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UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 5:52 pmSo as the title says I’m going to elope with my gf in march, in feb we are going to proceed with marriage registration. She is at her native place and her family has already got a groom for her without her knowing, and the groom they have selected just said okay for marriage only after seeing her no talk nothing. Her family comes from orthodox thinking , while my parents are ready to get me married to her. My parents are going to help me elope with her as that’s the last resort, she often comes and stays to my place. Her marriage has been fixed in month of June. Please advice of the thing to be taken care of family and legal things. -
UUser_0a778960
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January 27, 2025 at 5:58 pmBhai mat kar family waale police case kar denge kidnapping ka, Tu hi phasega.-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 27, 2025 at 6:03 pmOften times wife is then compelled by her parents to give false testimony and she agrees.-
UUser_9a843357
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January 27, 2025 at 6:13 pmEven in that case she can say I was forced to give the testimony, I was forcefully made to say that I eloped willingly.-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 27, 2025 at 6:14 pmThat’s why i said plan the whole thing with her in the chat. You don’t plan your own kidnaping now do you? The story that she was kidnaped becomes sketchy then.-
UUser_9a843357
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January 27, 2025 at 6:29 pmChat? Do you even know indian judiciary. Even her testimony can get him jailed. The proofs might get him free but a few months of jail to him and his family snd ruin their reputation and careers. Baki uske upar hai mai kon hota hu bolne wala-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 28, 2025 at 1:39 amI’m not the one saying to elope am i? If he is bound to do it he will face the consequences.
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UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:18 pmAll I can hope is that she shouldn’t get emotional and give a false testimony, I was thinking to speak to her parents but since they are so orthodox and have got a groom for her I don’t Think so they would agree even if I approach with my family
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UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:16 pmBhai vo already Bol Rahi ki December me Jate registration Karne mene mana kiya, but registration se phele court me statement likha lunga and submit kar dunga. But I hope go palte emotional ho k
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UUser_9a843357
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January 27, 2025 at 6:12 pmBhai mat kar, uske ghar wale case karenge aur wo 22 ki hai maa baap ke emotional blackmail mai aa jayegi aur agar unke force karne par usne tere khiladiyon gawahi dedi to tu aur tere gharwale doni zindagi bhar jail mai pade rahoge. I’d say ask her to emotionally blackmail her parents and try to convince them make your parents visit. Or else get over her, career aur zindagi rahegi tonaur ladki mil jayegi.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:17 pmBut I hope vo palte na emotional ho k and I have all the chats and proof that she is ready to elope-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 27, 2025 at 6:21 pmIf you guys marry before eloping then it should be little problem i think. No one will believe that she first married someone, planned to elope (as per your proof) and then the boy kidnaped her and she was under his persuasion the whole time-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:24 pmWill put an appeal for court marriage registration a month prior,keep all proof of chat in between that time till the date of final process, just scared about fake testimony by her at end time I hope she doesn’t-
UUser_9a843357
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January 27, 2025 at 6:28 pmBhai hope karke risk mat le, asch bol rha hu ek bar maa baap ka pressure aya na ladki ko palat te der nhi lagti. Teri zindagi ke lag jayenge she will walk away with 2 right slaps form her parents and she will change her mind. Please dont be naive.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:31 pmAlright bro, thanks for advice, before taking any wrong step I’ll get confirmation from her for each and everything, Aur Abhi itna time us k sath rheke mana nai kar sakta usko bhi bhagne k liye, for Bolegi sirf use kiya mujhe. But sach me us k sath mujhe apna future chiye, phele lawyer se ek bar bat kar lunga personally bhi-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 28, 2025 at 1:40 amWhy elope? If you get married then there’s nothing he parents can do. Btw both of you are of same religion right? (Given the current political scenario)-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 28, 2025 at 2:30 amYes from same religion.-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 28, 2025 at 2:32 amJust don’t elope. Marry and the girl moves out and comes to your home. Done.
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UUser_4d2c2202
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January 27, 2025 at 6:32 pmBro I had seen similar case in my known so please listen
1. Anyone in her family members don’t know about where are you going
2. I will advise you to elope in night and then in morning go to nearest court (u have to go court as soon as possible) and u can do settlement with registar ( who is sitting for marriage) i.e officer before 1-2 day of eloping,
Best of luck-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:33 pmThank you brother, will will take necessary precautions, before any step-
UUser_4d2c2202
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January 27, 2025 at 6:34 pmGood luck bro and tell her to take all imp.documents
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SSmartlion9750
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January 27, 2025 at 6:39 pmBhai baad mai bhagna phle shaadi tudwa..buy some time and see teri bndi tere liye stand le rhi h k ni vrna bahut buri gaand tootegi teri and bahut beijjati hogi parents ki wo alag…
Bhai experience se bolra hu ladkiya palat jaati h-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:42 pmBhai usne Ghar pe bola ki me kisi aur se pyaar karti hu tho usko sab k samne chata laga, filhal tho Gav me hai, only chat aur call kar sakta hu, ab jan vi ayegi tab court me lawyer ko mil ne junga aur lawyer se personally bhi milunga agar koi proof rakhna hoga tho-
SSmartlion9750
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January 27, 2025 at 6:47 pmWhi bolra na bhai ..ek chate m baat bnd just imagine uske parents agr suicide ki dhamki de diye usko to kya wo tujhe over her parents choose karegi…pyar mohbbat jbtk bnd kamre m tbtk pyar h bahar niklne k baad bahut chutiyap h… If she can choose you over her family tabhi tumara saath possible h ..tu kitna bhi lawyer vagerh krle ,ek baar uske pitaji bolenge k mai suicide karloonga agr lawyer ko kuch bola and GAME OVER DUDE ..
And you know the worst part–us point k baad koi wapasi ni hogi…unless she is able to choose you over her family,ye bhaag k shaadi wala baat chhod de .kyu faltu mai parents ko beijjat krwana chah rha h yr-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:55 pmAlright bro, Aur thoda time sochta hu is k bare me, use bhi discuss karlunga, thank you brother
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UUser_89b0059f
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January 27, 2025 at 6:44 pmdon’t-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:46 pmOof, bhai itna sara comments padh k tho faat k char hone lagi hai
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UUser_96518b90
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January 27, 2025 at 6:56 pmBhai jail jaane ki ninja technique….ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding. But in all seriousness you can get screwed in ways unfathomable to your brain.Thoda realistic approach le aur ladki ke parents ko convince kar last tak …
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UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 6:57 pmOkay bhai, thanks!-
UUser_96518b90
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January 27, 2025 at 7:01 pmMere mama ka similar situation thaa… Approx 20 years pehle bhai. Ladki bhi ready thi wo bhaag aayi thi unke saath. Par ladki ke family waale influential the, aur sabko pata hai law and order kaisa hai desh me.Even ladki ka consent won’t save you forever, aise me family waalo ka ego issue aa jata hai aur wo kuchh bhi karte hai khud ko bada prove karne ko
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BBrightsharad5081
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January 27, 2025 at 7:07 pmI know a case where a couple eloped doing the same thing. They still have a case in going against them over 20 years later which means either of them can step foot in the cities the cases were filed and can’t meet their families either. The couple is now living in poverty and the woman regrets eloping. So be careful with after ever you do-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 7:08 pmDamnn, I’m really getting sacred now!-
BBrightsharad5081
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January 27, 2025 at 7:15 pmIn my experience love marriages have only worked out when both families are on board without that at some point or another resentment seeps through the relationship to end them
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HHappywolf3369
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January 27, 2025 at 7:35 pmNone is lawyer here so here is the actual workable advice .If the other family is rich and influencal then yours then think this through. It may be bad, your family should be able to control the situation.
Be very sure of girl. Discuss that this can happen.
Marriage registration -you need to put a notice before for month. Give application now and wait for time. First get married and then elope
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UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 7:37 pmAlright bro noted, they are not influential so that should not be a problem, will discuss each and everything with my girl first and then proceed
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UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 8:31 pmInstead of eloping try breaking the marriage and try convincing the family no matter how hard it is. Don’t do stupid things like eloping. Pyar main andha mat ho-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 8:33 pmConvincing not possible bhai, Bhot orthodox hai go log, uski sister ka bhi relationship tha Kuch around 5 to 10 yrs ka, usko bhi nai karne di Shadi, jati me kisi aur se karadi Jaldi me vi bhi bevda nikla-
UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 8:37 pmThen do arrange marriage with her. Or they already know about you two?-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 8:38 pmUs k Ghar pe nai pata, but jab usne ghusse me bola ki mujhe koi aur pasand hai, tho fir usko Mara man k niche uski mummy ne-
UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 8:42 pmApproach the groom anonymously and tell things so that he backs out.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 8:49 pmWhat if he goes to her to tell everything father and things become worse?-
UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 8:51 pmAnonymously means you don’t have to go. Just send any random trusted friend and explain things so that he backs out. After then you go for rishta in their house with your parents. I’m assuming they still don’t know about you.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 8:53 pmYeah, I mean she just gave a hint saying I love somebody else when she got know about her marriage, and also they are very strict, they would only get her married with sm1 same as her last name nobody else.-
UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 8:57 pmSomeone same as her last name. That’s so fucking stupid. That’s why education is important. Continuous self pollination leads to inbreeding depression.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 8:59 pmThat’s the hardest part of this her parents won’t understand any of this. -
UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 9:02 pmBetter don’t end up in such trash family line. -
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 9:06 pmI’m too confused bro, I’ll speak to my family and her about the consequences. -
UUser_dc92f18c
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January 27, 2025 at 9:08 pmTwo things 1)Don’t embarrass your family by eloping. 2)There’s lot of fish in the pond. -
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 9:09 pmAlright bro!, thanks.
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UUser_1ced7f3c
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January 27, 2025 at 9:42 pmGood way to destroy your life. You will regret this so badly in 5-6 years that you will be begging for a time machine.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 9:44 pmOof , that’s harsh, might turn true who knows.
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SSupernutan714
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January 27, 2025 at 10:34 pmIf you both are Hindu then fastest way to get legally married is in Arya Samaj Mandir. If you Hindu she isn’t then too fastest way to get legally married is in Arya Samaj Mandir.
Also do not ever meet your In-laws and let your gf / wife meet her parents without security.
Legally they can not do anything to harm you but illegally then can make your life hell.-
UUser_6a5f30f6
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January 27, 2025 at 10:35 pmBoth are Hindu, thank you ! Will take care of the things
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QQuicksajal9576
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January 27, 2025 at 11:08 pmDon’t run and ruin your life , tere parents ki majburi h tere ko support karna.
The girls in these kind of cases are extremely fickle minded . Although there may be many bad decisions you will take later in life as all do , but this decision will comes with legal consequences ,and if you are jailed ,then its a waste of your life.Better control yourself. Ask her to file complaint to police that she is getting married forcefully . And after that you proceed to marry her.
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UUser_4ebd8628
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January 28, 2025 at 12:24 amSaathiya movie approach was best and prudent -
UUser_bfc874a8
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January 28, 2025 at 3:14 amMat bhag Bhai. Settle hoja life mein. Fir saamne se jaa us k parents se baat kar like a man. -
UUser_5185a8d0
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January 28, 2025 at 7:18 amSign a prenup with her ASAP⛔ -
UUser_e31ab49f
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January 28, 2025 at 8:00 pmJail is just a room.
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