Husband accusing me of being a male to avoid returning my gold that he stole.

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      Clevermaster2249
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        January 13, 2025 at 11:50 am
        We are going through the divorce process. I didn’t ask for any maintenance nor alimony but only asking for my gold and cash back that he kept in his locker.
        Now desperate to not return my things he’s trying to accuse me of being a man. He even is addressing the letter to chief minister and home minister to force me to take these ridiculous tests. As a biological woman since birth this is very disgusting and hurts my dignity and self confidence as he body shames me too.
        My husbsnd I found out is a closeted gay when he kept saying he prefers men just after we got married.
        There was no suicide threats from my side but it was him who threatened suicide infront of the judge if I don’t drop the case. He also threatened to murder me infront of the judge during court proceedings,lawyers and judge being witness.
        What do I do.
        Ps-shots of my husband’s petition accusing me can be found on my profile.

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          January 13, 2025 at 2:28 pm
          Sue him for defamation if you have proof of the letters he sent to your ministers.
          File a complaint or FIR for the threats of suicide so that there’s a record and even if he goes on to ever attempt suicide it’ll help your case.

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              January 13, 2025 at 6:21 pm
              I have the petition. He sent it to me too. The police only took an NCR report

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                  January 13, 2025 at 7:04 pm
                  NCR report for defamation or for the suicide threats?

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                      January 13, 2025 at 7:10 pm
                      The suicide threats he’s been giving me. It wss like last month and I reported it to the police.

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                          January 13, 2025 at 7:11 pm
                          Good, it’ll be useful in your divorce case as well and in case he harms himself in future you have a solid defence.

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                    January 13, 2025 at 2:31 pm
                    law are ment for these selfish people,
                    go and milk him as much as possible, if he not playing fair then why should you.

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                        January 13, 2025 at 2:36 pm
                        Why would you advise playing unfairly when her concern can already be addressed through playing fairly with the help of appropriate laws.

                        This is not good advice even as a lawyer cause it can backfire her divorce case.

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                            January 13, 2025 at 3:16 pm
                            indian laws are such- unless you play unfair you are least likely to win
                            what he said is right,
                            in such times the husband should be grateful he is not being falsely accused of dowry/harrasment/marital r@pe
                            but instead is falsely harassing the op

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                          January 13, 2025 at 2:41 pm
                          This is going to back fire on him. Hold your ground.

                          Hire a decent lawyer to get rid of this person as quickly as possible to live a fulfilling life, rather than being dragged by the legal issues.

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                            January 13, 2025 at 3:06 pm
                            I won’t hold myself behind for asking alimony and maintenance from such a man

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                                January 13, 2025 at 6:40 pm
                                Don’t want his dirty money. I don’t take things from beggars like him.

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                                    January 13, 2025 at 6:43 pm
                                    Good

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                                      January 13, 2025 at 7:17 pm
                                      Take the alimony. Donate it to NGOs and women in need.

                                      Point is not to take money from him for your benefit. Point is to teach him a lesson and fuck him over for ruining or trying to ruin your life.

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                                    January 13, 2025 at 3:19 pm
                                    Hi OP, hold your ground and file back a case with help of a good reputable lawyer in your area. If you have proof of your things in his custody it will be great( it’s understandable that you won’t have cz no one thinks they will have to prepare for this day). Also get details of him being a closeted gay and use that to revert on the charges he made against you. It will not be easy on you but keep going.
                                    And it’s funny how men will not comment here about other men exploiting women for their benefit. You will only see them jump when it’s them being a victim

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                                      January 13, 2025 at 5:43 pm
                                      What the fuck is this? Tell him that you will not report his offense of defamation if he returns your jewellery.

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                                        January 13, 2025 at 5:54 pm
                                        To do all that in court is something else, he’s making the case for you honestly 

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                                            January 13, 2025 at 6:39 pm
                                            Yes, the court cctv, the mediator ,the lawyers all are witnesses to his threats that’s why they didn’t take his side so now he’s writing to the ministers and ngos

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                                                January 13, 2025 at 6:58 pm
                                                Neither ministers nor NGOs can force tests on you. And while ministers in our country do seem to have a lot of leisure time, doubt they’re going to even respond to him. Like others said, you can file for defamation. As for your gold and cash, that is your property being withheld from you. If you have some proof and description of the items, that’d be good.

                                                Maybe you should try for a restraining order or injunction against him as well based on what you have said, since he has made open threats to you in court. But whether he will actually do something, you and your lawyer know the exact situation

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                                                    January 13, 2025 at 7:01 pm
                                                    The thing is I have all the proofs and the case would have ended if he just handed over my stuff but now he’s just talking nonsense to drag and divert the case.

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                                                        January 13, 2025 at 7:07 pm
                                                        Have you brought this up with your lawyer? You should let them know

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                                                            January 13, 2025 at 7:11 pm
                                                            Yes I did. Since I got the letter today I expect the lawyer to come up with something by this week.

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                                                                January 14, 2025 at 7:09 pm
                                                                That’s great, then you should be able to get your things back

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                                                              January 14, 2025 at 8:06 am
                                                              I think you have been too easy to him that’s why he is getting the audacity to blame you. Ask for alimony and maintenance. The dude knew he was gay still married you and destroyed your life. Also inform the judge thay he is gay and make sure this is mentioned in the divorce proceedings. This is clear case of fraud , a gay married you by concealing his sexuality. Once he’ll face cases like this he’ll come down to his knees.

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                                                        January 13, 2025 at 6:09 pm
                                                        Get a good lawyer and sue him for defamation and harassment. He wants to take advantage of the Atul Sunash’s plight, but when court and the people realize he’s faking he will really screwed to the point of no return.

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                                                            January 13, 2025 at 6:38 pm
                                                            Yes he brought up the atul case in his petition. Saying Indian men need rights or he will take the atuls way. All this drama when I didn’t even want a single penny from this beggar but just my own rightful jewellery that my parents gave me.

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                                                                January 14, 2025 at 3:08 pm
                                                                That fool is just helping your case tbh

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                                                              January 13, 2025 at 6:26 pm
                                                              Maybe I’m wrong but you could sue him and he needs to prove you’re not a woman, not the other way around. Others could confirm

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                                                                  January 13, 2025 at 6:31 pm
                                                                  I also want to sue the “gynaecologist friend” of his who thought it’s ok to diagnose a woman of being a man without even checking her and believing everything my husband said.

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                                                                    January 13, 2025 at 6:32 pm
                                                                    He sent a long list why he thinks am a man. Its know my profile.

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                                                                        January 13, 2025 at 8:33 pm
                                                                        Something tells me this list will be rolling-on-the-floor-with-my-stomach-achingly funny

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                                                                            January 14, 2025 at 3:38 am
                                                                            It is…Me being 5 feet 4 inches is apparently too tall to be a biological woman

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                                                                        January 13, 2025 at 6:43 pm
                                                                        Wait wait wait…

                                                                        If someone accuses me of being a girl… Wouldn’t just taking the test proves them wrong and resisting it further strengthens their claim?

                                                                        I mean once it’s proved I’m a man, but their own appeal to test me, would ridicule their claim!

                                                                        Am I missing something here?

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                                                                          January 14, 2025 at 1:35 am
                                                                          Don’t be stupid take everything from him, hire a good lawyer. If he treats you like this why aren’t you asking for him home and money? Don’t give in

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                                                                            January 14, 2025 at 2:53 am
                                                                            You fo the tests by yourself and prove him wrong. Then file for alimony and maintenance

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                                                                              January 14, 2025 at 3:14 am
                                                                              Your husband is a POS shit go to his house like you are there to have sex with him and ip his dick off not the best from a legal standpoint but very good solution

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                                                                                January 14, 2025 at 5:55 am
                                                                                It seems you do deserve the alimony in this case.

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                                                                                  January 14, 2025 at 6:36 am
                                                                                  Why don’t women like Nikita Singhaniya go after such men

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                                                                                      January 15, 2025 at 2:18 am
                                                                                      We don’t know what kind of man Atul was any way. Not saying Nikita is a righteous person, she abused the law and corruption for things to be in her favour but his letter doesn’t exactly give us a saintly picture of him, enough to make you want to know the other side too.

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                                                                                          January 15, 2025 at 5:29 am
                                                                                          Atul committed suicide after repeated harassment. They even filed a fake murder case on him, which the wife took back. If you’re questioning why his letter was that way, it’s because he became mentally ill after traveling from Bangalore to wherever that case was over 120 times in a span of 2-3 years. Most of his letter was a commentary or evidences. Some parts were disturbing- or portray a harsh reality, but the intent was to show his side of the story, which he did. He deserves justice.

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                                                                                        January 14, 2025 at 7:37 am
                                                                                        Why do u need to feel ashamed for asking for alimony? U have sacrificed so much for him in life and in return he is giving u this , u can proudly ask for alimony but ask reasonable amount , it’s ur right ? How r u going to live of urself after he divorce ? And on top he is also withholding ur asset and making such a scene out in open , i just can’t imagine how horrible he would have been with u at home ? Women’s feeling ashamed to ask why is ur right is do bad , have u ever hear a boy aplogizig for asking a dower ? And those who don’t proudly states the they demand other stuffs from her in return , so why r u so ashamed to ask for ur support after divorce when u have sacrificed so much ? Don’t let the men’s bully u into it , they will always only think abt themselves ad the society is conducted that they in their favour , asking for reasonable amount of support should not make u feel ashamed

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                                                                                          January 14, 2025 at 8:48 am
                                                                                          Wow your ex husband needs to be sent to a mental health facility and keys thrown to a different planet. Such delusions.

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                                                                                            January 14, 2025 at 2:45 pm
                                                                                            Even if you are a man, it’s still your gold. He has to return

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                                                                                                January 14, 2025 at 4:47 pm
                                                                                                Came here to say this.

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                                                                                                January 15, 2025 at 5:22 am
                                                                                                You can file a case (ask a lawyer about the section) to return your streedhan or tell him you will ask for alimony. It’s illegal for him to keep it.

                                                                                                Your husband’s letter is hilarious. If a judge accepts it, I’ll ROFL in front of the judge. I needed that joke.

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                                                                                                  January 17, 2025 at 3:44 pm
                                                                                                  Is he oblivious to ongoing situation of men in recent divorce cases? It seems like everyone is over playing their hand.

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