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UMy brother had a love cum arranged marriage about a year ago. Both of them are mentally harassing my mother and even father sometimes. I try to intrude but even I am getting exhausted. Everytime there’s a shitty reason to fight mainly because of ego clash.
A bit of background :
Sister in law works in a firm. We provide her with a 4 wheeler to commute daily, we have 3 house helpers, we landed her a job. We gifted them 4-5 vacations in India, in each vacations they were staying at 5 star.My brother on the other hand started a business from scratch and is unable to make it profitable. Now the issue is she is asking 30k monthly for her makeup and clothes from my brother. She doesn’t even spends a penny for herself.(earns 40k per month).
She spins stories like a spider and screams at my family like hell. My brother always takes her side. We asked them to leave, but they aren’t. They always get their things done by threatening to get divorced.
My question is legally what can be done? The situation is so bad, if sister in law claims anything my brother will agree with her without thinking even for once.
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Cyour father can separate them and they will get a reality check within a short period. If every property is bought by your father and is not ancestral he can force them out of his every property. believe me without money all the attitude vanishes and they will come to sense
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UFrom the looks of it OPs brother in law is about to get divorced anyways. This screams golddigger.
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ABy the way, gifting them 4-5 vacations and four wheelers is not the reason why she should fall in line. It looks like your brother is a freeloader who did not take his responsibility.
You talk about your sister in law but looks like your brother is at fault here for not setting expectations. Kick him out of the house, make him write on a bond paper that he is welcome only when he pays back money.
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Please get some legal advice from a good lawyer if your parents share the same view as you.
It’s sad to hear such news.>Now the issue is she is asking 30k monthly for her makeup and clothes from my brother. She doesn’t even spends a penny for herself.(earns 40k per month).
On a side note ye 40k kamane walo ka muh kaise khul jaata hai to spend 30k on things like makeup and clothes.
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UBro ask dad to talk with your brother directly and find the way to throw out your brother and sister in law…Initially he will fight and ask for money to survive so be ready for something but once they go you all will be happy and can live peacefully. In this way you will be out of divorce matter which can be very worse for the family. Now a days divorce and their demands are in trend. Y
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UTake good legal advice .. send them to a vacation while they are away throw their things out or sell ur property and get into a gated property where they cannot even enter ( u guys sound rich )..and stop all contact with them they appear shameless they will not divorce infact they seem made for each other call their bluff ..
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UThey are bluffing you guys with the divorce. Call their bluff. Throw them out and let me get divorced. They will come crawling back when they get a reality check. If not, they are out anyways. So win-win.
Also, what do you mean when you say ‘she doesn’t even spend a penny for herself’?
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UIf she is earning then she could meet her daily needs without making an issue in family. Even she does cash on delivery deliberately. So we have to pay. Then she complains to her real father ki her needs are not met. This level of acting she does.
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NIf the house belongs to your parents they can file a suit against their son and daughter-in-law asking court to pass an order directing them to leave the house and also an injunction restraining them from re entering the house. They can say they are senior citizens and being harassed due to their fights. The court usually grants such an order in favour of old parents and they will have to move out in a rented accommodation. Your brother and his wife seem to be really spoilt and freeloaders. Once they are kicked out they will learn some responsibility. There are many such cases filed in courts by parents against their son and daughter in law. Court usually supports the parents.
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MTime to kick them out of the house so that they run their own establishment. Update them on what they will be getting as allowances per month. Tell them they need to manage their expenses in that or develop new sources of income.
Lastly if its a family vacation its fine to fund for all those travelling together. If its for them alone – they can fund their holidays..
For a family that appears pretty well off – you seem to be oblivious of how to manage the dynamics as new people marry into your family.
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UI don’t think you have any option in India. She can just go to police station and say that ur family is mentally and physically harassing her for dowry etc. THAT’S IT. SHE LITERALLY HAS TO DO NOTHING ELSE. After this, your family will be booked under 498A, u guys will be put behind bars. The case will go on for many years. You guys won’t even get bail. Understand this, if you are doing marriage in India, then your life is now at the mercy of the woman.
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EBro, I’ve come from such a situation myself. Things started getting shitty after my dad passed away. Mom, 2nd bro and I cared too much for their children and didn’t take the difficult steps when we had to. That’s the mistake we did.
My advise legal or not is to just have a private meeting between you brothers and your father and mother included without your sister in law. Have a verbal agreement and then start diving the whatever properties are left. Otherwise things will get too ugly too fast. Nothing will be left. Take action soon.
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