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UThere’s nothing that you can do. Chances are your father already knows.
Don’t tell about this to anyone. You will complicate matters by involving yourself into a murky situation which is something your parents should resolve themselves.
Focus on yourself, have a great bond with your sister, study, get a job, become financially independent, make sure your sister is also financially independent, get yourself and your sister married and only then think whether you want to bring this to your father’s attention.
It’s a long wait but sadly this is only the practical way.Remember,
The fights aren’t cropping up suddenly.
The fights were always happening.
It’s just that you have become mature enough to see through this.
You can’t fix your parents marriage but you can fix your life.UThis reply needs to be pinned and upvoted as it’s the only practical advice OP can follow.OP has already mentioned about her being narcissistic. Chances are OP’s father already knows about this and after exposing this OP will still have to deal and live under the same roof with her mother.
Just want to add one point for OP, elaborating on this practical comment
It’s heartbreaking to read about this but please don’t take any decision based on right or wrong. Sometimes, you need to take a decision which is practical and take an action at the appropriate moment. Now is not the right time for you to interfere in your parents marriage which is a goner. Please focus on your studies and try to be financially independent. Have a good bond with your younger sister and encourage her also to be financially independent.
You may think now is the right time to expose your mother but please remember it’s not a practical thing to do now as you will still be living under the same roof with your mother. Narcissists can go to any extent, she can poison your relation with your sister too, make you as the person who has wronged her by saying stuff like this generation doesn’t respect parents and has crossed all limits by suspecting parents. This will add too much drama into your life. Falling into legal cases is excruciating and exhausting. It’s not that easy as other comments have made it seem. Exposing your mother will make your future difficult especially when you are still dependant for your studies.
While you may have the urge to resolve this and do the right thing now but please remember you and your sister are still not financially independent and have a whole lot of life ahead of you. Please don’t involve in your parents mucky affairs, stay away from it and focus on yourself.Chances are your father already knows and this would have been happening since long before. That’s why the fights. These fights haven’t suddenly cropped up, they were already happening. It’s just that you have now become mature enough to see through it.
