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UI(30M) have a joint locker in sbi with my wife(28F). We kept our combined gold jwellery in the locker. 2 months back, she opened our joint locker and took her gold. She said that she kept my gold(that we gifted her during marriage) in the locker…but she is refusing to hand over the locker key to me. She has been living in her parental home for last 2 months and asking me for divorce(she sent me a legal notice for mutual divorce)
How can I get the key from her? Can I approach the bank and tell them that the key got lost and I need a new key? Can I file a case against her that she is witholding the key and using it as a pressure tactics to get higher settlement amount during divorce? -
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BAround 69 tolas modern women’s jewellery.
And one golden chastity belt that belonged to the daadiji, when daada went to fight the Bangladeshi war of independence. Daadi had a way of getting around and Daada tried to take precautions
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VI didn’t mean to imply that you were poor (apologies if you read it that way) I just wanted to share that it’s a lot of money, and not easy to walk away from such wealth and family heirlooms.
I would love to know about the Gold chastity belt, I have heard of such things, never knew that they existed in real life.
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BDaadi was born in an uber rich family in Kolkata and had a rather liberal approach to sexual preferences. One of her friends from university eventually translated Kamasutra into modern Bengali to give you some perspective about the circles she moved in. Another one of her friends partly sponsored Taslima in exile.
She truly madly deeply loved daadaji and they got married. But daadaji was aware of her past and she never compromised on her liberal views, even if she was fiercely loyal to her husband.
The Bangladeshi war happened in the early years of their marriage and Daadaji was drafted to the frontlines. Before he went, he mentioned his apprehensions about her. She as a joke mentioned getting herself locked up from all human contact but they both knew that was impossible. She then suggested the belt and Daadaji liked that idea. She got it herself and Daada took the keys with him to the war.
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VKudos for sharing, I hope that this dynamic lady is still creating waves.
OP, you come from an illustrious heritage.
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NYou barely knew her,why did you put that much jwellery in a joint locker?.my father and grandfather was a jwellery businessman before my father died.now my mother looks after it.liveing in kolkata.my grandfather gave 5-7 lacs worth of gold to his each daughter in law.and then gift some gold occasionally by my father.that too much gold to give in a one whiff.she is a gold digger (literally).get ready to fight dirty.
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BLawyer here based in Delhi. Your ability to recover the jewelry depends on whether it legally belongs to you. Assuming you and your wife are Hindu, if the gold you are referring to was gifted to her at marriage, then it is considered her Stridhan, and she has full legal rights over it. However, if the jewelry includes items that were jointly purchased, inherited by you, or belonged to your family, then you have a rightful claim over them.
Since it is a joint locker, you have the right to access it. You can inform the bank that the key is lost and request a replacement. If she is wrongfully withholding access to your property, you can send a legal notice demanding access to the locker. If the dispute continues, legal intervention may be necessary.
If you need help assessing your claim or drafting a legal notice, feel free to reach out.
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BThe burden of proof is on the person making the claim. If she claims all the gold was gifted to her as Stridhan, she would need to provide some evidence, such as receipts, wedding photographs, or statements from family members confirming that specific items were gifted to her. If you have proof that certain jewelry was purchased by OP or belonged to OP’s family before marriage, that can support OP’s claim. In case of a dispute, the court will assess available evidence, including financial records and witness testimony.
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UMake application to bank manager to open locker as he has additional key and make recording while opening locker secretly.
Also file application for restitution of conjugal rights in court.-
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UFirst things first:
1. Check with someone related to banking if you could at least check what’s present inside the locker or empty.
2. Regarding family matter like divorce issues, first you should know why she is behaving like that. (For this , there’s no context in your post.
And I repeat no RCR.
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UI will take care of point 1.
regarding point 2…its her mother….she has poisoned her mind to the extent that she is now behaving irrationally…and i have had enough…She resides in delhi and I stay in AP…So she is threatening to put divorce case against me in delhi so that it becomes inconvenient for me to go there….I am tempted about RCR because she has to come to AP to reply to court summons…so it will become inconvenient for her also…and later she may relent and settle amicably.. didnt consult any lawyer though regarding rcr…so not really sure if I want to proceed or not
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UFirst level warning 😡😅 :
Stop thinking about RCR first… (Already explained well).Ok check with a trusted lawyer about making NC entry in your area police station..
Is partner native to AP and Rental in Delhi?
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MIf it’s a joint account, every proceeding is going to require 2 signatures. You alone cannot get a new key, cannot close the locker, cannot change the type of locker, basically cannot do anything alone without 2 signatures.
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WOr for that matter joint bank accounts, fixed deposits or anything else joint unless you are not going to be fazed by losing it.
Don’t buy into the bullshit that marriage or any other relationship is forever.
No relationship is permanent. Not marriage, not friendship and not even the relationships with your parents, siblings are children.
Any relationship can turn toxic and become intolerable. Secure your finances and never be at another persons mercy.
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PIf she is asking for Mutual Divorce, ask her to return the key or to go to the bank locker along with you to remove the items and then only you will sign the joint petition for Mutual Consent Divorce. In case of Mutual Divorce, both have to agree with the terms and conditions of separation. [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/)
If she is asking for Mutual Consent Divorce, it is an easy way out. So, you may have to go little cautiously without letting the situation to get escalated. Coax her to come to the bank locker rather fighting with her.
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**Disclaimer:** In the absence of all the facts of the case, the comments given may not be the best solution for your case. One on one consultation with a legal counsel/ advocate is advised to get better guidance.
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CI think she took all the gold and the locker is empty!
This is why she does not want to give you the key -
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Uthat i know…but there is no official documentation to show that I have gifted the jwellery to her. So I will pressurise her to give up the jwellery…only then will I agree for mutual…otherwise I will threaten her with contested dv….That is the only way i see right now
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UThis comment may look out of context,.. but somewhere the biased laws have made women not to respect men even if he is well mannered !! … which counter activates the feeling of not needing a joint account at all…
correct me if I’m wrong ..
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CBanker- not a lawyer, as you have a joint account bank cannot do anything without keys, even if you get divorced you will need a consent letter from her to get the locker opened or that key.
As far as law goes even if you take out the jewellery then also the chances of you keeping those is hair thin. As you have “gifted” her it’s hers now
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