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DNot sure you need to get married.
I don’t agree that you have ‘trust issues’ because it is OK not to trust most people anyway.
I just believe that you have not found anyone you love and trust, and so, until you do, don’t marry just for the sake of getting married.
If you have trouble getting laid, go to a country where s*x work is legal, and get laid. Even that is preferable to having a weird, calculating ‘marriage’.
If you want to get married just to ‘appear’ stable or ‘settled’, change your mind, because no one gives a f*ck.
Be comfortable with yourself, and marry only if you think you cannot live without the other person.
And it is just insane to spend 30-40 lakhs (a large percentage of your savings) on your marriage. Even an FD would yield 18-24k per month from that, which is enough for food and travel expenditure for most people.
But… It’s your life, and your call.
DCan I be your neighbour and keep my pet tiger in the adjacent parking spot?I too do not own a car, but as a nationalistic person, I want to keep my pet tiger in my parking spot… Right next to yours.
DI wanted you to ask yourself these questions and take stock of yourself.…
I myself am staunchly against marriage (since I was like 10-12 years old), but I have seen divorce and separation take a toll on my friends.
They become a shell of their former selves.
I have suffered through break-ups/ treacherous acts as well. And found them hard to deal with at that time.
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It is important to put yourself first, and generally have GFY attitude towards societal norms and expectations.
It will take time, for you to come out of this. But don’t let your self esteem down.
Take care.
And seek help if you think it would be useful for you.
DHow is your life going?Have you dated anyone else in these last two years?
How has your work performance been, after 2023?
Have you started drinking/smoking more than usual?
Have you put on weight?
Had stomach/digestive problems due to stress?
Has this affected your view on women? Have you become misogynistic?
While I understand this is a legal sub, and most are focussed on talking about actions against the wife and/or to get out of the marriage, it is important to also understand the physical and mental health of men who get cheated on/ defrauded.
Yes, it is a horrible thing to go through. But it is also important to compartmentalise, and ensure we don’t lose more of our time/life due to no fault of our own.
Easier said that done, though.
