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SIt’s not humiliation to not be included. No one owes you friendship. And that goes for your son as well. I’ve had my parents and teachers try to force others to befriend me. Good luck with that. No one wants to deal with the kid whose parents got a teacher fired. And I hung out with the girl who used to eat meat/eggs for breakfast. Her breath *smelled* (accusing to other kids, because of the best intake). If you’re sending eggs/meat, send a mouth wash too.
As for “unhealthy”:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20104980/That being said, it’s not students who were othering your kid, it was a teacher. Action should have been taken against him.
SSomeone higher up suggested filing a written petition in HC to quash the case. That’s your least expensive option. It’s also the most correct. You can commission about your company, but if you post their name on social media, especially somewhere like LinkedIn, you’ll also suffer. Generally, court is considered the “correct” way to handle things. And there’s already a defenation cases against you, so if someone is checking, they can see that.Did you get another job already? Either your career is fully gone already or it won’t be affected by going to HC or an NGO. Just ask not to be named. (Even if you are, there’s a bunch of people with that name. But NGOs don’t do that for fun.)
S>Also, would this have any implications for government documents, inheritance, or any other legal matters?You likely wouldn’t get anything from parents because you’re not a practicing Muslim. However, upon your death, there may be an issue with your family trying to use the Muslim succession law to deprive a future spouse or child from property. I’m not sure if a will can supersede the Islamic law in India, but in Hinduism, your can will your self accepted property to anyone you want and if there’s no will, even non-Hindu family members who would make sure you get nothing from them may be entitled to your property. Keep your affairs in order.
If there’s no proof of you leaving Islam, your family may try to claim your assets should be under islamic law and thus deprive any non-Muslim family members from access. I realised now that a name change can work to draw a more clean line, so consider doing it (maybe your wife’s last name after marriage?) It’s but just about you misrepresenting your identity, but also the possibility of your family doing so.
>Also, would this have any implications for government documents, inheritance, or any other legal matters?
It’s your were eligible for reservation on account of being Muslim, it will longer be the case. If you’re not changing your name, it likely won’t matter unless there’s documents related to that.
SSee the financial discussion should’ve been had before you even got engaged. Just ask a lawyer about sending their stuff back without contacting them.>making reels is a voluntary decision which she has made. If she stops, we can find other ways or things which makes her happy.
Looking at her insta is a voluntary decision you make.
>On the other hand, breaking the engagement is compulsion on my end.
Not really. You could just *not* look. Unless she’s posting naked, there’s no real issue except you having a problem.
>Also, reels is an issue, it is not the reason to break it up. There are several issues on top of it, like few days back she told me for my happiness she has deleted the instgram profile, after a few days, I discovered she had not deleted but deactivated. Sue has reactivated now and blocked me. When I confronted her, she told me that she cares for my happiness, that is why she has blocked me so that I don’t get to see what I don’t like. It was a mind blowing moment for me. How can someone think that hiding something like this is a good gesture.
See, lying is a much bigger issue than reels.
>I have discussed with her brother as well. He is a very reasonable person, modern, progressive, he also agreed that her sister is not putting in the efforts.
I don’t think you can call suffer progressive if they’re upset about reels. Also, you said tier 3 city where even reels are a big deal like she’s a stripper or something.
>I live a minimalist lifestyle, she wants better. fancy clothes, fancy dates, iPhone, travel etc. I had made up my mind that I would try to provide as much as I can.
Bro you can’t. You’re set in your ways. The reels and wanting quick responses to texts is part of it, so is lifestyle.
>I wanted a simple wedding, she wanted a better one. I increased my wedding budget by 10L.
You’re paying for the whole thing? Or only wedding and they cover other stuff? Did you also pay for the engagement? If they haven’t didn’t money beyong gifts, they shouldn’t have too many cases to file. If they did spend on the engagement, NEFT or gpay the amount back. Send a cheque.
>And not showing appreciation, not caring my calls/texts sometimes.
No matter how free someone is, they won’t always reply to calls and texts instantly. The point of texts is that you can reply when your able to. This is relevant for your future relationships, be it family, work or spouse.
SYou don’t want to go forward but there’s no mention of what your offered to do to compensate them. Did you return all gifts you recieved? Did you cover all the expenses so far from both sides, since you’re the one cancelling after making promises?>I was willing to change few things about me according to her wish.
What things, btw?
S>After that her behavior started to change a lot. I did not feel loved, appreciated or anything.>I am someone with very low expectations and she was not doing that as well.
>Overall, I think she is a good person, good daughter, good sister, good friend, but she had some very serious quirky behavior.
>I discused this with her, her friend once done mediation, she advised her to improve her behavior, she does not have a father, I even brought it up with her mother, but there was no improvement.
>She even was making instagram dancing reels which I did not like, requested her to stop several times, she didn’t care.
What other questionable behaviour?
I agree that you should be able to leave for remainder reason, but you should be the one taking the financial/social hit. That is, at least, apologize and offer to compensate them for their share of the expenses so far.
>things have become abusive between families and still they want to continue.
Because they already told people and spent money. Send an email and offer to cover the engagement expenses because you have specific issues with her. Not “quirky” or “questionable behaviour”.
Don’t take calls. Don’t let your parents take calls. Email/text only.
SChild Ishant cause issues with following FIR even if other chips aren’t involved. That’s why you send email/letter via registered post to higher authorities to have proof that you tried to file FIR.SHave fun in jail. I guess this is a weirdo who thinks beating orie when you don’t like what they say it’s okay.Fake.
SDumbo uske probably same account se aur victims honge. Relax. But if you’re worried, delete insta and make a new one.S>India has naturalization by birth.Not necessarily.
I’m guessing they did illegal stuff to hero both passports, like they didn’t have the Indian citizenship revoked.
SWhich one is more important to her? She’ll need to give up one. If she claims to be an Indian, she can’t claim not too know the law because you should. If she claims to be an Nepali, she can claim she didn’t know indian law.If she has an Indian passport and the details are identical to the Nepali passport, they can blame that on the passport making authority. If her parents did everything legally, she should be a resident of India, not citizen. If she’s a resident, she’s legally allowed to have the ID related documents that she does.
If she hasn’t bribed anyone and gotten everything legally, the forgery charge won’t lead to conviction. It could be an surveyor at extortion or just stupidity.
