Do you want a divorce? Is this a Knee jerk reaction because you are hurt or this is something thatโs non negotiable with you?
Have you had a past of affection with anyone else? (At times dirt too comes out when you dig)
Will forgiving be possible? You find space that trust can be built again?
Now legal it is not that laws are tilted towards women but see it from logic if she is earning lesser than you ( which usually happens because of family responsibilities and care etc etc, they Theโs to take career slow than a male spouse. not sure of thatโs your case or not. But law only says equal lifestyle as that of spouse. So you get to be logical here too
Confront only when you know you can maintain your calm and stay determined to your decision.