one responsible.
I don’t know what to do? I literally feel like end of the world
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SWhy would you marry someone older than you ? Females never respect men younger than them. There are exceptions for sure but most middle class women hate men younger than them.
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UIndian women are given a gun in form of a law that was passed by Congress in 1980’s. It’s because of this law that divorce rates have gone up- women want to be terrorists instead of being wives who will work on marriage. In 50 years from now, we can finally realize that marriage as an institution has failed and families have been torn apart by this law.
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AAs mentioned by others, pls start recording all these conversations, have them by text like whatsapp as much as possible. Don’t have any assets in ur name, tranfer it to ur family. She is lost cause man, u will be happy bring single than been married to psycho batch like her. Try to move out of house if u can… Never plan for a baby with her… Talk with a lawyer be ready for anything … Join mens help group like SIFF … They are dealing with women psycho like this and protecting men species by giving guidance
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LFalse cases are not the end of the world. Thousands of Activists of SIFF are living happier than ever with False Cases thanking their wives for introducing them to this world of MGTOW.
So whether there are cases or not your life isn’t going to be destroyed. There are many opportunities to life. So never think of Suicide. Now with that cleared let’s think of next things.
Firstly think of only 15 days at a time. Join SIFF and take Mental Stress trainings.
Install CCTV in house and start documenting evidences. If emergency arises and you think you can’t live at all with your wife and you are going suicidal, run away from the house and take a separate rented home and talk to SIFF FC for further actions. However present conditions don’t look dire enough to run away.
Breathe and Live.
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LYou can visit the [website ](https://www.saveindianfamily.org/) or can dial the Helpline Number or visit @RealSIFF Twitter handle and look at the Bio
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FDon’t worry man.
Even if she filed false cases, there are enough lawyers out there that handle all this.
Divorce might be delayed by nearly 5 to 6 years in India if a man files it, but you would definitely get it.
Start collecting proofs of her abusive behavior and get in touch with both SIFF and a good divorce lawyer.
Best of Luck !!
Edit : NAL
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AFirst n foremost Grow a pair of balls. You cannot let bullies threaten you. Just not OK. Move out if needed.
Second start gathering proofs. Record her statements, whatsapp messages anything you think can help you in future. Store them in a secure place.
Third go to gym regularly n make yourself strong physically n mentally . Confidence comes from within . You are in a difficult position created by your own foolishness (not vetting her properly). Now you need confidence to fight her back
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CAct smart Collect and make strong case of mental illness first if she ever did self harm that’s even better talk to doctor and get everything on papers then have cctv’s in your home which will record her aggressive nature , then make a dummy Trust or NGO and transfer all your assets to your name file bankruptcy , file FIR in different cases in different states stop her funding even for household items See magic
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Bbhai ye to hamesha hi dikkat degi, or tujhe ispe itna kya taras aaya ki ise ghar hi le aaya, or iska kuch ho bhi nahi sakta, ye jiss ghar bhi jayegi deemak ki tarah ghar ko khayegi. matlab arguments to har ghar mein hote hai, ye divorce dene ki or croro eithne ki baat kon karta hai. abhi se lagg ja, sab kuch capture karne mein. most important decision ho use mobile se record kar,audio banake. or tayyari kar isse chhodne ki. ye na tujhe jeene degi na tere parents ko, iske bina to akela hi sahi. itna generous mat ho, pressure ispe hona chahiye ki ye 40 ki hone waali hai. or pressure tere pe aa rha hai saara. ghar ka bhi, iska bhi, parents ka bhi or abhi to bacche bhi nahi aaye. baccho ko or mental baggage doge tum log lad ladke aapas mein. ya to counsellor ke paas jao, kuch imporvement dikhe isme to thik hai, or bhai naukri karwa isse,
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CDamn bro, This is getting more and more scary day by day! With this rate most guys would actually stop trusting women and would eventually refuse to settle down with them. Which infact many women look for.
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Kthese days, the stories of arranged marriages and love marriages are almost as pathetic and disastrous, many men won’t come out narrating their pain because we men are not conditioned to complain, fearing judgement from the society that our complaining as weakness.
I read your post and I feel she most possibly won’t stop at it, what you can do is document/record her violent nature, be it abusing/arguing/angry fits secretly with a secret cameras available, have strong evidences and apply for divorce just use evidences as leverage when she deny divorcing you trying to extort money releasing on socials.
I feel your pain, however some women don’t understand the concept of hard work and meaningful usage of limited monies. it’s not your fault, you are making your own way, they might pursue counseling and it definitely up to your choices.
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PAny evidence you could retain of her criminal intimidation? If yes, and if you’re willing to go on a one way road, file a case of criminal intimidation against her. But remember, there’s no salvaging your relationship after that. I say this because I am not privy to the details of your marital life. Better refrain if you’re still living together. Criminal cases should be the last resort.
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UHello .. please note that no court will order 2 crore alimony when your salary is 50 k per month .. they will order alimony as per your salary and net worth even of they do in the worst case scenario . Just stay strong and be calm and record whatever evidences you can. If she files false cases then fight it .. hire a lawyer and let your cases go on .. don’t ever settle out of court .. the mindset you need to have is you dont take these cases to heart and your mind and think of it as harassment. The minute you let it start affecting you .. u will lose it . So stay strong .. fake cases are fake ..
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MAs a good person:- mein kuch nhi kar paata jab vo alag alag case karti to sirf sucide hi rahta ek option mere liye and
As a bad person:- killers ki help se marva deta and sabko lagta ki accident hai case bhi nhi hota aur baaki corruption ka time hai paise dene ke baad case bhi hat jaata 😐
Itni saari news dekh kr dimaag ka dahi ho gya hai hamesha achaa person hi victim banta hai chaahe vo female ho ya male , aakhir mein achee logo ki kimmat chukaani padhti hai 🙂 -
R– Best course of action is to consult a family law attorney
– As folks have suggested, do gather evidence of medical condition, medicines, etc. but discuss with lawyer what else is needed. Maybe things like FIR with police, etc. lawyer will know better.
– Once lawyer tells you, please follow through and don’t apply unnecessary wisdom given by your relatives or family. You deserve to get out of this toxic situation.I’m not a lawyer.
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CI have planned my exit from such cases: go invisible to some remote city in India, forge fake documents, do a minor plastic surgery to change my face to not get recognised by relatives or my partner. Live a alone life for sometime until everything is forgotten. Is it doable?
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VYeah
Get a aadhar and pan card with alternate name and address first.You suddenly cannot get a second life you have to plan it in advance.
And no need for plastic surgery (except hairstyle, facial hair) just a change in city, alternate aadhar and pan and a new phone.
Don’t even use old phone or sim in new city throw old phone in old city before you move. Never use your old social media NEVER.
And most importantly never ever contact anyone from your previous life even after 15-20 years.
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A1. Failing economy
2. Low wages
3. Hyperinflation
4. Biased gender laws
5. Mental health crisis
6. Unhygienic and run-down real estate
7. Jobless entitled women
8. Dependence on parents even after crossing your 30sThere is not one post on reddit that reflects indian society and economy more accurately than this one🤣🤣
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KDon’t worry, just do NOT make a kid with this woman. Also, no court will ever make you give an alimony of 2 cr. It would, at most, be under 25 thousand in the worst case senario. Also, be proactive, talk to a proper lawyer, and get her out of your life, she is a monster and she will ruin everything the longer she stays with you.
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MMarriage since only one year. So what alimony I would need to pay? She was earning some 20k per month there while she was working. Now I give her double every month for her expenses in addition to expenses that I fully bear when going out for restaurant and movies.
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KMarriage, even if it was for a month, would end up in the husband having to pay alimony after divorce.
Alimony is not the bare minimum that is required for survival, since you gave her so much luxury, the court will direct you to give an amount which will allow her to afford that same luxury after divorce, the only saving grace is that there are other factors that are considered before deciding on the final amount. So, play it safe, seek professional legal advice from a lawyer who has a name for fighting such cases, and then take things slowly from there. Decrease the allowance you provide, and then file for a divorce before she files false cases against you. Divorce could be on the grounds of denial of love, i.e., intimacy. -
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