- This topic has 31 replies, 12 voices, and was last updated 1 year, 5 months ago by
.
-
Posts
-
-
UBoth my mother and father are retired employees who have worked for 30+ years in government and private sector respectively, in considerable positions. They now have a monthly income of around 60k in pension and rent. I am a student and support them financially with my scholarship when extra expenses arise. My sister used to do the same when she was employed, but she’s now chosen to become a stay-at-home parent.
.
The relationship between my sister and my father has always been rough, and he has a history of repeated domestic violence and continued emotional abuse. My father is now tormenting my sister, asking her to pay for household appliances and expenses, claiming that she is required by law to financially support them. This has made me curious whether he actually has any grounds for this. My mother has pension, and my father has a house and two rental shops to his name. Does his argument have any legal ground?
Thank you in advance. -
FParents can’t be abandoned. But if they have financial means and regular income then they can’t demand money from children for luxuries.
-
UI have made it very clear to them that I am willing to support them till the end of their years. I have also expressed that I will buy the said appliances once I get a job. I also have savings from my scholarship that we can use in the interim.
All this was to prevent my father from demanding money from my sister. But he insists that he needs the money from her specifically, stating that she has not provided for the family in the last few years.
My sister has made it clear that she will financially support them through medical emergencies (They also have medical insurance), but doesn’t have the means to randomly give him money on demand. -
-
HWho says parents can’t be abandoned? There is a choice and there is no legal obligation. One can take care of them as a choice.
-
FInteresting, have read about cases in newspaper where Parents have taken the children to court for maintenance and won.
-
-
UI mean I understand why there are laws like those in place. Many children abandon their aged parents after getting custody their property. That’s just disgusting. But I do believe that parents should not be entitled to their children’s money, just like how children shouldn’t be entitled to their parents’ wealth after becoming adults. I totally get what you mean though.
-
-
-
-
PYou, a mere student, support them with your scholarship? What did I just read. I’m so sorry for you and your sister I hope you’ll find a way.
The chances of your parents being able to demand maintenance from your unemployed sister are very low even if she’s sued by the parents (the parents do have a ground for seeking maintenance from children), cause the court will consider her financial capacity, but I hope this issue is resolved before ever reaching the courts. You should stand your ground too and not pay them money unless it’s for really necessary expenses, and just use your scholarship for what it’s meant.
-
UThank you for your words. I don’t think they will take her to court, but my father is definitely going to use this law to emotionally blackmail my sister. I wanted her to have some arguments to defend herself when this happens.
The emotional stress this is causing my sister is heartbreaking. She had sent them large portions of her salary when she was employed, and my father is pissed off that he’s not getting anything anymore.-
PIf he wants to emotionally blackmail her, he’d do it without any legal reasoning.
She’s doing the right thing, judging from the limited facts that have been stated. Make sure you don’t put them in the same habit of sending a lot of your own money cause then they’ll always expect that from you too.
I understand that they brought you two up and gave you education and everything but that’s honestly the least parents can do for kids, and you have a responsibility towards them too but you don’t have to compromise on your own savings for your future (you two have whole life in front of you, you need to save for your own future emergencies) for their unreasonable demands. Good luck.
-
-
-
HNo, your father does not have any legal grounds to force your sister to provide financial support, especially considering the circumstances you’ve described. Under Indian law, specifically the Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007, parents can claim maintenance from their children if they are unable to meet their basic needs. However, in this case, your parents already have sufficient income from their pensions and rental properties, which likely disqualifies them from claiming maintenance.
Additionally, given the history of abuse, your sister’s refusal to provide financial support could be seen as justified. The law does not obligate children to pay back or compensate parents in such situations, particularly when the parents are financially stable. Based on what you’ve shared, it seems your father’s demands are not supported by law.
-
-
UDude 60k is enough to sustain a family of 3. Given that health issues are covered through employer benefit.
Why do your parents need more funds from your sister Even when they know she is no longer working.
Also if there are expenses they are not able to meet you should start working at the earliest as at EoD it’s both children’s responsibility to take care of parents. Your sister being married and unemployed may get some leniency but you will not. And for now ask your sister to cut off from parents she now has a different family to take care of and should not burden that family by putting additional financial burden of your parents.-
UYes, I am hoping to get a job as soon as possible, as I would definitely be subjected to the same emotional torture if I don’t. I also never want to depend on them in any way in the future. As for my sister cutting them off, that would be difficult because our mother is stuck with my father. We both put up with our father’s behaviour almost entirely because we love our mother. But she’s definitely planning to go low contact, I think…
-
-
LIf theya re getting pension, then you aren’t supporting them. They are greedy and extorting you.
For someone who has worked for 30 yrs in govt and getting pension wont have money for tough times and will need money from your scholarship to support them?
Think about it?
-
UI know… They have definitely been financially irresponsible, and has managed to have no savings despite having great jobs. I personally don’t believe that children are entitled to their parents’ wealth, but I definitely expect them to have something stored away for themselves. We know we’re being extorted, but endure this mostly for our mother’s sake.
-
-
-
PWow.. Such a crappy dad. And if he they were in “Considerable” Positions, how come their Pensions are so less? Both parents should have a good pension in hand.
-
UOnly mother has pension from her govt job, for which she gets around 55k per month. My father worked in the private sector and received a lump sum pension at the time of his retirement, which went mostly towards building their house and the rental space (for which he gets 5k per month). Both of them occassionally took large sums from their PFs. They did spend some of it for my sister’s wedding, but my sister also contributed significantly towards these expenses.
-
-
-
-
UIn that case, for her own sanity, why does she have to keep contact with them? She is in no way legally bound to buy them anything.
-
UWe’re still a relatively tight-knit family. I know that sounds laughable, considering the history of abuse and fights, but it’s a really complicated situation, and there’s a lot of feelings involved. We’re also really close with our mother, who is very sweet and loving, despite not speaking up for us or herself.
-
-
-
-
Iu/ S4 Senior Citizens Act and S144 BNSS, children have an obligation towards their parents to maintain them. But this does not mean that the parent can extort their children in any manner. The main caveat is that the parent must not be able to maintain themselves with their own income.
Here, as you have mentioned, the father and mother have pensions and rental income, so they could be said to have the means to maintain themselves.
Even if they did not, the maintenance covers only the basics and does not cover anything frivolous. -
-
UDo you and your sister still live at home? Is your parents making you pay rent or help with utilities? If you are living at home they can ask you for rent money but they are not entitled to your or your sisters money.
-
-
