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UI need help i am from India Mumbai. I have been in abusive marriage since 8 months i have complained it to my parents and they got manipulated by him.
I complained about everything to my parents today they sent me back to him with him. Today he was most abusive to me. my head and body hurts a lot i need to leave Its morning i want to leave this house i don’t trust him anymore and my parents won’t accept me.
Is there any organisation in Mumbai?
I have proofs of what had been happening to me.
My parents are adamant and he is not mentally stable i need to get away
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Rhttps://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/s/xK1Y0btahq
How many marriages and divorces have you had?
You got divorced and then married again?
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BHaha nice detective work partner. Ya you’re right.
This is some slob behind a monitor looking for attention by making up false stories.
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UI dont know whether she is a troll or its genuine case
But I dont understand why people make up stories and post here, what fun do they get out of it? Is it some sort of mental problem
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BSee kronos, I dont know how to reply to your homeless point.
Some are Wise, Some are OtherWise.
First marriage the lady got abused, got divorced, good for her.
Second marriage she is complaining of abuse, then perhaps maybe the problem is with her.
They say, if you think that everyone is the problem, then maybe You are the Problem.
See, this is her second marriage and its only been 11 months since last divorce.
2 years ago she made multiple posts asking about divorce. 11 months ago she got it. Less than 3 months after divorce she had a love marriage (hope everyone is on track till here). Within 3 months of 2nd marriage she is having issues.Ofc she could just be a trouble magnet. Besides, she is muslim and islam doesn’t look so kindly upon divorce. Perhaps she should consider being single henceforth.
OP, no one is judging you. We have other things to do. You just focus on the last line, or find way to make things work since it is love marriage.
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UYour fastest course of relief will be calling the police. Call women’s thana if possible. You don’t need money to lodge an FIR.
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USo they will come and save her right? In which century are you living? I have come across police in collusion with abusive men and turn the victim into a monster. A woman has no recourse if she is alone and suffering.
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UI’m sorry if you’ve had a bad experience with the police (in fact most of us have) but I’d rather call the police and save myself from dying, even if it’s temporary. No, they won’t save her in the long term but if she can prove that she was beaten, she can at least get out of that place momentarily to think of something else. She can’t contact women’s shelters or NGOs from within the confines of her home.
Often times we are not as helpless as we think. It’s people like with you with “kuchh nahin hoga” mentality that causes more harm. And yes, I’ve seen police take bribes from abusive husbands but at the same time, I’ve seen an equal amount of women being helped out of situations as well. (Speaking from a Tier 1 & 2 experience). If you are personally not in a place to help OP, then please keep your unhelpful mouth shut.
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UAdvocate based out of Mumbai here . Do contact me if you plan to file Dv complaint against your husband .
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SFirst can u help her with suggestions on safety ñd where to move out, which is her immediate concern
Before handing your visiting card
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UFirst thing would be to move out of the residence with all your streedhan and documents . Ideally back to your parents place. Next thing . Write the incidents of abuse in depth , this will aid your advocate in drafting the complaint . If there are no children then it’s a better scenario compared to one where there are children involved. If you cannot approach your parents ,then there are women centric domestic violence cells in police station , They will help you , besides the police , Ngo and women hostels will accommodate you as well .
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UCall National commission for women – 7827-170-170
This number is operating 24×7 and they are quick to take action and give support.Call any friends or extended family or cousins or siblings you have.
For womens shelter –
https://shantigharandheri.com/https://mumbai.graceslist.org/directory/categories/womens-shelters
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FIn different cases women misusing the law to make men’s life hell.
Here.. OP is an actual victim, but afraid of using.
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PGood chance this once’s not real. Someone dug up OPs previous posts which contradict this post – https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/s/etIu7ZnQ8k
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UThis was one year ago, it’s possible she got married again. She did state she’s been married for 8 months.
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UHi OP, sorry you’re going through this. Making the decision to leave them both is the right one for now. Depending on where in Mumbai you stay, google NGO’s that deal with domestic violence. Read the ratings and reviews before you approach them. You can walk into any of the NGO’s and they will be able to help you with shelter and legal proceedings. Do take advantage of these organisations as they have been set up to help women that are at a disadvantage.
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UIm sure you are a fun person to be with and your parents too love you and just dont want you gone from the house, we should understand every story we read here, the op isnt always a saint
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UIn which universe are you living ?
File an FIR for Domestic Violence as soon as possible. Get a full body medical examination from a government hospital so that your injuries are documented.Then, hire a good lawyer. He’ll get you the money to make you independent and take his commission from that.
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HPlease prioritize your safety and leave immediately. Contact a women’s helpline or organization like Snehi (022-2878-1021) or Women’s Cell (1091) for immediate support. Mumbai also has shelters like Majlis and Snehalaya that can provide assistance. Visit the nearest police station with your proof for help retrieving your passport and filing a complaint. Stay strong—you deserve a safe and happy life.
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PSummarising all recommendation for someone who is actually in need:
– File an FIR, police can also detain your parents if maternal parents don’t let the daughter back in. You don’t need money to file a case with the police.
– Call national commission of women – 7927170170
– free stays ngo – https://shantigharandheri.com/
However, your story seems fake. u/Rejuvenate_2021 did some nice detective work to find your other posts where you mentioned you’re already divorced – https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/s/fpvJ0KCCsk
Not sure what you’re looking for on here.
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UFirst get a full medical report and collect the evidences.
2. Go to the passport office and lodge a report of lost passport and renewal.
3. A FIR will be lodged for your lost passport.( As your husband is not giving your passport back).
Here is a tricky thing- which address are you going to provide for verification of passport? So it’s upto you to decide.
4. In my opinion, try to live with your husband carefully till you get your passport( if you are saying you don’t have any option).
But to renew your passport you must have atleast the number or xerox copy of it. Do you have it?
5. See, the best option is actually get away from him and live somewhere else if you have the money to afford a hotel or something and lodge a FIR. Or if you can trust someone and can live with them.
If the family is influential then maybe you can first change the state and then do the above mentioned suggestions. As you don’t need a passport to change states. Collect all of your certificates and important documents first.
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UI am sorry you are going through this. Do you have any friends etc that can help out with some temporary accommodation while you try and get a job ?
Abscond from those entirely toxic set of people. Gain financial independence. If possible plan an exit strategy with these pointers and leave.
Keep those proofs safe and if possible create an alternate email and email those to the other id -
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BSee kronos, I dont know how to reply to your homeless point.
Some are Wise, Some are OtherWise.
First marriage the lady got abused, got divorced, good for her.
Second marriage she is complaining of abuse, then perhaps maybe the problem is with her.
They say, if you think that everyone is the problem, then maybe You are the Problem.
See, this is her second marriage and its only been 11 months since last divorce.
2 years ago she made multiple posts asking about divorce. 11 months ago she got it. Less than 3 months after divorce she had a love marriage (hope everyone is on track till here). Within 3 months of 2nd marriage she is having issues.Ofc she could just be a trouble magnet. Besides, she is muslim and islam doesn’t look so kindly upon divorce. Perhaps she should consider being single henceforth.
OP, no one is judging you. We have other things to do. You just focus on the last line, or find way to make things work since it is love marriage.
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