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UNAL: A similar situation happened to me. From a contractual perspective, it appears that you have officially resigned, and the company has made an exception by reducing the separation period from two months to two weeks.
If you believe that you have been unfairly placed on a PIP and are confident in securing a new job quickly through your networks and contacts, opting for termination MAY be a better choice. This would ensure you receive the two months’ salary and would also require the company to invest more time in processing the necessary paperwork which is a headache. However, the company may attempt to withhold your experience letter or salary slips or can defame you indirectly incase someone calls to check your employment proof. That said, this is not necessarily a major concern, as future employers can verify your employment through PF records and bank statements and usually if you have some rapport with the interviewing person/new Companies HR this can be easily navigated.
Ultimately, the decision depends on whether you prioritize financial compensation or securing the so called “official experience” certificate (imho another shitty red tape gatekeeping that these HR folks have always done, almost makes it seem like any company is above all unethical practices and shitty people and if there is a bad certificate its always on the employee and not the employer XD ). I would always recommend that before making any moves, you first ensure that you have collected all relevant documents, past pay slips, and any testimonials from your manager, colleagues, or clients via email, and have them printed them for your records (if possible on official stationery).
Hope this helps, and best of luck with your decision!
UI completely understand and empathize with your situation. I, too, wish the world were a more equitable place, but unfortunately, it often isn’t. Many systems and corporations can be quite unfair and often times “dim-witted” people have a lot of disproportionate power at the wrong times. I believe yours too is a case where some idiots in the company without empathy and basic life values are running organizations.Let me tell you about my story: in my previous company I worked in sales, when I was diagnosed with a head n neck tumor and eye complications, I had to balance work with numerous medical tests and treatments. However i had to get a surgery and, when I disclosed my condition to my manager, I was placed on a Performance Improvement Plan. From his perspective, he needed to demonstrate action to management for failing sales numbers and not meeting board expectations, and unfortunately for me, I became the scapegoat as i was the easiest target— I painted myself as some one who needed help and shouldnt be distrubed etc because of these conditions and guess what…despite him knowing about my medical condition and the fact that I had no health insurance outside of work he put my name forward for PIP and all that. Eventually, I was forced to resign and had to push my surgery to a point where I started a new job and proved loyalty to my new boss who gave me time off after a couple of months.
At the time, I felt humiliated and broken, and I couldn’t help but wish that those responsible, including my manager, would experience the same struggles and in a way would suffer. But over time, I came to realize that dwelling on the unfairness of it all was only holding me back. Life can be incredibly unjust and it needs to be accepted wholeheartedly. I often found myself wondering why I didn’t deserve “fruits” of life like some of my peers and friends got from their careers and life.
But in the end, I learned that moving forward was the best thing I could do for myself.
I understand that your baby is just six months old, and this is a particularly vulnerable time for you. However, the more you emphasize your situation as a young mother with a small baby, the more they may try to take advantage of it, using it as a way to undermine and discourage you. Instead, try to view them as nothing more than a childhood bully—someone who thrives on eliciting a reaction but ultimately doesn’t deserve your emotional energy. Approach the situation as objectively and unemotionally as possible, treating them as just another obstacle to navigate.
Wishing you strength and success in your fight—I truly hope you come out on top.
UWhat you went through is not right and if you are in the right, the law will take your side. This “phenomena” in other countries is called “Constructive dismissal” (may not be applicable in India). Please message LLA (Labour Law advisors) on YT. They may be of help or you can ask them for references.I am not a lawyer.
UI can totally understand your situation. Nothing will happen if you distance yourself from your parents, in reality it will 2-3 months of irritating phone calls and maybe a “surprise visit” but nothing will happen in the long term.(>2 yrs) and likely your parents will adjust.To prepare mentally for this be very tough and headstrong about your decisions and act like you know what you are doing (even if you arent sure of it yourself). This posturing is really really important to prevent escalation to police and most times some relatives will also take your side if they see you determined. Dont justify actions and try not to let emotions run into your arguments incase your parents and relatives know how to piss you off and put you down. Nothing will come out of arguments where you are trying to justify your case.. in reality such parents have a “greater than thou/knowitall protective” attitude and you will just fuel it by giving them clarifications and justifications about your dreams and desires. Rather just put on a brave face (even when you are shivering inside) and move forward, taking action on everything and not asking for permission.
I will not comment on what others have already said. Wanted to add to the following based on experience (im not a lawyer nor a medical practioner):
1. Ensure it is your phone number which is aligned to your aadhar/Pan/bank/digilocker etc. You dont want OTPs going to your parents phone… do this before leaving the house and when you have access. If you need to change address, use a rental agreement once you shift or ask a friend who owns a house to give you a rental agreement and get the address changed ASAP. When you join the company, ensure any communication (like payslips, salary account debit card etc) to be sent to the changed address only.
2. Buy a basic Medical Insurance (outside of work) as soon as possible and term insurance (job loss rider, crictical illness rider etc) once you start working. This will help you as you are young (so its cheap), will make you independent and reduce worry. You can research reddit/youtube/LLA/Beshak etc and pick something that works for you. Dont delay this and the point is to pick something, not the best thing.
3. If you really want to bullet proof yourself, speak to a licensed psychologist and document your visits/meetings (by keeping receipts, sending emails). Use this documentation when required to tell the police/relatives to F Off incase they put pressure, saying that you are mentally traumatized by your parents and require space apart. If you can build a rapport with the psychologist/counsellor you can ask them to intervene when required, but do this once you build trust.Hope this is helpful. Mysore and surrounding areas are beautiful, while 22K will help you float, you need to use your experience to leapfrog to better paying jobs and companies. Hope you fight well and you win your fights.
