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UHeya ppl , i live in an flat owned by my dad alone with my friends now the problem is everyone else here is married 40+ yr old uncles and they have a huge problem with me as i m a bachelor and i have my girlfriend and other friends come over sometimes and they couldn’t do anything coz my parents trust me and any complaint they made against me i fought back and they stayed silent and i have also compromised many things like they banned food delivery from 11 30 to 6 am we had to go outside of the apartment to get our food i still didnt say anything but stayed silent but today was too much me and my friends were watching a movie without even talking some random uncle called the police on us for a noise complaint and they came i told them to check it was a tiny 20 w soundbar i was using as my personal speaker for my pc and thats all , the police didnt do anything but told us to keep the noise down and left but i m soo fukin pissed and annoyed at these mfs i dont know how i should approach these moral policing assholes
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UBecause bachelor like you create a lot of nuisance in family societies and think they got the freedom to do anything. Why don’t you live in a bachelor’s society where no one gives a damn.
I live in a bachelor society still I get bothered by so much noise in the night like people coming late in neighborhood, lift sound, delivery guys coming and loud continues music. Even lower volume sounds loud in night.
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PSeriously asking why yearning for some silence in the night is wrong for a society .Even the laws around loudspeaker and other noise follow the same principle.
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UHe has a problem with lift sound????!!! What about people who work night shift?! Like literally, have a little bit of understanding mentality. I find it so annoying that older people especially genx think that the world stops working when the night ends for them. Moreover, if it is genuinely loud noise, it is quite understandable or if someone is going out of their way to make someone’s life miserable.
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U>banned food delivery from 11 30 to 6 am
>me and my friends were watching a movie without even talking some random uncle called the police on us for a noise complaint and they came i told them to check it was a tiny 20 w soundbar i was using as my personal speaker for my pc and thats all , the police didnt do anything but told us to keep the noise down
These are not moral policing issues. These normal civic issues which happen when you life closed societies and apartments.
You need to decided if you are being ass*oles to uncles or uncles are being ass*&les to you.
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UI know I might get debunked by everyone else in this chat because my opinion is totally opposite. If you go in fight, like others suggested, then you will loose a lot of energy and in the end you will loose because they are in majority. I would suggest to be nice to few around you. Not everyone is same, start building your side of the team. Maybe goto morning walk and talk to people and make friends. When you will be friendly and open with people they will accept you. It’s the unknown and rumours that build around when you are not open with people. They might think you are doing all sorts of bad things behind those closed doors and then people are worried that it might affect their kids.
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UI say, find out if the uncles consume alcohol, if so go and ask as we caused you lot of trouble we want to apologize and ask for we want to invite you to party, once they come act like you changed completely be quiet let the drinks start lure them to drink more and more start dancing record everything create a noise and all record everything leave uncle to his flat next day show the recording you and tell you caused this play with him however you want if things goes well explain him nicely why uncle you poke us in everything we can be friends and all try to work things out or take it as you wish
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UHey r u the same couple who threw a party a few weeks ago on a Friday morning from 4:30 am to 5:30 am with loud music bass and ur gf laughing like a hyena? Got upset when the security requested you to turn it off? If not you, then sorry but this hits too close to home for me, u need to sit down with these guys and sort it out. It’s highly possible u r making noise. Most societies are now ok with live in relationship here in Delhi and Noida. However noise is intolerable especially if it’s the high income societies.
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BGive practical advice instead of stupid suggestions like call police when there is a family function, child noise etc.
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USince your dad owns the flat he must be the primary member of the society. Ask him to make you an associate member, simple procedure, fill the form and submit it to the society. Things should stop by this move. If not, then being an associate member you can attend meetings so it’ll give you the power to question their actions officially. No need to get into any unofficial stuff.
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ATwo ticks here:
I am 40 and married with two kids. This was a humble reminder that I have become th 40 something uncle.Second, the midnight food ban would be society initiated as we have similar ban in our society. This is due to random delivery guys loitering around the society.
Third, you need to talk to uncle, tell your parents to scold the man to back off. And if that doesn’t work, go and talk to them.
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UWrite 50 RTI’s to municipality, police department, fire department.. Asking for relevant questions related to procedures a society is suppose to follow but are not followed. You can check YouTube for instructions.
Those departments will f##k the case of the society & they will be forced to come begging you to withdraw the RTI’s
Do it once, they will never mess with you again..
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UINFO: What time were you watching this movie?
The answer to the above question is key.
Because if it’s late at night then I totally understand why others might have a problem with this. You cannot create a nuisance late at night. You can do whatever you want within the 4 walls of your house, but it HAS to be limited within the walls of your house. If the noise is travelling outside, late at night, when people are trying to sleep, then I think you’re in the wrong.
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UThey are bullying you, the more you are
Silent the more they will bully you. You need to standup for yourself for every thing they try to implement ask them why it’s not part of the society rules and regulations and attend every agm to make sure shitty guidelines are not introduced and you and your parents receive minutes of the meetings.
Additionally, if there are people your age, especially their children and adults start your own club to protect the interest of young people and become a collective voice and see how fast the uncles back down.
You could also take assistance from the senior citizens in your society and connect with them and explain your problems and ask for support and give relatable examples like this happened to me, how do you manage ?
Make noise bro, the more pain you create to them within the society and within the rules and regulations the more they will back down.
Bullies will only backdown when they see their bullying is backfiring on them-
UAlso about the sound thing, due to the low thickness of the walls sometimes we don’t realise even a small 20w speaker output can cause reverberations in other flats, when they complain ask to go to their house and see if that’s the case you can ask them politely to enter their house because you want to know what the problem is this will help you document the problem in case of future issues.
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EI am married and order food after 11.30 PM. Sometimes we crave ice cream or desserts and order online. What’s wrong with that?
It’s crazy. I don’t understand what these uncles have against the young. I have seen this where I live as well. Society association treats students horribly. Unfortunately, I am a renter and have no say. But it’s horrible and disgusting.
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UEven my society has such rules, just for security reasons!
You can collect parcel from watchman’s cabin, no entry inside society allowed past 11:30-12
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UNext time these randuas call the police or the society president or whosoever on you, just complain to them that “this uncle engages in sex with his daughter. Roz raaz 2 baje ke ass pass papa chhod do papa chhod do ki awaaz aati hai chillane ki. Ab pata nahi beti chod te hain ya porn dekh te hain. Humne kabhi complaint nahi ki inke ghar ki baat hai but bohot disturb hota hai”
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UBecome member of society and scrutinise accounts.
Get a CA friend to send queries on expenses. Maybe why 15 samosas were ordered when the meeting was for 5 people.
Question their conveyance expense
Tell them to prove that diesel was used only for generator and not siphoned off to fill their cars.
They will suspend your membership
Send a mail to registrar of societies and bankers alleging that accounts are not being presented when asked.
Catch them on small technical issues. Question why the auditor was paid X amount.
Ask them if GST is registered. If yes. Send a mail to GST department asking them to check ITC. This can be anonymous.
It will make life hell for them to answer all departments. They will finally come out clean. But mental harassment . Time. Effort.
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> i have also compromised many things like they banned food delivery from 11 30 to 6 am
This is for security reasons and it’s common in a lot of societies/ appartments.
But calling cops on sound disturbance is crazy. Ig u have to play uno reverse here. Ask ur dad to add u into WhatsApp group, make sure u complain every time they have visitors, or having sound during pooja, if their children cry something like that. They have to taste their own medicine.
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APeople have advised a lot here how you can retaliate. We have few bachelors in our society, they are gems. They volunteer in every society programs, spend bit of time in gardening, talk to people, play in multi purpose court, sometimes organize small trekks or pickniks, friendly wishing when meeting others… Hope you can try these a bit. No need to go overboard but do a bit.
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APerspective
We had bachelors living in our society. They partied late into the night. Had 10-15 friends over every weekend.
As the booze flowed the noise kept increasing. Even after repeated requests this became a weekly occurrence. One fine day the party people pushed the uncle who was asking to keep the music down. Police was called ‘the booze’ party fought the police too. Were beaten black and blue thrown out of the society by dawn. No out society has a no bachelors rule. -
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UI remember same thing happened to me and my friends. We were staying in society called Mahaveer Seasons in HSR Layout in Bangalore. So the walls are thin and voice travels even if you are just talking. The association there were nuisance and said they will ban bachelors. So one of my friend was outside in public space on phone call at night and the association guy abused him and asked that my friend is disturbing everyone.
He complained against us and we complained against him. The matter was resolved. Later on, one day we were just talking and that guy just because we complained against him brought whole society and dragged us out and forced us to write letter that we were making noise and then gave us 7 day notice to move out of the society.
So be careful with your next steps. Some people are just pain in the ass.
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UThreaten them, confront them, be rude. They will stop questioning. I have same situation, we drink every weekend.
But make sure u don’t disturb there peace/sleep by ur noise.
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UYou seem angry. Take sometime to relook at facts when emotions are calm. No delivery late at night is quite a standard practice. Society walls are quite thin these days, even std volume in the silence of night can be bothersome. On the other hand, if you feel they are harassing you, raise a written complaint with the rwa. If nothing resolves take a copy and make a formal complain in the police station.
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