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MThat’s very stupid of them, and you not going actually seems like you’re guilty of something. Go directly with a lawyer and get all the info. You can’t trust secondhand info from your family as they may not know the difference between actual chargesheet and cops randomly bullying.MWrong subreddit. Affairs are not illegal. There’s no legal advice to be given here. Also consider that the other woman might face domestic violence as a result of her husband finding out.
Crazy that the focus is on protecting your friend’s father and mother alike, and just assuming that the problem will be solved by getting rid of the other person. Your friend’s father is either not interested in being faithful to his wife or is in love with the other woman. So either he will find someone else to cheat with or he may defend the woman he loves. Either way it won’t go how you expect it to, so the best thing is to not get involved.
MYeah dont pay her. Adjust all unpaid amounts against deposit coz she’s not going to give that money back. I would say don’t pay the last 2 months rent, and just leave. Keep the key with a neighbour if you fear a confrontationMHer age is a factor but so is the age of your maternal grandparents whom she is also abusing.
So from a legal perspective, it is possible to emphasize that if you wanna go legally. You can also ask people like police to come and talk to her and tell her your grandparents are off limits, she shouldn’t behave like this, etc. Not sure if it will work but can try.From a non legal (psychological) perspective, it’s possible that age and dependency are scary to her and as she’s always been an aggressive person, she’s doubling down on that behaviour now. She may feel that by behaving badly, no one will notice her vulnerability and therefore will not try to take advantage of her now that she’s old.
So you could
1. try bringing in a therapist or counsellor to talk to her and reassure her in a family setting, that no one is going to exploit her vulnerability or abandon her.2. In addition to point 1, or even without it, stop taking her words seriously. You all will have to do this, including your maternal grandparents – basically to just understand that she’s old and twisted and she’s saying horrible things coz she’s scared and coping badly.
3. Stop engaging with her when she’s misbehaving. Ignore her and everyone do their own work and talk to each other, but not her.
4. Talk to her when she isn’t misbehaving and set up a daily activity to do with her which she may look forward to. It could be religious, if she’s into that, some tv / serial, reading some newspaper or magazine to her, etc. If she misbehaves during that, calmly say, okay let’s continue tomorrow and go back to not engaging.
This is just off the top of my head. I think speaking to a counsellor who has experience with old people may give you more ideas on how to maintain and enforce boundaries while improving her mental health as well.
MYes. The longer it takes, the more difficult it will be to prove lack of consummation, or that she is essentially checked out of the marriage.MIt would be based on the testimony in court – oral and documentary evidence. Or the testimony of others like family members. Any evidence like WhatsApp chats, recorded conversations etc will help, and a good lawyer will be able to show that she’s lying.Unfortunately it would depend on situation to situation, so you’d have to contact a lawyer and explain everything to find the minute areas where lack of intimate knowledge of each other can be shown. And definitely any and all written evidence like chats or emails.
MIf the marriage is not consummated, he can file for annulment. There’s no point trying to make her change her behaviour – what’s the goal? Force her to talk to him? Force her to sleep with him?She doesn’t want it, so leave it. Annulment means there was no marriage, so you don’t have to overthink about alimony or maintenance or divorce. But he has to go against his family if need be to get the annulment. What’s this behaviour of sitting and being miserable? Wife doesn’t want to be married? Ok don’t be married. Take the annulment and let her go do whatever she wants.
And he should move quickly, people will question further if he delays it and then asks for annulment. One month is perfect time – do it now.
MWhat has helped in my experience is for the dog to get treated, and for that other feeders may also need to cooperate, or a rescue, or you can post online and ask experienced dog lovers and handlers to help.
I know of at least one such case where the stray dog was put on anti anxiety meds and stopped biting.MThe fear of your parents stopping studies is valid. But your life is at risk. So be ready to fight everyone and expose everyone including parents and get outside support. You have only one lifeMIn addition to complaint, please speak as publicly about it as possible. Let it somehow reach people outside the circle where his influence is. Your fears are valid and yes he is definitely trying to harm you/ rape you. And once you make it public he will retaliate. So it has to be public in such a way that he has to be overwhelmed by forces stronger than him, and stronger than the people in your college who are helping him or not standing up for you.Ideally I think all their names and faces should be popularized. And trust no one – not your roommates, or any friend from that college, where he has influence. Don’t inform of your plans beforehand.
Inform police also that you’ve written all the proof and kept it online and if anything happens to you then all their names will be there.
MNo you wouldn’t be in trouble. Abetment means actively helping someone to commit a crime, not hearing about it. And with respect to drugs cops are only concerned about catching the users and then putting pressure on them to reveal their dealers. So you are not part of any of that situation as shown by the chats, so you won’t be troubled for it.MThey may or may not. Police are very inefficient for the most part and don’t want to do extra work. If you stop communicating with him, then you won’t be considered a recent contact and likely to get ignored. But either way, they definitely cannot take any action against you. Anything they ask will just be to get information about the person and the case. Nothing to worry about, just block
