Hey, first of all, I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. What you’re experiencing is not okay, not normal, and absolutely not your fault. You’re right to feel weirded out and unsafe. That guyโs behavior? Straight-up creepy and inappropriate.
Start documenting everything, dates, times, exact words, and witnesses, on your personal device. Limit interactions with this man, avoid being alone with him, and subtly test the waters to find a trustworthy ally. If things escalate, consider raising concerns with HR or requesting a transfer under neutral reasons. You donโt have to go straight to a formal POSH complaint, but protecting yourself smartly (not silently) is key. Youโre not powerless and youโre not alone!