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VThe post is going to be long and my grammar is not so good so please bear with me. I thought about this extreme step as i am fed up with my parents. Context: When i was 2 years old i used to be a lot more mischievous and in a rainy night i got the urge to play in terrace and guess what my mom did to discipline me, she heated a knife on stove and kept on my left arm and my skin layer came off and i was bleeding there for straight 2 hours and my mom didn’t even bother to do first aid, it was my sisters who did first aid and this incidents haunts till today even though this happened 16 years ago . At the same age my mom would beat to grinders and wall to a certain extent that i used to get bumps on my forehead. One day i came to pooja room and i asked for something from my mom and she kept an burning agarbhatti(incense stick) on my leg. When i was in my first standard, my mom would call me to the bedroom, lock the door and beat me with my own school belt till an hour or more and this continued for more than a year every single day . In my second standard, on one sunday i said I was bored as i straight up read for an hour and my said “oh you are bored” in a surprised tone,went to the kitchen, came with a stick and beat me on my thighs till i would cry like hell. In my third standard i asked my mom to feed me with her hands and she agreed to feed me too but the moment she started feeding me, she beat me on thighs not once or twice but repeatedly. In my fifth standard, my dad cheated on my mom and my mother used us children as a shield to protect her marriage life. They used to fight all the day like animals which gave me and my sisters a lot of my trauma. Imagine being so selfish that for the sake of your so called social image you would ruin your children’s mental health and this continued for a year. I remember this very well that when my eldest sister was in her 9th standard my sister was depressed and she used to cry that she couldn’t go the school. Instead of knowing what she might be going through and consoling my sister my mom and dad would beat her like a literal animal and call her “Saani munda” a Telugu word which translates to prostitute and a characterless women, mind you my mom is a graduate and my dad is an mbbs doctor. I still remember this day my mom tore my sister’s nighty and beat her in the head so hard with a dosa flipping stick(Atlakada in telugu) that my sister started bleeding blood. I still remember it was my 9th birthday and my mom didn’t allow my sister to even participate and called my sister having “Madha picchi” a telugu word translating to nymphomaniac or a sex addict but my sister didn’t do any such thing. Now coming to present i am a neet dropper online student and i stopped reading three months ago as i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and my mother would call me words like “boku vedava”( a guy who does nothing and eve teases women) and a useless guy. Coming to the main point i have seen a movie(Guntur kaaram)in which son cuts off ties with his mother legally by signing on a legal document which implies that the son will no longer hold any legal share on the mother’s property and shall not address her as his mother. Is there any way by which i could cut my ties with my parents’s properties??
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## 1. **Cutting Ties Emotionally vs. Legally**
Let’s be clear. **Emotionally cutting off** is easy — block them, walk away, change your number, go no contact. But legally cutting ties is a bit more complex.In Indian law, **you can’t just sign one paper and say “I am not their child anymore”**. There’s **no official way to disown parents or vice versa** through a single legal form. You’re **biologically** their son, and Indian law recognizes that whether you like it or not.
BUT…
### What You **Can** Do:
## 2. **Give Up Right to Property**
Yes, you can **legally give up your rights** to their property (both ancestral and self-acquired). Here’s how:### a) **Release Deed / Relinquishment Deed**
You can **sign a registered relinquishment deed** or **release deed** in their favor. This means:
– You legally say, “I don’t want any share in their property.”
– It must be **registered at the sub-registrar office**.
– You must be **18+** (which you are).
– It can be done now, even **before any inheritance** has happened, if you’re willing.Talk to a **property lawyer** to draft this properly. It’s 100% valid in Indian law.
**Note**: If they have self-earned property (not ancestral), they can leave it to anyone — so they don’t even have to give it to you unless they want to. But if it’s ancestral, and you want to give it up, the release deed is the way.
## 3. **Declare No Association (Optional, Symbolic)**
You can create an **affidavit** stating that you are:
– Going no contact
– Disassociating yourself from your parents emotionally and financially
– Will not claim any inheritance or rights from themThis won’t carry **legal effect** in most matters (like name changes, etc.), but it’s a **symbolic move** and can be shown if needed to justify your stance to courts or future dealings.
## 4. **Change Emergency Details (Bank, Aadhar, etc.)**
If they’re currently listed in any of your official records (bank nominees, Aadhar guardian, etc.), change all that. Slowly, clean your life of their name.## 5. **Safety Measures**
Considering the **violence** and **verbal abuse**, **document everything** — even old incidents. If they ever threaten you or interfere in your life again:
– File a **police complaint under domestic abuse**
– Use Section 506 IPC (criminal intimidation) and 323 IPC (causing hurt)
– You have every right to protect yourself## 6. **Rebuild Your Life**
You’re just 18. You’ve survived what many wouldn’t. The anger and trauma you carry is **real** and **deserved**, but don’t let it **consume** you. Use it to push forward.Get therapy when you can. Surround yourself with people who don’t treat you like garbage. Study if and when **you** feel ready — not because they forced it on you.
You’re not weak. You’re not useless. You’re someone who survived years of abuse and still has the guts to think clearly and take action. That’s strength. You’re not alone. A lot of people carry wounds from so-called “respectable families.” You spoke up. That’s step one to breaking the cycle.
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