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1. Ask all relatives to chip in and fund her stay at a retirement home.
2. Make an arrangement where she rotates between your house & other relatives house
3. Tell your other grandparents to freely abuse her back when she provokes. One or two days of this treatment & she will learn not to do this.
4. Absolutely run away from this. Don’t take your mental health for granted.UIt’s more like you are the one making a big deal of it.
He made a mistake, he was asked to write an apology.
Why shouldn’t he face consequences for his actions?If someone accidentally runs a red light at a signal and gets a fine, will you blame the policeman for spoiling his driving coindence?
UWhy is this even in the legal advice sub??FYR even if this was 2 women or 2 men, this is the exact procedure to be followed. Because yes, even people of the same gender would take offence to being given the middle finger at work.
Work environments have a requirement for being professional.
Anyone who genuinely makes a mistake would write an apology letter and let it go.The fact that you and your friend are making a big drama about this seems to indicate that you have issues with women in general.
Perhaps you and your friend should learn to watch what you type & say at work, like the rest of us.
UNAL.
But seeing the comments here i felt the need to write this:BPD is the most misunderstood, most stigmatized condition, especially in india.
Most therapists will diagnose women with BPD ( unfixable, crazy) and men with the same issues with CPTSD ( more socially acceptable term).But BPD actually is a very treatable condition that gets better with the access to the right meds AND therapy. You can look up stats on this. Don’t believe the morons who say it “never gets better”. It really depends on the person, their therapist and the amount of support they have.
But there are hard facts:
1. If you don’t want to support someone through this it’s your choice.
2. Support involves a lot of work. Setting boundaries to protect yourself and her. You will need to get a therapist to intervene and also an extended support system.
3. Be aware that ANYONE can develop mental health issues due to life circumstances( including you). Treat people the way you would like to be treated.
Consider options like not being in a relationship, but just staying friends IF you care about the person.
Or just calling her family/ support system and informing them that she is in a critical space & needs support apart from you.My point being, there are ways for you to safeguard your mental health without completely abandoning her.
4. At the same time, see how she reacts to you saying that you need space.
Not all people with BPD are nuts…they will listen to reason. You need to be firm that she needs to take responsibility for her treatment. If you are worried about things going south, get more people involved and stage an intervention.
