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February 18, 2025 at 8:32 am

Don’t fall for such emotional manipulation. BPD by itself can be managed by medications and people can lead a quality life. Probably he has other ailments if he needs around the clock care from family. Get them to get him diagnosed properly, ask them to treat him. He is not your responsibility. Caring for another person is draining even if it’s your own child or parents. So say no, and be ready to bear the consequences. Still you will have a much better life compared to one based on servitude and caring for your bil. 

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February 18, 2025 at 8:10 am

Say no, it’s not your responsibility to take care of your bil. Be ready to be called as evil and heartless etc but it’ll release you from the burden of caregiving for life. The wife of my uncle-in-law did this, and refused to take care of my MIL’s sister, who was mentally and physically challenged. She is villified for this decision and even now doesn’t have a good relationship with the family, however imo, she escaped an even worser life. My MIL’s sister was moved to a carehome after her parents’ death, and the siblings let go of their inheritance and gave all the money and pension from the parents to her care. It worked out quite well. 

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