Marriage Registrar is asking for 40k

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        April 18, 2025 at 10:16 pm
        My bf and I plan on getting married. He isn’t an Indian citizen. The marriage registrar of my district is asking for 40k to do jt.
        Is he scamming us? There is only one registrar who does SMA, in my district. Please help.

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          April 18, 2025 at 10:21 pm
          Yes this is a scam. Reach out to some lawyer check YouTube for more information about this.

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              April 18, 2025 at 10:24 pm
              Isn’t a lawyer going to do the same? Charge more money?

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                  April 18, 2025 at 10:33 pm
                  try to research CPGRAMS, and how to reach the anti-corruption bureau/branch of the state, then catch him red handed.

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                      April 18, 2025 at 10:34 pm
                      I just want to get married. Please help me around with that. I don’t really want to get into these complications

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                          April 18, 2025 at 10:38 pm
                          thats why when you know the remedies and state them to that POS registrar he will stop the pestering against you. voice record all the interactions.

                          if you don’t want to confront using those then i guess you need to find a lawyer/agent who will get it done for less than that amount.

                          just like how this shit works in RTOs around the country.

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                              April 18, 2025 at 10:43 pm
                              So there are only 3 government registered registrars for my ward. Only one does foreigner special marriage act. It’s a government service, shouldn’t it be done for free/minimal amount?

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                                  April 18, 2025 at 10:51 pm
                                  yeah usually these things don’t cost much, prolly under 5k,

                                  like when i had made my drivers license 5-6 years back, I went the full honest legal route, no-agent bribes and shiz. costed my 20% of what was demanded. but took time and had to attend all the tests and pass them.

                                  thats why without getting disturbed by their straight up immorality ask them deadass whats the actual cost, i guess this should be on some state specific website, But if you maintain the facade of someone who aint gonna bend to your wishes dumbass then they will let you off hook and follow the real process and won’t take bribes.

                                  thats why i was recommending having knowledge of what to do incase he or his cronies dont budge.

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                                    April 18, 2025 at 10:51 pm
                                    These suckers know you will not have time to run around. Had to pay a lakh just to transfer house from my late dads name to mom. Its the name of the game. Welcome to the piece of shit corrupt to the core country.

                                    Why even bother registering in india. Can you not register in HIS country? Or you get to travel only after getting a marriage based visa?

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                                        April 18, 2025 at 10:54 pm
                                        Can’t travel to his country. So need to get it registered here. Is there a way around it? Because all of this needs to be done in a month and I don’t want the process to get stuck.

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                                            April 18, 2025 at 10:56 pm
                                            Ubless you know local politicians who can help, pay the cost of convenience and move on. Once they know you are in a rush, they will delay it even more in one pretext or other where you will be open to pay them even more money just to get work done.

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                                                April 18, 2025 at 11:01 pm
                                                We complain about the system but we keep feeding into the system as well. It’s just so sad. For a basic thing like marriage, especially in a country like ours which boasts of rich social and family structure. I don’t want to pay, but okay, will keep that option open.

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                                                  April 18, 2025 at 11:04 pm
                                                  then act like you have all the time in the world and wont budge,

                                                  unless you have other commitments and won’t be available after a month.

                                                  go with your parents, friends, fiancΓ©. apes strong together ts.

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                                                    April 18, 2025 at 11:07 pm
                                                    It requires my fiance to stay here for a month. So not really that time. It’s so frustrating.

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                                                      April 18, 2025 at 11:09 pm
                                                      then what about using his embassy as the first line of defence.

                                                      voice record the demand for bribes and ask him to contact the embassy for help. ig this should rattle them up for good.

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                                                        April 18, 2025 at 11:13 pm
                                                        I guess but like I said we only have a month, and all of this is gonna get investigated etc. don’t really want all the jhamela

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                                                          April 18, 2025 at 11:19 pm
                                                          then you gotta brainstorm how to twist their arms backs if they are adamant. and trying whats feasible before submitting.

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                                                            April 19, 2025 at 4:12 am
                                                            Unfortunately you can’t get anything done in this corrupt country without undergoing jhamela. Either you have strong connections or you have money or you have time on your side to grind. If you don’t have any of these three, you are doomed.

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                                                              April 18, 2025 at 11:10 pm
                                                              also i’m not a lawyer just someone who had too much coffee.

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                                                                April 18, 2025 at 11:07 pm
                                                                I know. But what we gonna do. Especially those who dont live in india and can only visit for a short time. If you both have time, then by all means, file the paperwork and force him to follow due process. But do remember. These suckers have all the tricks up their sleeves. If there is a process to publish a public advertisement for anyone raising objections, they can just have someone file an objection. And then you are on ur own to fight out that shit.

                                                                I really hate this country.

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                                                                  April 18, 2025 at 11:08 pm
                                                                  Okay. I can’t wait to leave this country for real.

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                                                      April 19, 2025 at 4:43 am
                                                      Yes, every lawyer will try to scam. Court marriage procedure is not something complex for which you need lawyers.

                                                      Please go through this http://www.indiafilings.com/learn/court-marriage

                                                      You will get your answers here. Don’t waste your money on agents and lawyers. Or negotiate the fees if you don’t have enough time to do it yourself.

                                                      40k is too high.

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                                                          April 19, 2025 at 4:45 am
                                                          You need a marriage registrar in any case and the thing is these people have formed a cartel, because you cannot do without them.

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                                                              April 19, 2025 at 4:47 am
                                                              Yeah, but don’t budge. Negotiate the fees. Is there any for you to move to different state and get married? Bandra Court, Mumbai are very swift in these matters.

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                                                                  April 19, 2025 at 4:48 am
                                                                  Unfortunately no. The law dictates that it can only happen in the area either one has lived for at least 30 days

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                                                          April 19, 2025 at 2:19 am
                                                          Hey from what i read from your comments, you dont want to drag this but doesnt wsnt to bribe, so i have a plan for 40k you can just visit thailand and get your marraige regestered there, from what i read online you have to visit your respective embassies and obtain some form and then visit the marraige office one more thing js you have to stay there for 3 days before getting married

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                                                              April 19, 2025 at 2:24 am

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                                                                  April 19, 2025 at 3:08 am
                                                                  Not an option please suggest something else

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                                                                      April 19, 2025 at 3:09 am
                                                                      Well you either have to pay here or go somewhere else,others have suggested to standup but you dont want to do that.

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                                                                          April 19, 2025 at 3:14 am
                                                                          I want to know if there is a way to supersede this or do I really need a registrar

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                                                                              April 19, 2025 at 3:15 am
                                                                              If you ever go to his country you should be able to regester it there, or if you go on any vacation you can do it there too

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                                                                      April 19, 2025 at 2:50 am
                                                                      I got married to my wife in Seychelles. Their process was super smooth. Once you get married you need the certificate to be apostilled and then an embassy stamp on it. The whole process takes 2-3 days.

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                                                                          April 19, 2025 at 3:08 am
                                                                          I really do not want to do anything like this.

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                                                                          April 19, 2025 at 4:29 am
                                                                          Yes, sounds like a scam. At most it should be around 10k. The government charges are around Rs. 200. Search for lawyers who handle SMA and let them deal with the registrar.

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                                                                              April 19, 2025 at 4:31 am
                                                                              The problem is that WB gov has digitised the process and separated the gov registered registrars based on wards. I only have three in my ward and only one deals with SMA. Lawyers don’t do this thing.

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                                                                                  April 19, 2025 at 4:45 am
                                                                                  The process is digitized since ages. I registered my marriage online 4-5 years ago at lawyer’s office in Kolkata. Search for marriage lawyers and talk to them and negotiate the price. Since, your bf is foreign citizen they are exploiting you. My cousin married last month and paid 6.5k for registration under SMA, both were Indian citizens. The government charges are very minimal and rest is their profits. They will try to justify that by giving BS excuses.

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                                                                                      April 19, 2025 at 4:46 am
                                                                                      Do i absolutely need a registrar?

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                                                                                          April 19, 2025 at 4:49 am
                                                                                          Get a lawyer and negotiate a price and discuss with them. The cost is very less than your quoted price of 40k.

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                                                                                    April 19, 2025 at 9:10 am
                                                                                    search on Jistdial for marraige lawyers. They will call you. Get their rates and go ahead with the one that suites you

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                                                                                      April 19, 2025 at 5:06 pm
                                                                                      which country does he belongs ?

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                                                                                        April 20, 2025 at 12:59 pm
                                                                                        10k is more than enough for this. My brother got married in Jan, his wife is not Indian, he spend 10k for registration.

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                                                                                            April 20, 2025 at 2:38 pm
                                                                                            Where is he based? Which city?

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                                                                                                He lives in Canada and wife is USA

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                                                                                                  April 20, 2025 at 6:44 pm
                                                                                                  But he got married in India

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                                                                                                      April 20, 2025 at 11:31 pm
                                                                                                      Where in India

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                                                                                                          Gujarat

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                                                                                                    OP is asking suggestions but not taking any suggestions. Lol

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                                                                                                        April 22, 2025 at 2:25 am
                                                                                                        Enlighten me on what suggestions to take? Get scammed or get married in Thailand

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                                                                                                            People have given good suggestion about getting in touch with a lawyer. But you are making excuses for that also. No one forced you to marry in Thailand.
                                                                                                            If you are going to get married, I am assuming, your mentality should also be mature. So accept the “mature” suggestions or get scammed.

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                                                                                                          April 22, 2025 at 2:25 pm
                                                                                                          I spend some 500 for some registrar document fees. I think the sweet box we gave them at the end of the 30 days was more. I got married in Kochi.

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                                                                                                              April 22, 2025 at 6:57 pm
                                                                                                              To a foreign national?

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                                                                                                                  Yes.

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