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UAs you guys would’ve heard about the Atul Subash case. I wanted to draw light upon the similar incident we as a family are facing on a regular basis at home from the past 15 years.
My uncle(mamu) brilliant guy did his Btech(IIT Kharagpur) MBA (Harvard). Was at once handling 33 countries at Yahoo back in 2008-09.
He married this girl in 2008. Girl was of Noida. Has 2 daughters with her. They after marriage were living in Bangalore.
The girl ran away from home took all the property papers. We came to know about the 2nd child later on. Wouldn’t let my mamu meet his children. He literally pleaded her in front of her family.
Filed a fake case against my family that they used to beat her and ask for money. Everything fake. Hacked into our income tax records to know our property. Demands 4Cr. My mamu left his job 8-9 years back. In his words he said ,’kya fayda iss paise ka’.
Nanaji and mamu used to go to noida from Chandigarh(out home city) for every single case hearing. The distance roughly is 300km one way. Mind that they did this for every hearing and most times when they arrived there the hearing was cancelled.
The girl’s father is retired army officer. They judge ordered monthly maintainence charges although my mamu is jobless.
Both nana-nani suffered heart attacks and has to go bypass 2 times. Nani is diabetic too. They developed these as a result of increased stress.
Few days back the girl’s father gave bribes to delhi police and they came all the way to Chandigarh and arrested my nanu without any warrant. We told them that he was a heart patient and let him carry his medications and please cooperate but all in vain and was driven to delhi and locked up for the night. Call it harassment. We told the judge. Again all in vain.
The girl and her dad secretly paid out lawyer which we were too late to notice . They even bribed every judge that was on the case. All results in their favour. We are still fighting that case 15 years later.
Through my eyes you can see my family suffering every single day, the pain of my grandparents, the whole tension in the house, all the craze for the festivals is gone and everyone is just waiting for the day when it’ll be finally over. I just want my old family back where we celebrated festivals with fun, where i can wait for my mamu bringing gifts whenever he goes abroad for work, where we as a family go to drop him to delhi airport for his flight, where he is happily married, where my grandparents are finally living not just for the sake of it, where they don’t have to worry about the police coming again,where we live as a normal family which has done nothing wrong but just living how the circumstances prevail.
Thank you for listening everyone. Each and every part above written is true.Update- Again an arrest warrant has been issued against my mamu for not paying monthly maintainence. Our latest lawyer is also compromised.
The girl has a well paying job at NIFT noida as a lecturer.
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UDaughter of army officer 🤡 is an enough red flag for me. Telling from my personal experience. Feel free to downvote, i can easily nullify it to maintain my karma.
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GOur country is horrible! 😭
What kind of laws we have and every person gets bribed so easily…
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UAs soon as I read that girl is from Noida, got the ick ki typical yahi act karegi.
OP, I understand it’s difficult for you and your family to live in constant stress. As a virtual stranger, all I’ll say is “Sab acha hojayega” 🫂
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S* how old are the daugthers? ask ur uncle to get a job, need to stop crying and pull up socks; at times need tough love;
* get him a councellor for a few months and pychiatrist to get a few anti depressants. i’m not ashamed to say that civil cases with my family, leaving my home city Blr and friends moving as my father in law not well; getting lazy during covid; putting on weight when i was already fat; has made me depressed and getting help has been a boon. So hope you and your family get the help and fight too!
* go to a good lawyer firm who charge 2-3 lakhs and 2-3 thousand per hearing the wont be magical but less prone to corruption? or if u have a relative/ or someone referred by a friend, though i have seen if they get busy with good paying jobs then they take less interest, in the end we all work for money, i only work (as a software engr of 20 years exper) for 2.5 lakhs a month. lawyers want more if they are good and have experience. now u can scream “fleecing”; “scam”, “cheating”; i call it basic quality, rate, get what u pay for. there are other honest lawyers who take 20-30k to start of with and 1k per hearing, i have one though he has too many cases and is not too good, and wont do anything extra!
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USure i understand your advice. Its just he’s not gone haywire or anything. He just he lost trust in the system and that way sad.
He isn’t psychiatrist level depressed.
And thank you for the lawyer advice we are doing what we can.
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RIf your mama is well educated and able to go on abroad trips for work that means he is capable of making good money. Where the girl is wrong is that it’s been years since they separated and she shouldn’t be eligible for maintenance. The kids need maintenance until they are 18, it doesn’t matter how much the mother makes. The kids belong to the father as much as the mother. I don’t know why Indian divorce system is so messed up that involves parents and siblings. Divorces are between couples and that’s it. Unless there is hard proof (photos, videos, chats) of in laws abusing, in laws shouldn’t be involved at all. Indian men also need to stop being vindictive and cheap, just pay for your kids until they are 18. The. you are free to do whatever you want. It goes quick.
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ESorry op. I’m in the same boat as your mamu. Too many false cases filed against me and family. I couldn’t take it anymore and settled with 50% of property which I bought and they took my son and won’t show him to me. Ask your mamu to settle it and move away. Peace of mind. Not worth the hassle to fight with such people.
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UThank you for the suggestion sir.
And I’m really to hear about it.
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EI know, they become heartless once they start hating you. Courts are always in favor of women everywhere. Even in the usa. The amount of time we spend fighting for justice in this fucked up system is not worth it. God will punish such assholes.
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UPlease use some extra-judicial methods bro.
They are preying on you because they know you will follow the law of land.
Let me list some of them for you:
1. File fake case ( SC-ST, Woman harassment, Attempt to murder, defamation) on the girl and everyone close to her – Jiju, parents, siblings, etc
2. Pay some goons to beat up the close male members of her familyThoda aatank ka mahaul banao…
You have already lost a high-flying career and peace of mind. What else do you have to lose
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URule 1. Never beg to any criminal/abuser ( be it man/women ), they will just torture you more.
Rule 2. Always use money/power/contacts to inflict damage ( even in not so llegal ways ), let them have taste of their own pill.
Rule 3. Once a cheater, always a cheater so never trust them to stick to their own words/written agreements or mutual consent. They will always take u-turn to milk money.
Rule 4. Your lawyer is not your friend, he/she is a professional to make money from litigation, so he/she will never choose best remedy for you, instead he/she will choose best remedy for him/her ( for monetary benefits ).
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UTry to seek help from IIT Kgp alums. Find alumni WhatsApp groups or Facebook groups. You might find good help as many of them would be influential people.
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UI am from IITK. We have a facebook group of alums and also a whatsapp group. Also since your mamu has such an excellent educational background, use it where it will be valued, ask him to post on LinkedIn. His post will soon gain traction and people will be very helpful. Let me know if my advice helps, I will be glad if it does. If possible send me the link to any public post you or her makes. All the best.
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UThere is no NIFT in Noida, NIFT delhi hai but they don’t have a campus in Noida.
Even if she works in NIFT Delhi, I think you can mail the campus letting them know what’s going on with her.
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UYou should totally tweet it on Twitter!! Only social media outrage can get you all the required help
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CIf you can’t win take them all with you when you are going down.
After hearing about this case I made the decision that if it ever comes to a point where I will lose everything because of the Indian legal system I will become the judge jury and executioner and gladly spend the rest of my miserable life in jail knowing I did what was required.
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UVery Sorry to hear that man. To have 20% of your life drained out of you because of an incompetent system is ridiculous.
Not able to meet your own kids is absolute hell. I know it. I am living it. This is after I gave 50% of my assets which is a very very large figure. My ex kept threatening me with false cases against all my family members. She was willing to take my kids on the road. This is inspite of me already giving her a large house and few other assets by then.
Just that we were lucky that our issues happened in the last 3 years. Had it been a few years back, I am sure I would have gone through the same fate.
The mental trauma is immeasurable.
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UI understand your pain sir.
But atleast its over now that is the good part.
The indian judicial system sucks thats what it is in the end. Even the citizens themselves are not safe.
I wish you a happy life ahead.
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UThank you mate. We gave whatever she asked for Financially. That was the only way to get out of that.
But not meeting my kids is a horrible feeling. Anything I do will disturb their emotional well being. That is where I am stuck. Else I would have approached courts by now.
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USame Sir. She is also not letting despite reaching court. Sadly its been years now. We don’t even remember how they look like.
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UI never understand how any parent can deprive the love of the other parent to children. As adults we can have 100’s of differences but when it comes to kids, it is important that they are not deprived of both the parents love.
In fact yesterday I had the same thought. How much would my kids have changed. It has been 17 months since I saw them. It hurts so bad that I cannot be there for them.
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UI really hope this is fake for karma farming,
as it is better to be fake than real.
If this is real, than this is really scary.
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UThis is sad. Your mamu needs to refresh media memory because Atul Subhash case is long out of media attention and his wife already got bail
We need probably tens of thousands of Atul Subhash before the deaf judiciary does something.Behre kaan me awaaj daalne ke liye aksar dhamakon ki zaroorat hoti hai – Bhagat Singh
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USomething similar is happening in my family as well. My relative married a girl from ncr. They met online. Got to know after marriage that the girl has been sleeping around with multiple men (even after marriage). She used to emotionally and mentally abuse my relative and tried to turn the entire family against him before he told us all the reality. They had a kid together during lockdown. Right after the lockdown ended she started living at her parents’ place with the kid and wouldn’t allow my relative to talk/meet the kid and her family started harrassing ours. She then went onto file fake cases on my entire family. Now my family’s stuck in the legal battles. It is so exhausting mentally, emotionally, financially but the laws are biased towards her
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