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BFirst of all I’m not biased towards my friend. He has struggled very much through his life. He lost his father at young age and took responsibility of whole family his mother and sister. Yes he is an alcoholic but I have never seen him say or do anything bad to anyone. He treats everyone with respect. He’s now addicted to that alcohol he tried many times to quit drinking. But at home his wife everyday verbally abuses him and mainly his mother. And not normal abuse it’s very vulgar. One example is she told his mom is having affair with other people. Which son would be silent if someone tell this to his mother. He endure these things everyday.
As for wife she won’t spend a single penny on house expenses except for the children’s school fees. All house expenses including loan are managed by him. He earns fairly good to manage the house expenses. He takes care children bathing dressing them do some house chores. I’m not saying husband shouldn’t do chores. But she never do this in their home. His mom or him have to do everything. She only does chores and cooking when there are guests. Other time she only watch mobile and do study of children. Cause she is an educated graduate and my friend is ITI pass.
Now tell me whom should I support here. I don’t have any ill feelings towards his wife. All I wish is him to happy with his wife and children. But his wife is main problem here in my opinion. She is the kind of women who is very suspicious of her husband activity. She used to check his phone calls, photos, even track his location.
If you still think I’m biased towards my friend then I can’t say anything.
BMy opinion is not only based on the above scenarios. There are many scenarios that prove this. I can’t mention those. As for hitting kids that kid was in 1st or 2nd standard. She used to hit him for not writing neatly and scolding him if you do like this every other kids will get passed and you will fail, all your friends gonna leave you and you will be alone. Who tell these things to 6-7 years kids? How he will understand this.BHi, thank you for reply.I agree. my friend also has little fault here. Childrens have more bonding with their father than their mother. He also care for them very much. He never caused inconvenience to his family while he was drunk.
I’m not trying to defend my friend but without his childrens with him he might go much more depression.
BThank you for reply.I know I can’t force him for divorce. My main concern is if this continues he might die by drinking or by suicide. If that happens his wife will take childrens with her and live separately. His mother will be left alone. And as far as I know she is not a good mother. I have seen her hit them for not doing homework. Three Childrens age are 11, 9, 5 years.
BShe is very Smart. She abuses them only when those 3 present. If we or outside people come to their house she acts like an ideal housewife. So we can’t record her. There were sometimes she got angry at my friend in front of us but not too much.And I told my friend to record her abuses. I don’t know why he said that’s not possible. And she is smart enough to put a share location on my friend’s mobile without him knowing to track him.
