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PDon’t lose his trust. Don’t betray him. Give an anonymous call to Child Helpline Number 1098, Ask some male person to call. Web a story around it showing that a neighbor who had witnessed the punishment is asking for intervention. Take details of the punishment such as dates/ time, kind of punishment, words used, etc. I know this sound like fairy tale.. at least try doing soPHis parents need help. Make the school counsellor speak to the parents. Let the counsellor speak to them or suggest some therapy. They need to be questioned – why they didn’t get 100% in their board exams? Why they are not earning as mush as Ambani’s earn? Why they aren’t popular as any cricketer is? Or some other reality checks. OR suggest them parenting course. They have a wonderful child and they are destroying him and their relationship with him is already damaged. they have to understand that children need to respect them which will make them do things for them. If they put fear, he will only do things temporarily. If they die tomorrow, he will not be able to do anything in his life, because there will not be anyone who punishes him to do things. This need to be communicated to them through therapy.
Alternatively – there is child helpline 1098 – you can complain to them and request not to reveal your identity. They can arrange for counselling help.
As a Teacher – You are doing a wonderful job. You continue to assure him that he is fine and it is ok to be imperfect (for not getting 100%) sometimes. Glad that he has a teacher like you, at least someone who he can turn to. Please keep in touch with him even when the grades change or school changes for either of you. Continue to be that SAFE PERSON for him. Much Gratitude!
P1. Is she living with you? Or she is in India and you are abroad? If you’ve failed at all the reconciliation efforts, there could be reasons that she has, which made her come to this decision. You could ask her for a heart to heart chat or a counsellor’s help, if you feel you want the marriage to work.2. If you want to go ahead with the divorce, mutual consent divorce is least stressful and faster in terms of time. But before you file, discuss on all the settlements that have to take place. [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/) Do you have any proof to show that you & your family has given valuable gifts to her? Talk to her about returning the gifts given to her, if she’s not willing to you may have to have the elders of both the families to have a discussion.
3. even after the discussions, she is not willing to return the gifts or her demands in terms of alimony/ maintenance in unreasonable either you can ask her to get back to you by filing the Restitution of Conjugal Rights [https://divorcebylaw.com/restitution-of-conjugal-rights/](https://divorcebylaw.com/restitution-of-conjugal-rights/)
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P1. Do you have any address proof in Bangalore? Have you resided in Bangalore along with your wife (last resided together as husband & wife)? If so, you can file a contested divorce case in Bangalore. There is a chance that she may ask for transfer of the case to wherever she is residing. Analyze the chance and go ahead.2. the contested divorce can be on the grounds of adultery and cruelty. Use all the proofs that you have collected in the evidence stage. [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
3. There is no need to worry that your case will go on for 6-7 years. Yes, some cases do go through for a long period to settle. The reasons being the parties not budging or not ready for settlement or because of their ego/ status getting hurt. But when you have an efficient lawyer representing you, who is assertive and persuasive can control the mediation and discussions in a more effective manner. If the case goes on for 6-7 years both of you would be at loss of time and energy along with the money. This has to be communicated to your wife. Keep the families at bay. Request during mediation that you will speak only to your wife and not her entire clan, you also don’t let your family interfere. Come to a settlement in 2-3 sittings.
4. Don’t put too many negative thoughts into your head. Be assertive and think positively. You standing firm and participating in the proceedings actively helps to sort out the issues faster. Afterall whatever you ask for with all your heart will be heard by the universe, and it gives the same.
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P1. For some “once a cheater, always a cheater” saying sits well. Looks like your husband is in that category. I understand that mental torture that he has put you through. Collect some evidence of his adulterous life. Consult a lawyer who deals with Divorce cases. File for a contested divorce on the grounds of Adultery and Cruelty. Read through this to understand the procedure [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)2. The joint property has more of your contribution (your + your father’s), you can ask him to leave it to you. In one of the prayers at the end of your petition, ask him to transfer the 50% of his rights to you. It can be made through a registered release deed before the divorce gets finalized.
3. Regarding Alimony, you take a call whether you need any financial support from him, if he leaves the house for you. If he doesn’t agree transfer the house to your name, then ask for the alimony to compensate all that your father and you have put in the property with interest. [https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/](https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/)
4. If you want to go little softer on him, after collecting and keeping the evidence safe, confront him and ask him to agree for the mutual consent divorce. [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/) In this case also make sure the house comes to you.
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P1. I feel you’ve had enough. It’s time to enjoy your life rather supporting an ungrateful person. You are not going to lose anything. He is dependent on you and he is taking advantage of your kindness. File for a divorce on the grounds of Adultery with whatever proof you have and cruelty owing to the emotional and mental cruelty that have been through. Read more about the procedure here [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)2. You are independent, working woman who can afford a quality life. Make sure all your assets are safeguarded so that you have enough for your sustenance post divorce and post retirement. [https://divorcebylaw.com/how-to-protect-your-business-during-divorce/](https://divorcebylaw.com/how-to-protect-your-business-during-divorce/)
3. You can still continue your relationship with the Mother-In-Law if you do not want to let go. It is absolutely fine and there are people who have done that before. It’s good that your children would support you on this. You could be going through this dilemma whether to continue with the marriage ignoring all that he’s doing or to get divorced so as to move on. Your husband is expecting you to do the former, because he benefits out of it. But if do the latter, you will definitely feel liberated, you will find a new zeal and definitely a new meaning to your life. There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty about it. There is no fault on you, you are not abandoning him. It was his choice to cheat on you, hence the fault is with him.
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P1. He can file a divorce case in India, sending a notice to her to participate in the divorce proceedings in India. If she claims that she has already filed a divorce case in New Zealand, he can submit that he cannot proceed with that as he cannot travel unless and until she takes care of the travel expenses. He can also take the cover under jurisdiction, because the marriage took place in India and they last resided as husband & wife in India, the child was born and was living in India until she took the child away from him. He can also state that the divorce proceeding that is taking place in NZL is not letting him participate and his interests are not taken care of. [https://divorcebylaw.com/how-to-file-for-divorce-in-india-with-spouse-abroad/](https://divorcebylaw.com/how-to-file-for-divorce-in-india-with-spouse-abroad/)2. For details on the procedure read through this [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
3. Similarly child custody case can be filed by the husband from wherever the child last resided in India with the father. [https://divorcebylaw.com/child-custody-for-fathers-and-mothers-in-india/](https://divorcebylaw.com/child-custody-for-fathers-and-mothers-in-india/)
4. If she has already married and he has or can collect some proof with that effect in terms of photographs, messages from social media or through any other authentic source, he can also file a criminal case on her.
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P[https://www.reddit.com/r/DivorceBangalore/comments/1j6bnx9/silent_no_more_your_survival_guide_this_womens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/DivorceBangalore/comments/1j6bnx9/silent_no_more_your_survival_guide_this_womens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)P1. Wife can file a case on Domestic Violence against him seeking remedies such as Protection, Shelter, Maintenance, Counseling [https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/](https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/)2. They can keep the recordings of his acts and produce them before the court.
3. Wife can file a divorce case on the ground of cruelty, it will be a contested case [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
Hire a lawyer who is efficient and has experience in the field of Family Law.
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P1. Coax her to get a medical examination done without showing your negative emotions. You will have medical report as a strong proof to prove your claims. Keep all the recordings and messages safe.2. You can ask her if she wants to end the marriage, if she says yes, go ahead with the Mutual Consent Divorce which is beneficial for both of you. [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/) This communication has to be done very carefully. If you have a common friend with whom she is comfortable can be requested to check her opinion about working on the marriage or ending the marriage or what is her plan.
3. If she isn’t willing to end the marriage and also not willing to treat herself to work on making the marriage to work, then file for a Contested Divorce on the grounds of cruelty. [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
4. Paying alimony and/or maintenance is part of any divorce proceeding. This depends on the parties, if your wife is not willing to take any money from you may not have to pay anything. If she makes an application for maintenance or alimony, you also have your rights to show evidence and argue on your capabilities and non-capabilities to do so. Only thing is that you need to hire an efficient and experienced lawyer who exclusively practices family law. [https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/](https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/)
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P1. The ground of “Irretrievable Breakdown” of marriage is not mentioned as a ground for divorce in the Hindu Marriage Act. However there are precedents where Supreme Court has allowed this to be a ground to seek remedy in Divorce. But otherwise the actions of your SIL do amount to mental cruelty. Learn more about the grounds for divorce here [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)2. It is easier and faster to get divorce through Mutual Consent, only if your SIL is willing to do so. Read more here [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/)
3. Before going to the divorce talks, let them see if they can reconcile without the parents from both the ends interfering. They can also go for pre-litigation mediation, in the mediation center attached to the family court/ district court of the area.
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P1. Whatever papers your mother signed, is invalid in law means to say it cannot be produced in any court as an evidence for her submission to his atrocities. It is an void agreement made by him, which she signed in duress. Don’t bother about that paper.2. Your mother can file a domestic violence case seeking various remedies. Having a paramour itself is a kind of domestic violence. Read through this to get more knowledge on this [https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/](https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/)
3. You do not get involved in his business, if you don’t want to. If he insists, ask him to make you a partner where you will also be getting your share in the revenue. You can contact a CA to do this change in the business documents. Even if you do not want to be his partner, ask for remuneration for any work that he is asking you to do.
4. Concentrate on your career path and set some goals for yourself. Don’t let these things affect your life. Seek counsellor’s help to cope with the situation. Help your mother to fight the case, but don’t let it take away your peace.
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PPursue the maintenance case, even if refuses to receive the summons, the case will be proceeded and an exparte order can be obtained. Even if your father has withdrawn the divorce case, your mother can seek maintenance as he is ought to maintain her. In the maintenance case, your mother can show the bank statement as the proof that the money deposited is being utilized for repayment of loan and hence there is no money given for sustenance.Check if your father has married the other woman, without divorcing the first wife. If so, it amounts to bigamy. Your mother can file a case for this.
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PIf both of you are mutually getting divorced where both are involved in the process, then it is allowed in India. But only if one of you is getting a divorce against the other without her/his involvement in the proceedings, then it will not be considered by the Indian courts. In some of the countries they do have one-sided divorce or ex parte orders given.For further guidance and clarification feel free to contact us [https://g.co/kgs/t2RUJXC](https://g.co/kgs/t2RUJXC)
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