Title: My friend (24F) spent 1lakh on my credit card and is now unreachable. I’m unemployed and need help getting my money back.

Community Forums Legal Advice India Title: My friend (24F) spent 1lakh on my credit card and is now unreachable. I’m unemployed and need help getting my money back.

Viewing 28 reply threads
  • Author
    Posts
    • #65375 Reply
      User_533e323f
      Participant
        U
        User_533e323f
        PARTICIPANT
        January 27, 2025 at 10:58 am
        I (23M) gave my credit card to a close friend (24F) to use for a while, trusting her. She ended up spending around 97,000 in a single bill cycle, and then another 10,000 in the next. The problem is, she’s now left town without any notice and is not answering my calls or messages.
        I’m currently unemployed, and this amount of money is way beyond what I can afford to pay off. I’m at a loss here and don’t know what to do.
        Has anyone dealt with something like this before? How can I legally get my money back or take action to protect myself? Any advice or suggestions would be greatly helpful please help .

      • #65403 Reply
        Desimaster9408
        Participant
          D
          Desimaster9408
          PARTICIPANT
          January 27, 2025 at 11:03 am
          Just file an FIR and tell your CC company that she stole your CC with all the details while you were unaware of it

          • #65411 Reply
            User_533e323f
            Participant
              U
              User_533e323f
              OP
              January 27, 2025 at 11:18 am
              I was aware of those transactions please suggest some other way

              • #65420 Reply
                User_7562aa5b
                Participant
                  U
                  User_7562aa5b
                  PARTICIPANT
                  January 27, 2025 at 11:20 am
                  Other way ?
                  #
                  If you are aware it’s on you.Because you voluntary shared card details and the card
                  #
                  Your only defense is to tell you did not had the card or authorised those trsanctions

                  • #65426 Reply
                    Desimaster9408
                    Participant
                      D
                      Desimaster9408
                      PARTICIPANT
                      January 27, 2025 at 11:23 am
                      Exactly your best bet is to state you were unaware of those transactions otherwise the bank won’t be taking any responsibility and you would have to pay it in the end

                      • #65430 Reply
                        User_36e20811
                        Participant
                          U
                          User_36e20811
                          PARTICIPANT
                          January 27, 2025 at 11:34 am
                          Unaware won’t work he would have got sms

                          • #65432 Reply
                            Desimaster9408
                            Participant
                              D
                              Desimaster9408
                              PARTICIPANT
                              January 27, 2025 at 11:38 am
                              Did he? Doesn’t seem like he did

                              • #65433 Reply
                                User_36e20811
                                Participant
                                  U
                                  User_36e20811
                                  PARTICIPANT
                                  January 27, 2025 at 11:59 am
                                  In initial post only he mentioned he is aware and bank will say sms sent no fraudulent reported

                                  • #65434 Reply
                                    User_90aa8ea7
                                    Participant
                                      U
                                      User_90aa8ea7
                                      PARTICIPANT
                                      January 27, 2025 at 12:11 pm
                                      And the money was spent in 2 bill cycles. That too will raise doubts over him.

                          • #65419 Reply
                            User_25afc7ab
                            Participant
                              U
                              User_25afc7ab
                              PARTICIPANT
                              January 27, 2025 at 11:20 am
                              You are in a mess but you can go to police if she is unreachable stating she committed fraud. Let her parents pay this off.

                              • #65425 Reply
                                User_533e323f
                                Participant
                                  U
                                  User_533e323f
                                  OP
                                  January 27, 2025 at 11:25 am
                                  Can I still file an fir ?

                                • #65424 Reply
                                  User_be0cb065
                                  Participant
                                    U
                                    User_be0cb065
                                    PARTICIPANT
                                    January 27, 2025 at 12:09 pm
                                    he has given her the OTP. no way that she is going to accept to pay it all back. most likely OP was ok with her spending all this money because OP thought she was his gf.

                                    • #65429 Reply
                                      User_25afc7ab
                                      Participant
                                        U
                                        User_25afc7ab
                                        PARTICIPANT
                                        January 27, 2025 at 9:24 pm
                                        That’s the main issue. But can he not say he loaned that amount?

                                  • #65418 Reply
                                    User_ed0597f7
                                    Participant
                                      U
                                      User_ed0597f7
                                      PARTICIPANT
                                      January 27, 2025 at 12:15 pm
                                      Sell ancestral land or something, since you’re unwilling to do the obvious

                                • #65402 Reply
                                  User_0be9521b
                                  Participant
                                    U
                                    User_0be9521b
                                    PARTICIPANT
                                    January 27, 2025 at 11:04 am
                                    You can try disputing the expense but its unlikely to succeed.

                                    You gave the friend the pin to use the card I assume, so that means you have authorized the transactions.

                                    For now, try converting the balance into an emi. It sucks but at least you’ll be able to manage the expense without getting sacked into the credit card debt trap

                                    • #65410 Reply
                                      User_533e323f
                                      Participant
                                        U
                                        User_533e323f
                                        OP
                                        January 27, 2025 at 11:19 am
                                        Not a pin transctions just tap and pay and some are through otp , please suggest me someother way

                                        • #65417 Reply
                                          User_25afc7ab
                                          Participant
                                            U
                                            User_25afc7ab
                                            PARTICIPANT
                                            January 27, 2025 at 11:21 am
                                            There is no other way. That lady misused you. You can keep a took loan and fled FIR. Do that.

                                      • #65401 Reply
                                        User_f663bfd8
                                        Participant
                                          U
                                          User_f663bfd8
                                          PARTICIPANT
                                          January 27, 2025 at 11:05 am
                                          Bro, please lodge a police complaint first. Is she not answering your call or number is not reachable? Also please make the minimum payment, hope your CC not a charge card.

                                        • #65400 Reply
                                          Braveknight8864
                                          Participant
                                            B
                                            Braveknight8864
                                            PARTICIPANT
                                            January 27, 2025 at 11:08 am
                                            Simply call your bank and immediately tell them that these are all unauthorised transactions and that somebody misused your credit card without your consent. You might need to go as far as report it stolen if you want to have weight in your case, and also, to prevent further misuse.

                                            And needless to say, if you turn around and say things like, β€œI don’t want my friend to get into trouble..” etc., and what not, then you’re better off accepting that you’ve lost that money.

                                            The law can only get you back what was stolen from you. If it is found that you had your consent in any shape way or form, that’ll end up being on you.

                                            Without going into technicalities, It’s not gonna be a fun ride to win a case on the merit of, β€œI did allow her to use it, but not this much”..

                                            • #65409 Reply
                                              User_36e20811
                                              Participant
                                                U
                                                User_36e20811
                                                PARTICIPANT
                                                January 27, 2025 at 11:33 am
                                                Won’t work all transactions he would got sms

                                                • #65416 Reply
                                                  User_96a7aada
                                                  Participant
                                                    U
                                                    User_96a7aada
                                                    PARTICIPANT
                                                    January 27, 2025 at 11:53 am
                                                    can say as a fraud right she got acess to my mobile and used it

                                                    • #65423 Reply
                                                      User_36e20811
                                                      Participant
                                                        U
                                                        User_36e20811
                                                        PARTICIPANT
                                                        January 27, 2025 at 12:00 pm
                                                        Then he will have to produce fir that His phone was lost?

                                                        • #65428 Reply
                                                          User_96a7aada
                                                          Participant
                                                            U
                                                            User_96a7aada
                                                            PARTICIPANT
                                                            January 27, 2025 at 12:05 pm
                                                            ok

                                                      • #65415 Reply
                                                        Braveknight8864
                                                        Participant
                                                          B
                                                          Braveknight8864
                                                          PARTICIPANT
                                                          January 27, 2025 at 5:46 pm
                                                          Credit Card transactions on POS don’t need an OTP, they need a PIN Code.

                                                          • #65422 Reply
                                                            User_36e20811
                                                            Participant
                                                              U
                                                              User_36e20811
                                                              PARTICIPANT
                                                              January 27, 2025 at 6:26 pm
                                                              I’m not talking about otp
                                                              After the transaction he would have got an sms saying that amount etc has been spent on this day

                                                              • #65427 Reply
                                                                Braveknight8864
                                                                Participant
                                                                  B
                                                                  Braveknight8864
                                                                  PARTICIPANT
                                                                  January 27, 2025 at 7:24 pm
                                                                  So? Receiving a notification of transaction is not considered consent given in a court of law. Plus OP had clearly mentioned that these transactions were done not so far apart from each other with the first one itself being more than 90 % of the contested amount. Are you hard of brain cells or something?

                                                                  • #65431 Reply
                                                                    User_36e20811
                                                                    Participant
                                                                      U
                                                                      User_36e20811
                                                                      PARTICIPANT
                                                                      January 27, 2025 at 10:04 pm
                                                                      It’s not consent , but he was informed by the bank by sms , and there is a rule that any fraudulent transaction must be reported by the user within 48 hours ,, he did not
                                                                      He cannot report it after 2 billing cycles

                                                          • #65399 Reply
                                                            User_8060bf64
                                                            Participant
                                                              U
                                                              User_8060bf64
                                                              PARTICIPANT
                                                              January 27, 2025 at 11:12 am
                                                              Credit card stolen
                                                              FIR Complaint
                                                              Raise dispute

                                                              • #65408 Reply
                                                                User_be0cb065
                                                                Participant
                                                                  U
                                                                  User_be0cb065
                                                                  PARTICIPANT
                                                                  January 27, 2025 at 12:07 pm
                                                                  he has given her the OTP for some of the transactions

                                                                  • #65414 Reply
                                                                    User_8060bf64
                                                                    Participant
                                                                      U
                                                                      User_8060bf64
                                                                      PARTICIPANT
                                                                      January 27, 2025 at 12:12 pm
                                                                      cheating.

                                                                      • #65421 Reply
                                                                        Vedanthero261
                                                                        Participant
                                                                          V
                                                                          Vedanthero261
                                                                          PARTICIPANT
                                                                          January 27, 2025 at 1:02 pm
                                                                          Not gonna happen. He gave OTP willingly.

                                                                  • #65398 Reply
                                                                    Cleverneha6648
                                                                    Participant
                                                                      C
                                                                      Cleverneha6648
                                                                      PARTICIPANT
                                                                      January 27, 2025 at 11:15 am
                                                                      Don’t tell the credit card company that you have heard the card. Tell them you lost it and someone used it without your knowledge.

                                                                    • #65397 Reply
                                                                      Brightstar2296
                                                                      Participant
                                                                        B
                                                                        Brightstar2296
                                                                        PARTICIPANT
                                                                        January 27, 2025 at 11:15 am
                                                                        That’s what usually happens when you use an organ different than your brain to think

                                                                        • #65407 Reply
                                                                          User_af98b40c
                                                                          Participant
                                                                            U
                                                                            User_af98b40c
                                                                            PARTICIPANT
                                                                            January 27, 2025 at 11:20 am
                                                                            God damn bro πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

                                                                            • #65413 Reply
                                                                              Desimaster9408
                                                                              Participant
                                                                                D
                                                                                Desimaster9408
                                                                                PARTICIPANT
                                                                                January 27, 2025 at 11:25 am
                                                                                πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

                                                                            • #65406 Reply
                                                                              User_533e323f
                                                                              Participant
                                                                                U
                                                                                User_533e323f
                                                                                OP
                                                                                January 27, 2025 at 11:27 am
                                                                                Not the right time bro , I just trusted her that she is going to pay it back while saying she’ll be getting a huge payment

                                                                                • #65412 Reply
                                                                                  User_be0cb065
                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                    U
                                                                                    User_be0cb065
                                                                                    PARTICIPANT
                                                                                    January 27, 2025 at 12:11 pm
                                                                                    we cant help you unless you tell us the full story.

                                                                                    how do you know this girl? under what circumstances/agreement did you give her the card? Did you two talk about in on chat? Would she have screenshots that you willingly let her use it?

                                                                              • #65396 Reply
                                                                                User_73de8187
                                                                                Participant
                                                                                  U
                                                                                  User_73de8187
                                                                                  PARTICIPANT
                                                                                  January 27, 2025 at 11:22 am
                                                                                  katt gya

                                                                                • #65395 Reply
                                                                                  User_dfad1fd2
                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                    U
                                                                                    User_dfad1fd2
                                                                                    PARTICIPANT
                                                                                    January 27, 2025 at 11:23 am
                                                                                    Chumt ka chakkar, maut se takkar ese hi nahi bolte

                                                                                    • #65405 Reply
                                                                                      User_90aa8ea7
                                                                                      Participant
                                                                                        U
                                                                                        User_90aa8ea7
                                                                                        PARTICIPANT
                                                                                        January 27, 2025 at 12:15 pm
                                                                                        You know there’s a new hindi serial coming on colors channel where a man betrays his wife for another woman and has a kid with her. And then he finds out she is a witch.

                                                                                        Your statement seems like that show writers took it literally πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

                                                                                    • #65394 Reply
                                                                                      Calmamaya5002
                                                                                      Participant
                                                                                        C
                                                                                        Calmamaya5002
                                                                                        PARTICIPANT
                                                                                        January 27, 2025 at 11:25 am
                                                                                        Bhai kaha ke bewkuf ho? Matlab chul machi to ladki ko cc de diya?

                                                                                      • #65393 Reply
                                                                                        Nitinfalcon928
                                                                                        Participant
                                                                                          N
                                                                                          Nitinfalcon928
                                                                                          PARTICIPANT
                                                                                          January 27, 2025 at 11:29 am
                                                                                          Thats what happens when you think with your dick.

                                                                                        • #65392 Reply
                                                                                          User_ec44e66d
                                                                                          Participant
                                                                                            U
                                                                                            User_ec44e66d
                                                                                            PARTICIPANT
                                                                                            January 27, 2025 at 11:31 am
                                                                                            How did u get a card with 1L limit without job??

                                                                                          • #65391 Reply
                                                                                            User_36e20811
                                                                                            Participant
                                                                                              U
                                                                                              User_36e20811
                                                                                              PARTICIPANT
                                                                                              January 27, 2025 at 11:36 am
                                                                                              1-Come clean to your parents
                                                                                              2- approach a police station and see whether they can locate her using the details provided by you
                                                                                              3- work part time Swiggy Zomato or any gig job to pay it off

                                                                                            • #65390 Reply
                                                                                              User_8582e842
                                                                                              Participant
                                                                                                U
                                                                                                User_8582e842
                                                                                                PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                January 27, 2025 at 11:40 am
                                                                                                Never give your credit card to anyone

                                                                                              • #65389 Reply
                                                                                                Swiftpratik8750
                                                                                                Participant
                                                                                                  S
                                                                                                  Swiftpratik8750
                                                                                                  PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                  January 27, 2025 at 11:43 am
                                                                                                  Check with her friends and family.

                                                                                                  Do text her in all sorts of mediums.

                                                                                                  If nothing she replied then
                                                                                                  You have to pay a price for your foolishness and stupidity and learnt a lesson for life. Don’t repeat again.

                                                                                                  I don’t think the police file case in her, instead they can file case on you. If you kabe any known any police or lawyer friends ask them once before filing case.

                                                                                                • #65388 Reply
                                                                                                  Vasudhatiger84
                                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                                    V
                                                                                                    Vasudhatiger84
                                                                                                    PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                    January 27, 2025 at 11:43 am
                                                                                                    Lol
                                                                                                    How can people be so naive or act naive?

                                                                                                  • #65387 Reply
                                                                                                    User_7be5c5e8
                                                                                                    Participant
                                                                                                      U
                                                                                                      User_7be5c5e8
                                                                                                      PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                      January 27, 2025 at 11:55 am
                                                                                                      This is a funny post and the responses are funnier.
                                                                                                      The OP shares his card with complete knowledge that the card is being used by someone who isn’t authorized to use it. So it wasn’t stolen.
                                                                                                      On top he also shares OTP which the bank has created to secure payment transactions.
                                                                                                      And now wants ways to get away from paying the bill.

                                                                                                      Ans everyone else is busy suggesting him ways how he can get away with his wrong doing.

                                                                                                      Had a good laugh 🀣

                                                                                                      • #65404 Reply
                                                                                                        User_be0cb065
                                                                                                        Participant
                                                                                                          U
                                                                                                          User_be0cb065
                                                                                                          PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                          January 28, 2025 at 2:51 pm
                                                                                                          OP probably stopped receiving what he thought he would get in exchange.

                                                                                                      • #65386 Reply
                                                                                                        User_866641ab
                                                                                                        Participant
                                                                                                          U
                                                                                                          User_866641ab
                                                                                                          PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                          January 27, 2025 at 11:58 am
                                                                                                          You have no legal standing here.

                                                                                                          When you give away the credit card issued to you for your use only for someone else’s use, you breach the contract with the bank. The bank is not liable for any losses incurred by this action – meaning you can’t dispute any transactions and are fully liable to pay the outstanding balance.

                                                                                                          Trying to file a fake case of stolen card will only back fire on you. If the transactions involved PIN or OTP use , then it was obviously not stolen. You can’t simply make a cybercrime complaint about phone being hacked and all that nonsense.

                                                                                                          This is the cost of ignorance and careless handling of credit card. You just have to absorb the loses and move on.

                                                                                                        • #65385 Reply
                                                                                                          Fierceishan5182
                                                                                                          Participant
                                                                                                            F
                                                                                                            Fierceishan5182
                                                                                                            PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                            January 27, 2025 at 11:59 am
                                                                                                            1st: Take of her status as your “friend” 😊

                                                                                                          • #65384 Reply
                                                                                                            User_f453e8e4
                                                                                                            Participant
                                                                                                              U
                                                                                                              User_f453e8e4
                                                                                                              PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                              January 27, 2025 at 12:10 pm
                                                                                                              You lots deserve this

                                                                                                            • #65383 Reply
                                                                                                              Jigneshdude346
                                                                                                              Participant
                                                                                                                J
                                                                                                                Jigneshdude346
                                                                                                                PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                January 27, 2025 at 12:10 pm
                                                                                                                If you had used your brain instead of your D while deciding, this shouldn’t have happened.

                                                                                                              • #65382 Reply
                                                                                                                User_34c18eac
                                                                                                                Participant
                                                                                                                  U
                                                                                                                  User_34c18eac
                                                                                                                  PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                  January 27, 2025 at 12:11 pm
                                                                                                                  Who gives Credit card to others? Friend? Its one side love.

                                                                                                                • #65381 Reply
                                                                                                                  User_b38c22f2
                                                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                                                    U
                                                                                                                    User_b38c22f2
                                                                                                                    PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                    January 27, 2025 at 12:12 pm
                                                                                                                    You should go to police station and file FIR. This comes under cheating!

                                                                                                                  • #65380 Reply
                                                                                                                    Rapidthinker7769
                                                                                                                    Participant
                                                                                                                      R
                                                                                                                      Rapidthinker7769
                                                                                                                      PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                      January 27, 2025 at 12:12 pm
                                                                                                                      I’m in need of such a credit card too, OP!

                                                                                                                    • #65379 Reply
                                                                                                                      User_b1fc097a
                                                                                                                      Participant
                                                                                                                        U
                                                                                                                        User_b1fc097a
                                                                                                                        PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                        January 27, 2025 at 12:13 pm
                                                                                                                        Saste mai bach gaya bhai

                                                                                                                      • #65378 Reply
                                                                                                                        User_c023801d
                                                                                                                        Participant
                                                                                                                          U
                                                                                                                          User_c023801d
                                                                                                                          PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                          January 27, 2025 at 12:14 pm
                                                                                                                          Abhi bhi friend likh raha hai. Bhai, she was never your friend.

                                                                                                                        • #65377 Reply
                                                                                                                          Megaprashant4593
                                                                                                                          Participant
                                                                                                                            M
                                                                                                                            Megaprashant4593
                                                                                                                            PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                            January 27, 2025 at 2:26 pm
                                                                                                                            You have learnt a valuable lesson on friends, trust and money.

                                                                                                                            The bank is unlikely to accept that you were unaware of these transactions. The only way forward for you would be to pay the outstanding amount as soon as possible and put this behind you.

                                                                                                                            If your friend has bought anything, you can ask them to hand over those products to you. You maybe able to resell and recover some money. If she doesnt – well then you can file a complaint of theft of property bought with your money.

                                                                                                                            Call your bank and figure out how you can repay without the interest hitting you. You may also need to tap your father for an interest free loan to tide you over.

                                                                                                                          • #65376 Reply
                                                                                                                            Epickanak6741
                                                                                                                            Participant
                                                                                                                              E
                                                                                                                              Epickanak6741
                                                                                                                              PARTICIPANT
                                                                                                                              January 27, 2025 at 2:58 pm
                                                                                                                              File a police complaint that you lost your card when you’re with your friends.

                                                                                                                              You can also tip to the police that last time she was having your card in her hands, and you got a bill of 1 lakh and she is now unreachable.

                                                                                                                              Police will sort out itself

                                                                                                                          Viewing 28 reply threads
                                                                                                                          Reply To: Reply #65386 in Title: My friend (24F) spent 1lakh on my credit card and is now unreachable. I’m unemployed and need help getting my money back.
                                                                                                                          Your information:




                                                                                                                          Cancel