Neighbor Exposed Himself to My Mother – How Can We Take Action Without Filing a Case?

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        March 3, 2025 at 6:42 pm
        This morning, my mother (a higher secondary teacher) experienced a disturbing incident. Our neighbor, an elderly man, stood in his sit-out and deliberately exposed himself to her in an obscene manner. She was shocked and deeply disturbed.

        We have some video evidence, though it’s not very clear—his lungi is visible, but not his full body.

        However, my mother does not want to file an FIR or take legal action that may require court involvement, as she is a working professional. She just wants to ensure this man is warned and does not repeat such behavior.

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          March 3, 2025 at 6:52 pm
          Go to local police station. Talk to local police. You can inquire their minimum cash for you know before going in. If the officer are nicer they prolly will do it for free. Tell them to come unofficially and warn the neighbour.

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              March 3, 2025 at 7:52 pm
              Y’all bribe your police officers? I’m from Kerala I’ve not heard such a thing here

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                  March 3, 2025 at 7:55 pm
                  I’ve personally never done it. But seen and heard lot such a shit around me. Just said it to consider a possibility so you don’t end up feeling trapped if they ask money. I feel like with your situation they would most likely agree for free help.

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                      March 3, 2025 at 8:05 pm
                      It’s illegal to ask for money here, probably in every state but it’s stricter in kerala ig

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                          March 3, 2025 at 8:09 pm
                          Good. Then just go to police station tomorrow and tell them what happened and that your mother does not wish to file to FIR rn but you want neighbour to learn his place. To come and warn him on your behalf. Should work.

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                        March 4, 2025 at 2:47 am
                        Is kerela in europe?

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                      March 3, 2025 at 7:16 pm
                      NAL but if the point is to make him regret it, post the video in a WhatsApp group with the people in your area.

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                          March 3, 2025 at 7:25 pm
                          The video is not that clear,it only shows his lower body on very close inspection,i really wanna make him regret it but it’s not upto me,it’s my mom’s decision

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                          March 3, 2025 at 7:32 pm
                          call 112 immediately and explain to them when they visit.

                          Do not listen to mom or tell her

                          He will do it again

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                              March 3, 2025 at 7:51 pm
                              It doesn’t work like that here,my mom was the victim so she has to explain and she’s a somewhat shy individual

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                                  March 3, 2025 at 7:54 pm
                                  Just tell cops that man flashed himself and exposed himself. Nothing more. cops will understand

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                                      March 3, 2025 at 7:58 pm
                                      Yeah here’s the thing,this is not the first time we’re complaining about them.We’ve done this before and the police called both the parties to the office but for different reasons and his son showed up instead of him,that dude dipped using medical records or some shit and eventually nothing happened and he’s flashing now

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                                          March 3, 2025 at 8:38 pm
                                          you need to call cops at home by dialing 112. Create scene in society /lane.

                                          Not at police station. Insist on FIR

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                                    March 3, 2025 at 7:37 pm
                                    Record again .. this time clearly .

                                    without evidence it’s just gonna be he said and she said and notings gonna come out of it .

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                                        March 3, 2025 at 7:50 pm
                                        Yeah,I’m gonna let him expose his penis to my mom again.are u fr bro

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                                            March 3, 2025 at 8:21 pm
                                            If you go with so less evidence, he is gonna go out scot free and definitely gonna do it ( or take it up a notch ) and do something worse ..

                                            So yea ..my advice is if you are going to take the legal route then make sure you can get him for good ..if not you are gonna make things worse for you .

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                                          March 3, 2025 at 8:11 pm
                                          Just confront him right away. Record urself doing it. Don’t rely on the authorities.

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                                              March 3, 2025 at 8:17 pm
                                              What’s the point of recording myself? And this guy’s family are known manipulators

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                                                  March 3, 2025 at 8:26 pm
                                                  Recording is important to have the evidence that u have not abused or physically harmed the man.

                                                  Ok then do one thing, file a complaint on the State Commission of Women portal. Police khud ghar pe aake bolegi ke maalik pehle humare paas aa jaate. Constitutional body hai jaroor help milegi.

                                                  Yaha koi manipulation nhi chalega unkaa coz the discretion of police is no more, they’ll get orders to act against the man from the commission. Unhe bhi unki naukri bachaani hai toh voh bhi vohi karenge jo kaha gaya hai.

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                                                March 3, 2025 at 10:49 pm
                                                ever heard of bobbitisation.

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                                                  March 4, 2025 at 12:41 am
                                                  Can you install a cctv camera facing his house?

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                                                    March 4, 2025 at 1:46 am
                                                    Learn to take an advice instead of coming up with excuses, btw how old are you?
                                                    You can file a complaint to the women’s police regarding this and ask them to not file a FIR and leave him with a warning instead

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                                                        March 4, 2025 at 7:15 pm
                                                        I did listen to some of them.I filed an online complaint.some of the advice here is to “make a scene”,”Smack him” and one dude even asked me to wait for him to do it again.

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                                                        March 4, 2025 at 2:11 am
                                                        Why are u asking legal advice when u aren’t up for legal action?
                                                        Go to illegal advice and unethical advice sub, bet u can get some nifty solutions there

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                                                          March 4, 2025 at 2:31 am
                                                          File a complaint by yourself. Instead of asking your mom to file a complaint, you do it. Also, assuming you are an adult, try not to make further excuses and take the responsibility of pursuing the complaint yourself, don’t drag your mum into all this. That way she wouldn’t be bothered by any of it and you’d have to face the coppers when it comes to it.

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                                                              March 4, 2025 at 4:41 am
                                                              I’d do it but I’m not the victim right? They’ll take statements from her only and she’ll have to go to court

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                                                                  March 4, 2025 at 5:29 am
                                                                  Either you do it the right way, that way your mum gets involved or you do it, concoct the story from your POV and get the ball rolling. Filing a formal complaint does not land you in the court directly. The cops would call the perpetrator to the PS to get the process started. Worst comes to worst they’ll proceed with the registration of case. Take a steadfast decision dude! No point lingering with the idea of getting back at him.

                                                                  If you decide to let it simmer, then I am sorry to say this, but you are most definitely on the wrong thread.

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                                                                      March 4, 2025 at 7:18 pm
                                                                      I did file an online complaint on her behalf.Lets see how this goes

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                                                                  March 4, 2025 at 2:33 am
                                                                  Advocate here

                                                                  If you don’t want to get involved legally, you’re asking the wrong question or your asking in the wrong sub.

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                                                                    March 4, 2025 at 2:35 am
                                                                    I’m sorry to say but first thing I’d do is take slipper hit him black and blue then talk to police

                                                                    Indian police understands sentiments

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                                                                      March 4, 2025 at 3:21 am
                                                                      Advocate here ,
                                                                      File a case then compromise later (out of court settlement)

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                                                                        March 4, 2025 at 3:37 am
                                                                        Lawyer here, Exaggerate and file a complaint. Make a story around the video you have, stating the guy flashed his dick in his sit-out and when your family member was carrying out daily chores he started using his tool. Upon your family member informing you the same, you went to get your phone to record but he immediately wore his lungi to hide his tool.

                                                                        Be cautious about spreading such videos publicity, as the guy can file for defamation.

                                                                        File an FIR for obscene act under 296 of BNS and 79 for insulting the modesty of a woman.

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                                                                          March 4, 2025 at 3:48 am
                                                                          Dude just go to the police station and complain. They’ll call him and warn him. That’s usually enough for this sort of thing. Kerala Police sadly sees a lot of such cases and are very good at making sure these idiots get the message.

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                                                                            March 4, 2025 at 3:49 am
                                                                            Bro you’re in the wrong sub.

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                                                                                March 4, 2025 at 4:52 am
                                                                                Where am I supposed to ask this question?

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                                                                                    March 4, 2025 at 9:29 am
                                                                                    from your last sentence it doesn’t seem like you want legal advice so any other sub?

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                                                                                  March 4, 2025 at 5:17 am
                                                                                  1. Are there any family members of that man?
                                                                                  If yes
                                                                                  Then talk to them about the incident. Or;

                                                                                  2. Go ahead with the police option and ask them if they can deal with it informally

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                                                                                      March 4, 2025 at 7:19 pm
                                                                                      His son’s just like him,no point in telling him.

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                                                                                      March 4, 2025 at 5:34 am
                                                                                      Go to the nearest police station.
                                                                                      Talk to the SI regarding what happened.

                                                                                      Tell them everything including how you’d like to avoid a legal battle if possible, they’ll understand.

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                                                                                        Contact broseph

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