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UI just want to ask this legal question , my parents nature gets very bad and toxic ad keeps me depressed for hours. There may come a time where I just would have to leave them for my personal sanity. I don’t want to get into much details.
My mother had spent a considerable amount on my higher education , it was not a loan but like a sponsor and now she is constantly demanding a very high amount once I get a job which I will
I just want to ask this if tomorrow I choose to leave my parents and go no contact with do I owe them anything ? Also I might need some of my clothes my parents gave me and some basic things which they had bought me , its like a gift . Can I take it with myself?
I just want to know any legal liabilities which I have towards them. I know that I can sort things for myself and be out for my good within a few months if I start. I just want to get things straight.
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UTch. A sad read . May no child go through this. No legal liability ig unless u took the loan on your name
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ULike my mother she used transfer money to my account / directly tell me to pay it from hers , I dont think that counts as loan does it?
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BYes it didn’t count as a loan, she paid your tution by transfering that amount to you.
no one has time or energy to sue someone (heck your own child) for repayment of a verbal loan agreement.
But the bigger question is why does she get you depressed, can your dad act as an mediator and let her know your feelings,
you gotta try to talk it out, Ghosting your own parents should be the last last resort.
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UActually my father is the problem … She ideally should hv left him but she didn’t coz … She expects I share that burden and tolerate him however he acts
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BFuck, no it’s wrong idea the best you can do is left the problem which is your father, explain your Mother how important life aspects are there without your dad and both you and your Mom should leave him ASAP.
Because no one is responsible for other’s deeds but since your Mom spend such money on your education, the least ethical way would be help her out from situation and lead the situation -
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Bi truly empathise with you, draw clear boundaries on how you want them to be financially, a boundary means a condition and a consequence,
let her know how much you are affected by her stockholm syndrome and your dad by his reckless gambling on the market.
put your foot down on how it should be. If all goes to vain still go ahead with no-contact.
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UNo man but even on the slightest ethical level hope you’ll support her with some financial aid in future no matter how much you despise them
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UI will as much as I can bro but I just dont want to hv any legal issue where they file or sue me for it . Sorry but my mother acts like she has the right to maintainence from me like I am husband willing to divorce she literally does.
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UI guess you need to provide for them when they can’t for themselves, that is the only thing you owe them.
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Umy mom gets a good salary and she likes to do intraday with my dad so I guess they dont need anything
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USounds like you are angry at them for doing intraday. Remember that you can always move to another city and get a job, and you can give them just enough for them to survive (don’t disclose how much you make).
This way, you will be maintaining a relationship and at the same time saving yourself. Talk to them only once a week for a few minutes over the phone.
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UTime changes everything ^^^ believe me.
I’ve been through similar situations during my school days. I was much younger than you, with almost no resources or guidance around. It was chaos, especially during my board exams, both in 10th and 12th and it affected my scores. I still blame that phase a lot. I used to look for comfort outside but never found itNow, things are good. Patience.
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SNAL, So sorry to hear this. These kind of people do irreparable damage to the society.
Unfortunately, Under Section 144 of BNS, your father or mother, unable to maintain himself or herself can file a case against you for maintenance. This is also the same act under which a wife gets the maintenance from her husband.
Thers’s also Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007 under which adult children have to provide monthly allowance to their parents to sustain them.
If your parents earn enough themselves, then you will not have to pay anything but they can harass you by filing the case for 2-3 years as this much time is taken by courts to decide the case.
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Uthey like to play intraday trading and are suffering losses my dad made a loss of my moms money of about 13L in past and yet now she supports and joins him in trading , I told her multiple times to stop but she wont listen somedaysthe loss is of 10-15K , yet she doesnt put an end to it its her account both use…
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WYea i understand. But if they are expecting a lot from you , return it back when u earn it . Atleast u dont feel that guilt
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UNAL
its always give and take in any relationship. I understand your situation very well. you are 21 and deep down want acknowledgement that you are now grown up. But your parents feel like they OWN you. while the story may be different for different people, but the fundamental issue is same in most cases. Indian parents dont have the outlook that they are bringing up a citizen who has his own life, rather they feel that they have a certain ownership over their children forever.
If you are able to break this sense of ownership over next few years, by being independent, by asserting yourself in decisions of your life, there may not be a need to leave your parents.
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USo technically the law doesn’t forbid you from doing this.
But in practicality they can call cops and cops will shame and harass you.
Also, this would also mean that you will likely not get any of their assets like house etc when they pass. -
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PThe problem of every indian parent. They think their child is their Retirement Plan and Insurance policy.
Though most parents don’t think that ways and are only happy to be with their children at the fag end of their lives. But a few think that their children are obligated to share their monetary gains in career for bringing them up.
Sad situation to be in if real.
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