How to legally take charge of all of myself – basically like going no contact

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May 5, 2025 at 7:05 pm

Disclaimer: I am not yet going no contact but am looking to know what I’d need if I did have to. I’m not looking for any other advice or suggestions to ‘fix’ said personal situations.

I’m 25F, am hoping to start scholarship funded studies or early employment outside the country. Intend to return after 4 to 5 years.

Due to various long drawn toxic, (some grey area abusive) family issues, I want to go no contact. My documents – including birth certificate, educational, and medical records are all there in my parental home.
This process is obviously going to take a long time, so I want to know how to plan with least risk of retribution. For personal safety reasons – I can’t really let them know till it is done, and would honestly prefer not needing to. I have to leave slowly, steadily, and quietly.

My concerns are:
What documents do I need / can I get to move my permanent address somewhere else including for passport and Aadhaar, PAN ? Can I give a friend’s house as permanent address? What documents would I need for that? Would say paying their electricity bills for a few months help establish my residence?

How do I move my investments out of my joint account? I’ve invested in mutual funds from money my father has given me for personal expenses. I don’t want to claim any of the other money in the account – just there funds that I’ve been working on using the joint account as the base.

How do I port only my phone number out of a current family connection? Does the current plan payer owner have to be involved in the process?

How do I get a document to say that even if anything happens medically or so… do not call family? And to remove any power they may have over making decisions for me if I am not conscious?

Would they be able to lay any claim over any fees paid for college education or is that counted as gift payment legally so not reclaimable?

If my father is currently earning but my mother is not, and they are married – and he earns well enough – tax paying above the basic level even – would I have to pay maintenance amounta for them if I get estranged?

I understand this isn’t official legal advice, but I just want to understand what all I’d need to consider.
Are there any lawyers or firms who understand such situations and are open minded or forward thinking in their approach? What would their fee be if I do need help?

Thanks.

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